https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 13 Apr 2026 11:20:29 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795441 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 14:17:33 +0000 Cherrybee 1795441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's funny you should ask this today because earlier this afternoon we were playing and I was saying "come on, walk to mummy" and I had this lightbulb moment where I realised that I actually felt like her mummy - like completely naturally. I'm not sure when it started happening but I think it was a sliding scale effect, the more confident I got the more I felt bonded to LO and the more I identified with the role. It has only been in the last few weeks that mummy has become a part of my actual identity and I have felt at home with the title. She's 1. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795422 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 13:38:27 +0000 illumina 1795422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still think sometimes "how did I end up with a kiddo?" and I'll look at her when she's with my parents or DH's parents and for a split second I forget she's my responsibility and not theirs! LO is 10 months.</p> <p>I'm glad it's more common than I thought! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795372 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 12:33:26 +0000 Dandelion 1795372@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>D is 7 and it's still weird being his mom. It's weird to be talking about school stuff and all. I feel like I was just in 2nd grade lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795340 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 11:13:40 +0000 LovelyPlum 1795340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm just now feeling like she's mine more often than I am not! Though yesterday, I looked at our reflection in the mirror while I was holding her and rocking her to sleep, and I felt like an imposter. I can't describe it- just that she looked so out of place with me. But I am starting to be more confident when I say that she is my daughter...LO is 16 weeks old.</p> <p>@Aimed: @lauraeabel: amen! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795337 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 11:06:57 +0000 MrsKoala 1795337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>3 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795323 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 10:47:23 +0000 cookiemomster 1795323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>okay reading this and the comments to it is making me feel SO much better. I'm only three weeks in but I've felt so bad that it still hasn't seemed to hit me yet, and I don't feel that crazy connection. Glad to know it just takes some time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795306 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 10:30:38 +0000 daniellemybelle 1795306@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think around 5-6 months I stopped thinking that regularly. But I still have no idea what I am doing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795177 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 08:27:28 +0000 mrsjyw 1795177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>20 months and I still pinch myself from time to time, Is this for real? :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795155 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 08:03:26 +0000 Applesandbananas 1795155@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>16m and I still feel like an imposter lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795151 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 08:02:01 +0000 mlm2934 1795151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm only a few weeks in, but we joke all the time that F is thinking "when are my real parents gonna come rescue me from these people?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795147 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 07:57:14 +0000 SleepyMonkey 1795147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>21 months here and I had that feeling the other day...can't believe I am a mom and have a kid! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795124 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 07:00:32 +0000 Aimed 1795124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At 18 months I still have those moments! I kinda thought I was the only one though - and this is why I :heart: HB! So thank you ladies! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795122 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 06:58:34 +0000 heffalump 1795122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For my first just a couple of days. For my second longer because she looks nothing like me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795116 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 06:44:20 +0000 Smurfette 1795116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She is almost 17 months and I still have those like that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795114 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 06:42:32 +0000 artsyfartsy 1795114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel this way sometimes still at 5.5 months! I totally understand where you're coming from. I don't think it's a bad feeling or anything...just yourself trying to adjust to the HUGE change! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795047 Sat, 02 Aug 2014 00:07:01 +0000 leelee 1795047@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still feel that way from time to time and DD is 2! It really sunk in when she started calling me mommy though so around 7 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795034 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 23:07:44 +0000 lollipop 1795034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had the exact same thoughts as you with my first LO. It took me about 3 mths to sink jn and really 6 months to say i've fallen in love with her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795032 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 23:06:37 +0000 Grace 1795032@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lol - I had that feeling recently. LO was 9 months old and her aunt (DH's sister who lives far away), was carrying her. I was walking behind them and had this overwhelming feeling that LO was SIL's daughter. And then LO wanted me, and it was all better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795031 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 23:06:30 +0000 Skadi 1795031@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>She's six months and I still feel that way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795024 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 23:03:11 +0000 hellocupcake 1795024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>19 months and I still have times where I can't believe she's my kid and I'm her mom. I tell my husband all the time that I have this weird feeling like she doesn't belong to me...like she's her own little individual that just so happens to live with us. An awesome roommate if you will. It's hard to explain. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1795001 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 22:12:43 +0000 blackbird 1795001@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I still have these moments sometimes! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1794998 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 22:09:32 +0000 Chuckles 1794998@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is 13 months and still every once in awhile I kind of forget that I'm the mom and not the nanny :) I think it's just because the idea of having a kid and being a mom is such a weird identity adjustment </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1794991 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 21:56:43 +0000 swedishfish 1794991@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Maybe 4-6 months. Things started getting easier with R around 4 months and I felt more connected to her by 6 months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-it-stop-feeling-like-someone-elses-baby#post-1794990 Fri, 01 Aug 2014 21:55:23 +0000 spaniellove 1794990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Don't get me wrong, I love him. But I keep having this thought lately when I hold him or look at him that geez, it doesn't seem like this is actually my kid and maybe his parents will come for him soon. I don't know the person I am when I'm caring for a baby, if that makes sense. </p> <p>How long did it take for it to sink in that it was really your baby? And you're not babysitting, that is the new you for the rest of your life? </p>