https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 00:50:54 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-859110 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 15:34:11 +0000 Anagram 859110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: ahahaha. "Yeah, because that's what every parent ever has said". Yup. Husbands. typical. lol</p> <p>My husband recently sprang on me that *if* my mom is here when I deliver LO (that's still an if), he'll probably just go back in to work and take his 1 week paternity leave later, because we won't need him. I'm like....YES, I will still need you. I love my mom, but I don't want her to help me with breastfeeding!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-859051 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 15:15:43 +0000 Foodnerd81 859051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LaineysMom: No, he is planning to get up for feedings/changes, but he thinks that it will *easier* because we won't have to get in the shower, get dressed, out the door at a certain time. Seriously. This is the conversation we had this morning (while snoozing the alarm). Because you know how hard it is to get up and shower after having slept for 7 hours or so... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-858993 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 14:54:45 +0000 NorCalWayfarer 858993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! I am a non-parent and am horrified when I hear others make "absolute" or judgmental comments. I have a co-worker who does this about EVERYTHING, so I recently started following up on her comments with "oh, so how many kids do you have?" or a similar question knowing she's never been in the situation. I understand people who are trying to empathize and say something like "Oh I can imagine how difficult ... may be ..." But not when she's giving advice about labor or child-rearing and clearly does not have children. Oy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-858941 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 14:39:10 +0000 LaineysMom 858941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Foodnerd81: so I'm guessing he's not planning on waking up with LO every 3-4 hours at night to change diaper/eat? That first month DH was on diaper duty at night since I had to feed her.. She was a "good sleeper" sleeping 4 hour stretches and it was rough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-858867 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 14:09:02 +0000 heffalump 858867@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a nonparent friend tell me everything about parenting. He even voiced his opinion about breastfeeding. We aren't friends anymore. </p> <p>I have another friend who said her child won't use a paci. Now I also said I'd rather my LO didn't use a paci, but I was open minded enough to know that I don't always get what I want and had some around just in case. And then I ended up wanting her to use it because she had reflux and was screaming all the time, but she didn't want it. Turns out she's a thumb sucker. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-858831 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 13:58:22 +0000 cyndistar3 858831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yea I love when non parents talk to me about discipline... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-858826 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 13:57:36 +0000 autumnlove 858826@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@shopaholic: Meeee too. :-) My dad's friend's daughter was asking me why my LO was so loud (she was squealing with glee at a pork bun at a LOUD dim sum restaurant) and she told me her 7 year old never behaved like that. Eewhhh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-858808 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 13:53:14 +0000 shopaholic 858808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find the worst comments I hate are actually from parents! Parents who just forgot how things really were at different stages if a baby's life! Even my BFF whose daughter is only 2. - makes all sorts of comments about when her LO STTN, used what, milestones. Etc. her DH always has to correct her. The grandparents are the worst... Like my babies never cried and were potty-trained at 6 months. No lie. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-858758 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 13:36:12 +0000 LuLu Mom 858758@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All. The. Time. Usually regarding sleep, "can't you just stay a few more hours, I'm sure she will be fine, she will be excited to be out and about." Um no, my kid is a diaster if she's ready for bed, I will not let her get overly tired for she will be a wreck for the next few days, not worth it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-858691 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 13:20:05 +0000 Foodnerd81 858691@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um.. my husband? For a while I would try to stop him or discourage the absolutes, but it's just not worth it. So now I am just like, yes, we'll try that. Or, yeah, we'll see. </p> <p>The biggest one lately is how his 2 week paternity leave is going to be so much easier than going in to work. Because we won't have to get up in the morning so early. I'm like... yeah, because that's what every parent ever has said... you get to sleep so much more those first two weeks. He is in for SUCH a surprise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-858654 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 13:10:38 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 858654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>my SIL is constantly saying stuff like "why can't you just skip her nap and let her nap in the car?" or "just keep her out til 11, I mean she can sleep in your arms and you can plop in her in bed when you get home," or "when I am a parent I will probably leave my baby overnight for the first time at 6 weeks or something. I am sure I will need a break. I can't believe your LO is a year and you haven't left her yet!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-858603 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 12:56:11 +0000 .twist. 858603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh yes. One of my very good non-parent friends really likes to tell me everything my baby will NEED and what I will need to DO to keep my baby healthy. She is full of good intentions, but I usually just wish she'd shut up. </p> <p>nod and smile. nod and smile. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-non-parents#post-858598 Fri, 14 Jun 2013 12:54:24 +0000 regberadaisy 858598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does anyone else find it funny when non parents make absolute comments about parenthood?</p> <p>I have a really good guy friend who makes comments all the time about parenthood and kids. He doesn't have kids nor have been around kids regularly!</p> <p>We were at lunch with another friend who has 11 and 8 year old. We were talking about the time commitment kids need. The non parent friend's opinion was but by 12 they would not need as much of your time any more! Bc they're older and can get around. Uh. No dude. Probably more like 16 when they can drive themselves around! Even then they will still require a good amount of involvement from the parents.</p> <p>Anyone else have non parent friends that always have something to say about parenthood? </p>