https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 06 Apr 2026 16:43:14 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-499012 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 17:41:42 +0000 Anagram 499012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm pretty sure I asked a pregnant coworker about caffeine just 2 years ago because she drank a coke every day at work. I had never been pregnant, so I just genuinely wanted to know if it was "allowed" now. She explained it to me and didn't seem at all offended, which was good!. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-499006 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 17:40:08 +0000 Anagram 499006@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>awww....poor male baristas! Most of them are so young, and probably have never been around pregnant ladies before, so they just don't know.</p> <p>Because of my nausea, I'm still off coffee, but I *did* recently try a frappuccino, since it doesn't really taste like coffee but I wanted a little caffeine, and I specifically asked the 18-yrs-oldish barista boy if he had a pamphlet that had the caffeine in each drink. We started just making conversation and I said I'm pregnant (I'm not really showing, just look chubby), and HE asked if I wanted decaf, and I just told him now preggos can have up to 200 mg a day.</p> <p>He turned around and told the other guy, too.."Hey, did you know pregnant women can have 200 mgs of caffeine every day?"</p> <p>I considered that my good work for the day. PSA announcement for preggos the world over!</p> <p>I think I just don't get offended easily. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-498894 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 16:44:36 +0000 .twist. 498894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>UGH. I haven't experienced this yet, but I know the exact person in my office who will be doing this. He already comments on my hair (you need a dye job!), clothing (new outfit??) and sometimes even nail polish (I hope you don't wear that colour often!). </p> <p>I am not looking forward to it and see a lot of face clawing in my near future. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-498889 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 16:39:47 +0000 ladyfingers 498889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tororojo: I almost did! I gave him some major attitude. Almost felt bad about it, too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-498888 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 16:38:49 +0000 tororojo 498888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ladyfingers: SO WHAT if you ordered a mocha? I would have clawed his face off.</p> <p>(why am I pissy today? maybe because I had the root beer, which didn't have caffeine...I can blame things on that I'm pretty sure) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-498884 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 16:37:58 +0000 Mrsbells 498884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I try not to get annoyed because I know that they usually mean well and they just repeat things they have heard from their wife, sister or other close female person.<br /> The men in my office kept reminding me not to have caffeine, or any soda, or too much spicy food. I thought they were just being protective of me </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-498873 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 16:35:43 +0000 ladyfingers 498873@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tororojo: Tell him you're priming the baby for all the caffeine it's going to get through breastfeeding. That will really make him twitch because it's "unsafe" AND you're talking about boobies. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-498865 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 16:34:08 +0000 ladyfingers 498865@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>OMG, that would really bug me. The closest I've had to this is once I ordered a peppermint hot chocolate from Starbucks, and the male cashier was like, "Um, do you want me to make that half caf or decaf for you?" And I said, "... for a hot chocolate?" He thought I had ordered a mocha. So I was doubly annoyed -- once because... dude, if I want a friggin decaf I'll ask for one, otherwise, shut up... and two, he was not listening and going to charge me twice as much for the wrong drink!</p> <p>ETA also now that I think about it, I went a restaurant recently with a girlfriend and ordered one little cup of coffee because I was exhausted, and the guy was like, "Do you, uh, want that decaf?" What is it with males and the caffeine issue?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-498514 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 15:03:02 +0000 tororojo 498514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: He left the building so I got a root beer. Delicious! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-498512 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 15:02:55 +0000 mediagirl 498512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One of my employees LOVED telling me about my different stages of pregnancy and post partum and pumping!!! He even likes to try to talk to me about breastfeeding which skeeves me out and I finally told him to stop talking to me about my pregnancy/post partum health. Haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-498508 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 15:01:12 +0000 heffalump 498508@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a guy friend who used to love giving me baby and pregnancy advice. And then he had the nerve to tell DH that I had turned into an argumentative pregnant woman because I would argue with his stupid advice. </p> <p>I wasn't arguing because I was pregnant, I was arguing because he was being stupid. I didn't argue with anybody else but him. It wasn't me. </p> <p>@tororojo: Drink what you want to drink! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-498505 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 14:59:33 +0000 Weagle 498505@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>While I was pregnant, there was a guy in my church (that I barely knew) that loved chatting it up in detail about pregnancy and childbirth. He and his wife had just had a baby, and I know he was excited, but it was super awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-men-give-you-pregnancy-advicejudgment#post-498500 Fri, 11 Jan 2013 14:56:54 +0000 tororojo 498500@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>...do you want to strangle them? What do you do/say? Does it annoy you more than if a woman did it?</p> <p>I was just debating out loud whether I want a Dr. Pepper or root beer and my co-worker said "Dr. Pepper is worse for you right now, RB would be better even though there's more sugar" and I said "Why is DP better?" and he said "because you shouldn't have all that caffeine." So I laughed a little and said it was well below the daily allowance. But I wanted to say SHUT UP! YOU DON'T EVEN HAVE A UTERUS! THIS FETUS LOVES CAFFEINE! Rawr.</p> <p>**I think I want a root beer, but am debating having a DP just to prove that I can. </p>