https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 09 Apr 2026 09:42:51 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-kids-push-grab-from-other-kids#post-1432898 Wed, 19 Feb 2014 05:09:36 +0000 yin 1432898@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My LO is very shy and doesn't understand when he gets pushed around. He will walk away from the situation and distance himself. Poor kiddo. I know this is going to be harder for him when he goes to preschool, and I'm not there to protect him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-kids-push-grab-from-other-kids#post-1432827 Wed, 19 Feb 2014 00:39:24 +0000 sandy 1432827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@miranlee: I cannot believe that woman said "he's just a kid!" Yes, he's a kid...no one is trying to arrest him for assaulting another child...kids are allowed to push, steal toys, and generally act like complete jerks to each other...but it is our job as parents to teach our children how to be kind, thoughtful, and well behaved so that they can grow up to be well mannered adults. Even from a young age it's those opportunities that teach our kids what we expect from them. It is not too much to gently remind a young child not to push another child. Of course young kids will continue to do it but we need to keep reminding them it's not ok...only then will they start to understand and learn. </p> <p>I'm ok with snatching toys when they're little as long as no one is upset and it's not an older child who clearly knows better hogging all the toys from younger kids. My LO is a pushover and will let anyone take a toy from her but every once in awhile she will vocally object and refuse and I'm ok with that. But snatching toys is different than pushing to me. Pushing should be addressed immediately and have consequences </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-kids-push-grab-from-other-kids#post-1432815 Wed, 19 Feb 2014 00:13:02 +0000 erwoo 1432815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My general rule is it's not my job to discipline other people's kids unless their parents are blatantly ignoring the fact that their child is being aggressive or harmful to my child. In that case I will kindly ask that kid to be gentle or not hit or push or whatever. If that child continues and I have a good idea who his/her parent is I will go approach them. I haven't had to do that yet but it's something I've already talked about. Some parents need to control their kids better, especially when there are smaller children around. I used to get annoyed when parents would bring their older, school aged children to a toddler play area at the mall. Where we live in Asia, parents are SUPER careful, almost to a fault! Sometimes I feel like my kids are the wild ones. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-kids-push-grab-from-other-kids#post-1432806 Tue, 18 Feb 2014 23:54:14 +0000 sarac 1432806@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh HELL no! I'd first tell the kid to stop, and if their parent replied like that, I'd very firmly tell them to knock it off. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-kids-push-grab-from-other-kids#post-1431564 Tue, 18 Feb 2014 14:02:32 +0000 HLK208 1431564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always talk to both LO's about playing gentle, sharing, etc. I don't think any age is too early to start talking about the right way to play. I don't understand why a parent would say, "he's just a kid" well, yeah, they don't always understand but it's important to teach children right from wrong!</p> <p>I tell DS to walk away or find something else to play with if someone isn't playing nicely. He's followed that pretty well. I've also told him to tell a teacher if anyone ever hurts him. What's scary now though (at 4) is that kids seem to like to play rough, which I hate! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-kids-push-grab-from-other-kids#post-1431489 Tue, 18 Feb 2014 13:41:33 +0000 looch 1431489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's inevitable in a preschool setting, your child is going to be both the pusher and the pushee at some point. </p> <p>I subscribe to letting them work it out if they are of the same age. Eventually, they do learn what appropriate sharing is, which I have read isn't really possible before the age of 3 anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-kids-push-grab-from-other-kids#post-1431487 Tue, 18 Feb 2014 13:40:49 +0000 regberadaisy 1431487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My daughter is the pusher. She is actually a very good sharer at home. She always shares with us and others. DH actually witnessed her pushing another kid last week and he immediately went up and told her it was wrong and made her say sorry. We have also talked about it many times at home. </p> <p>Personally, I don't think teaching your child to push back is the right thing to do. This particular kid has bitten my daughter twice and the second time was in reaction to my daughter pushing him. Neither are right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-kids-push-grab-from-other-kids#post-1431466 Tue, 18 Feb 2014 13:33:39 +0000 miranlee 1431466@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What do you do when another kid pushes or grabs items from your child's hands? How do you teach your kids to handle it?</p> <p>I know this happens all the time, but now that my daughter is 2, she is more aware and going to start pre-school soon. This has happened a few times in her classes and activities, but I have always been there to help her through a situation. Now that she is starting school and drop off classes, I'm wondering how others tell their kids to handle this. Up until now, she has been taught to share and play nice, gently, etc...She know she won't get away with bad behavior in front of me. It seems wrong and confusing to now tell her to say, "that's mine!" or to push back when a kid pushes her. </p> <p>blargh...parenting is so hard. This morning an older boy in her preschool prep class pushed my tiny 2 yr old --twice! My sitter told him to stop and his mom said, "he's just a kid." If Zoey did that, she would get a "talking to" from me. Is it me, or is that just not acceptable behavior?! It breaks my heart to think of that happening when an adult is not with her. </p> <p>Parents, how d you handle these situations? </p>