https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 11:45:50 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-179003 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 09:01:59 +0000 Rubies 179003@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: My coworker (father of two) told me that the first three months is spent trying to keep the baby alive at the expense of your sanity. After that, it's smooth(er) sailing. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178993 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 08:52:18 +0000 rachiecakes 178993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>wow, I totally remember this! and it wasn't even that long ago..<br /> for me, once I figured out how to get out the door and do "me" things with the baby, I started to feel normal. when I could get back to the outside world with DS, run errands, visit friends, etc., I started to feel like I was a part of the population again.<br /> but to be honest, my household still isn't the same 6 months out. I feel like I'm always behind on the cleaning/dishes/laundry schedule.. oh well.. someday that will get back to normal, right? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178991 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 08:50:45 +0000 heffalump 178991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom kept telling me at 3 months it gets easier. She was so right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178983 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 08:46:17 +0000 Rubies 178983@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For me, it was when LO was 5 months. At 5 months, I really started to feel half normal again - at this point, LO had been taking her naps at regular times, we were on a good breastfeeding schedule, and she was starting to sit up on her own and learning to play with her toys for long stretches of time. Anything before 5 months, I was a wreck.</p> <p>No matter what, though, IT GETS BETTER. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178952 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 08:27:47 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 178952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the first time I would say at about 3-4 months.<br /> Hoping this time around it will be sooner. Baby 2 is only 3 weeks old. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178940 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 08:12:42 +0000 mrs. wagon 178940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every time we got into a groove, something changed and threw me off again. I think that was the hardest part about becoming a mom for me. I love stability and routine, and a baby was the one thing in my life that came along that I couldn't control. After a few major changes though (and after he started sleeping thru the night) I got used to the transitions and now this crazy just seems like normal :) And trust me, if I can get used to it, anyone can!! Hang in there... things get better and you will soon have regular downtime to look forward to every day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178927 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 07:48:50 +0000 mamimami 178927@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't really remember (that's how much of a blur it was!) but I would say 6 months and thereafter, when the baby starts to eat solids and you cut down nursing a bit, was a good time. Thought I did return to work at 2 months so I guess I felt pretty normal by then! Had to get it together, no choice.... But I think that structure really helped me, and life was much LESS frustrating when I had some time "to myself" every day (even at work!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178861 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 01:02:07 +0000 lemondrop 178861@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took me 2 months to be able to consider any commitments on a regular basis (we started swim lessons that week). I still felt very scrambled and chaotic until about 10 weeks. </p> <p>The good news is that somewhere along the way things started feeling normal, I just don't remember the exact time- I just couldn't remember life without him very clearly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178858 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 00:21:16 +0000 Mrs. Pen 178858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I totally remember feeling that way. Not only was I still recovering physically, but trying to handle a baby all day on my own was getting overwhelming, especially when he only napped in my arms. At 6 weeks I was able to get him to nap on our bed during the day and that helped a lot. It was really at the 6 week mark that a lot changed for me. He started taking 3 naps on his own, two 1-hour naps and one 2-hour nap. So I started cooking and cleaning more often to feel more normal. I started running errands, not every day but I usually tried to get out of the house every other day. The day he hit 6 weeks old I also started working out at the gym consistently and that helped me start to feel more "normal" again.<br /> It does take a bit of time, and a bit of finding yourself all over again to get into the niche of things. And it keeps changing too, as your baby grows. My daily routine at 6 weeks is different now that Cobi is 14 weeks. So don't expect too much consistency. Sometimes they nap, sometimes they don't. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178854 Tue, 05 Jun 2012 00:01:49 +0000 MamaCate 178854@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it was gradual for me, and to be honest with a 6 month old LO i think it is still evolving. Bf'ing got better around six weeks and things in general were better around 10-11 weeks but then i had to go back to work and things changed again!</p> <p>It was really hard during my leave, in spite of a lot of support, i ended up in tears at least once a week. Now things are so much better and those early weeksfeel like a blur. Be gentle with yourself! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178845 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 23:40:09 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 178845@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At three months, then at four months it all fell apart again but by 6 months we were golden. Feels like a long time while you're in it, but it's not forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178843 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 23:35:30 +0000 sandy 178843@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@HeatherlovesKenny: yes, that is such great advice! That definitely helped. My dad is retired and would come stay with LO as she napped and i would get out of the house at least once a week and that helped me so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178842 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 23:31:47 +0000 HLK208 178842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It was around 10 weeks that I started feel normal again. I know it feels chaotic for the first few months-- but it really does get easier. If someone you trust can watch LO for an hour or two, a few times a week that will help you in the mean time. Just to get out, take a nap, have some alone time, will make the transition smoother. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178841 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 23:31:43 +0000 sandy 178841@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@marriedandlovingit: I totally remember feeling like that in the early weeks...I almost felt like I was on the brink of pp depression...I was super anxious and overwhelmed...and I wasn't used to feeling like that. I loved my baby girl but in a lot of ways missed my old life. BUT it did get better...slowly and gradually...I would say around 6 weeks I felt much better and started getting used to the new normal...it helped me to "get ready" for the day by putting on an outfit other than sweats/pjs and putting on a little makeup. It got a little better everyday and I would say by 3 months I felt adjusted and settled into a new kind of normal. And it only gets better! LO is almost 7 months and I love being a SAHM...I reached out to some new moms I met and meet up about once a week...it helps so much knowing other people are going through the same emotions/transitions. I feel so lucky bc these mom friends have babies 1-2 months older than me so they kind of give me an idea of what I can expect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178830 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 23:13:29 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 178830@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's different for everyone. For our first baby it took 1-2 months and this time it was much quicker :). Hang in there! It'll happen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-start-to-feel-a-sense-of-normalcy-again#post-178811 Mon, 04 Jun 2012 22:30:24 +0000 calsmom 178811@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am a mommy to a 5 week old boy. I keep wondering when a sense of normalcy will kick in. I feel so unsettled these days and overwhelmed by everything. When did you mommies start to feel a sense of normalcy? I know that things will never be like they used to be. I will be looking forward to a new kind of normal though. I'm getting antsy for that to kick in! </p>