https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 01 May 2026 03:25:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1558653 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 09:49:55 +0000 pui 1558653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd prefer them to be at least 19. I'd also prefer that they had been dating for at least 2 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1558627 Thu, 10 Apr 2014 09:46:04 +0000 ValentineMommy 1558627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After college is all I care about. It's a STRONG preference. But, you never know. If I thought he was ready before that, I guess I'd be ok with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1547515 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 23:24:35 +0000 wonderstruck 1547515@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I can put a number on it. I know what the stats say about this, but they look at just one factor, age, when obviously there's a million other things at play there. And while it's generally true that people at 25 or 30 know them self better and have more adult/real world experience, there are certainly many many exceptions to that rule, and I can't see into the future to know what group my child will fall into.</p> <p>That being said, I would not support a marriage straight out of high school. At that point my child will have been living in my home with their main focus being school for 18 years. They won't have experienced a full-time job, life outside mom and dad's house, earning a living, etc. I think it's really important to have some experiences like that, maturity, and just some time to see how you grow in at least those first few years outside of the realm of high school and your childhood home before you get married. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1547111 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 17:44:01 +0000 MrsTiz 1547111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whenever they are ready! I would prefer LO to be 20+ just for the fact that he will most likely marry someone his age or younger, so I don't particularly vote for two 18 year olds but if they want to and are ready I support it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1546934 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 15:54:16 +0000 Grace 1546934@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Provides she found someone wonderful etc, I vote for 25. Old enough to have had fun single life and young enough that there's no pressure to have kids right away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1546908 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 15:44:38 +0000 MoonMoon 1546908@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Who knows if he'll even want to get married? I tend to think later is better, but like everyone, I just want a full life for this guy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1546902 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 15:41:08 +0000 LuLu Mom 1546902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After 25, I've read that after 25 you are more intuned to yourself &amp; who you really are as a person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1546899 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 15:39:27 +0000 autumnlove 1546899@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't know...28 +? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1546894 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 15:38:15 +0000 HabesBabe 1546894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would hope for 25+/after college, too. I SO wanted to get married in my early 20s to the hubs (we started dating when I was 15), but I'm so glad we waited until I was 25. I don't think I was mature enough from 22-24. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1546874 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 15:24:41 +0000 cmomma17 1546874@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>25+! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1546864 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 15:17:26 +0000 Cole 1546864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ideally after college or college age. The other thing I would hope is that they had been together for long enough to really be sure, we went through a lot of life changes and big ups and downs together and knew we could struggle and come out ok on the other side. I think it is important to know how you dynamic as a couple is even when things are going poorly, I have seen way to many people be shocked at how their s.o. handles a crisis (which isn't to say people don't change etc. but it definitely gives you a different insight into a person than when everything is happy and lovely.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1546764 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 14:33:33 +0000 sandy 1546764@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ideally I would love for her to graduate from college, have a job and live independently as an adult for a few years before getting married. I think engaged at 26 and married at 27 would be perfect. I think you really learn so much about yourself and gain so much independence during the time after college and supporting yourself </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1546528 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 13:16:39 +0000 Mommy Finger 1546528@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Obviously, when they're ready but I hope that it's not before 25. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1545518 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 08:44:13 +0000 Greentea 1545518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I would encourage them to be at least 25. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1545492 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 08:36:49 +0000 snowjewelz 1545492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as it's post college! I see young couples that work out, and I see the benefits of waiting till you're older (like me). So as long as it's a serious relationship and it's truly the right one, I wouldn't oppose to getting married in early 20's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1545370 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 07:55:22 +0000 kml636 1545370@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I personally will push for my kids to marry in their later 20's at the earliest. Of course, I know they have to make their own mistakes but I loved traveling and my single freedoms AND my DH got married at 24 and divorced two years later... The stats are much better if you wait until after 25 that you will have a lasting marriage. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1545351 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 07:39:58 +0000 Smurfette 1545351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After college and I would prefer after 30. I think you change SO much in your 20's. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1545348 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 07:38:34 +0000 Adira 1545348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Preferably after college! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1545296 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 06:49:59 +0000 blackbird 1545296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After college. I got married at 23, so I can't really naysay it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1545230 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 05:58:32 +0000 artsyfartsy 1545230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would prefer them to graduate college and start a career first, but I married DH right as I turned 20 and never finished college and we are ridiculously happy. If that's what my kids want to, then that's fine with me. As long as they are mature and responsible enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1545225 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 05:50:48 +0000 Silva 1545225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hope she has dated other people, spent time alone, lived with her future spouse, and graduated from college before she decides to get married.<br /> If she were planning to get married before those things had happened, I"d probably be a little concerned, but supportive. I'd let her know why I wanted them to wait a little. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1545205 Fri, 04 Apr 2014 05:15:40 +0000 Beyond2 1545205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As long as they are mature about the idea and plan to work through marriage difficulties, rather than anticipate smooth sailing, I don't have a preference. I'm not against 18 year olds getting married! Many of the strongest marriages I know started in teenage years! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1545023 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 22:57:09 +0000 sunny 1545023@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think 27 would be perfect. But definitely not before 22. I feel like most people still haven't figured out who they are and who they want to be by 22. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1545011 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 22:48:40 +0000 googly-eyes 1545011@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When she/they is/are ready. </p> <p>Dh and I got married really young and we're happy (so far.) I think any age has its challenges and its ups and downs. My guess is somewhere around 25. But I would be supportive if she married younger or older. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1544994 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 22:33:16 +0000 coopsmama 1544994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't think I can put a number on this. I agree with others that maturity is what is most important. I would hope that my kids would wait to get married until they have good, stable employment and maybe even would have finished college. I would also hope that they haven't entered the marriage hastily but have really sought wisdom out from people who know them well to ensure that the marriage seems to be the best idea for their life at that point in time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1544968 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 22:20:13 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1544968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would encourage him to have finished college and found a stable job. The age doesn't matter as much as the maturity level. DH was 25 when he married me at 20, and it was a good age for us personally but wouldn't be for many young adults. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1544965 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 22:18:03 +0000 yoursilverlining 1544965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely after college and starting their own career and dating several different people and living independently/alone. I think very, very few people hit it out of the ballpark and are mature enough or lucky enough to pick a real life partner before really experiencing life for themselves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1544960 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 22:15:11 +0000 BSB 1544960@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>After college, at least. 26ish would be a good time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1544952 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 22:10:58 +0000 Mrs. Blue 1544952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely encourage them to finish college first, but as long as I felt like they were really in love, grounded, and responsible enough for marriage, I could deal. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-do-you-want-your-kids-to-get-married#post-1544868 Thu, 03 Apr 2014 21:45:33 +0000 photojane 1544868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ideally, post-college/career training. But, as long as she's found a godly man who loves her &amp; they can support themselves, I'll be happy! :) </p>