https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 12:33:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-sex-get-better#post-10366 Sun, 06 Nov 2011 11:04:28 +0000 Killer b 10366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm glad there's hope for the future though. If at 4-7 months things start getting better, then that works for me! I think it would be strange to assume my body would be back to "normal" again after the beating it took during pregnancy + delivery, and the entirely new concept of breastfeeding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-sex-get-better#post-10114 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 16:07:40 +0000 Boogs 10114@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Threads like this really make me just want to go the c-section route again next time! It only took 4 or 5 tries before it was enjoyable again for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-sex-get-better#post-10080 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 14:17:13 +0000 swgal 10080@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hate to break it to you but if you are breastfeeding full time it could take awhile! I'm thinking it was 7-8 months for me : ( It does get better, but man it took a long time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-sex-get-better#post-10071 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 14:05:20 +0000 looch 10071@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am glad to have read that @chopsuey! I was beginning to think I was weird! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-sex-get-better#post-10070 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 14:04:49 +0000 anewme 10070@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a vaginal birth with 3 small tears, recovery was a breeze.<br /> But I waited 2 months pp to have sex and it was sooo painful<br /> I literally shed tears. It freaked my husband out. I think it was also due to things being tighter down there and lack of Lubrication. I'm 7 months pp now and sex probably started getting back<br /> To normal around 5.5 months with each time getting a little better! So there is hope! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-sex-get-better#post-9996 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 12:30:45 +0000 chopsuey 9996@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a vaginal birth. 3rd degree tears too. We started having sex again right before I hit 6 weeks pp. I was scared, but it wasn't bad!<br /> Sex is incredible now (7 months pp). I agree.. possibly even better than before? HAHA. I think it started getting good around month 4. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-sex-get-better#post-9980 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 12:00:02 +0000 Killer b 9980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well that's good to know, at least there's hope! I'm not to 12 weeks yet, maybe a little more time will help things out a bit </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-sex-get-better#post-9853 Sat, 05 Nov 2011 03:28:06 +0000 looch 9853@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had an unmedicated vaginal birth with a very small tear that required 4 stitches. I was uncomfortable for the first 6 weeks, and really, not thinking about sex unti about 12 weeks post partum. </p> <p>First time, was short and uncomfortable for me, but now, it's better than it was before...if that's possible! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-sex-get-better#post-9839 Fri, 04 Nov 2011 23:34:27 +0000 Killer b 9839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*WARNING* This has sex talk and tmi bits about lady bacon. Be warned!</p> <p>So I had a vaginal birth, and an episiotomy that turned into a bad third degree tear. Lots of stitches and sitz baths! I'm now at 10 weeks, and sex is still very uncomfortable, even painful at times. I think I may have been a victim of the "daddy stitch", or maybe it's just that the scar tissue doesn't stretch like it used to before the tear. After all that hoopla about "blown out vaginas" that you hear men jabber about, I was shocked to find that things were much tighter after my 6 week healing period. Plus, I'm breastfeeding, so that doesn't help out in the whole lubrication department.</p> <p>For you vaginal birth mamas, when did sex start to feel somewhat normal again? I hate that I can't really enjoy it unless I have a few drinks first. I just get so tense in anticipation of the pain that I can't relax enough for it *not* to hurt, so I have to liquor up to relax. It's hard enough to try and plan alone time around an infant's non-existant sleep schedule, let alone factor in how much alcohol to drink vs. the next time I can breastfeed afterwards. Geez! </p>