https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 12:06:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-your-so-feel-they-need-to-have-the-last-word#post-8007 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 08:49:57 +0000 mediagirl 8007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dh normally has a strong opinion about the look of the yard (he used to be a landscaper), big purchases and things he really wants to do. He does a lot of stuff I want to do and doesn't normally ask for much. When he wants to see a UFC fight though (ugh) I do offer to go with him....just so he gets to see the thing he really likes.</p> <p>Oh and, you know, things like baby names. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-your-so-feel-they-need-to-have-the-last-word#post-7984 Wed, 02 Nov 2011 08:32:03 +0000 LazyLightning 7984@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is a hard question---I truly have no answer. We decide everything together...we both heavily research things, we control the budget together... there isn't an uneven division at all. I trust that if I was ill or incapacitated, he would make whatever decision was best for me, as I would for him--that's the only time one of us would just decide something major without input from the other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-your-so-feel-they-need-to-have-the-last-word#post-7906 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 19:30:56 +0000 mrbee 7906@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@red - Ah good point! You should create an anonymous poll in a new thread! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-your-so-feel-they-need-to-have-the-last-word#post-7903 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 19:19:37 +0000 tessabella76 7903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Most things, we generally decide together. He makes most of the decisions regarding big purchases. A-He pays the bills so he has a better handle on how much we can afford to pay for something and B-He researches every little detail for months to make sure we are getting the best deal/product for our money. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-your-so-feel-they-need-to-have-the-last-word#post-7877 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 18:31:28 +0000 Andrea 7877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't think of any examples. Either I decide or we decide something jointly but I can't think of something that only he decides on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-your-so-feel-they-need-to-have-the-last-word#post-7850 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 16:47:21 +0000 Red 7850@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrBee, I think your survey might be a bit skewed since most of those who are active commenters are probably alphas/outspoken by default. And those who aren't alphas probably thought twice about admitting so in the comments.</p> <p>You should create an anonymous poll if you really want to see how many alphas you have on this site :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-your-so-feel-they-need-to-have-the-last-word#post-7847 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 15:43:34 +0000 Wondermommy 7847@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>(Oooh, I'm quoted! Okay, dork moment over.)<br /> Umm, usually if it's something that he feels REALLY strongly about, but doesn't really make a difference to me. As in, on the importance scale of 1 to 10, he's closer to 10 about it, and I'm closer to 1. Or, if it's something he's an expert on, and I'm not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-your-so-feel-they-need-to-have-the-last-word#post-7846 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 15:37:55 +0000 mrsjyw 7846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When it comes to anything exterior about the house, DH has and always will have the final say. He knows more and I trust his judgment/taste. </p> <p>When it comes to anything about finance, insurance, legal, all the serious stuff. DH has and always will have the final say (with my input and agreement of course). He knows more and I trust his finance background and bill handling a heck of a lot more than my financial skills. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-does-your-so-feel-they-need-to-have-the-last-word#post-7823 Tue, 01 Nov 2011 14:38:01 +0000 mrbee 7823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It turns out that most Hellobees are alphas! :-)</p> <p><a href="http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-alpha-in-your-relationship" rel="nofollow">http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-alpha-in-your-relationship</a></p> <p>Some people mentioned that they let their SO's have the last word in a few cases:</p> <p>* "Ha. Me, by far. I have had to learn to let him do things when he really wants to!! :)"<br /> * "For the most part, I'm the alpha. Every now and then, though, he'll take the lead, so to speak. I'd say it's 80/20."<br /> * "My husband is pretty lax and lets me make a lot of decisions (I am sort of bossy =X ) but in situations where he has a certain opinion, he will fight me tooth and nail on it! I guess it's 70/30?"</p> <p>I got a bit curious... what are the situations where your SO will have an opinion or feel strongly about a decision? </p>