https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Jul 2026 23:40:58 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-125736 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 02:52:07 +0000 littleveesmommy 125736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That is just plain mean! =\ There are always many solutions to a single problem, doesn't mean one is better than the other. I don't like to confront people but if she does it again I would say something. </p> <p>Don't let her get you down in the dumps! I think you are an awesome mom!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-125723 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 01:57:29 +0000 looch 125723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think this is one of those things that you have to say something in the moment or just let it go. My MIL does this all the time, I just say we do things differently than she and my SIL have done and then I change the subject. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-125690 Tue, 17 Apr 2012 00:16:57 +0000 SAHM0811 125690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>that just sucks. i don't think this has happened to me through a "friend" yet... but when it happens through other people, I do get down for a while... it's so bothersome and hard to shrug it off! know that you are the bigger person by not stooping down to her level! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-125625 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 22:22:35 +0000 Maysprout 125625@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly I act oblivious. Like I don't realize they're trying to correct or criticize. Even if someone were to flat out say 'you're doing it wrong' I'd just say something like 'oh that's interesting you think that' as I try to get away from them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-125617 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 22:17:28 +0000 cupcakemama 125617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Who does this? I mean really, who does this? If she is going to be so rude and disrespectful to criticise you then I would have no qualms about shutting her down and making it clear how inappropriate and uncalled for her opinions are. And that they are just her opinions. I mean if a mother of four came along would this friend put up with being read the riot act?? I'd imagine not. I am so cranky on your behalf! Send her a link to this thread! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124713 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:57:34 +0000 LuLu Mom 124713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it were a good friend I would definitely explain that we have different opinions and you would prefer her to keep her mouth shut, if she's not a close friend I would slowly phase you out. No one has the right to criticize being a mother! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124692 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:50:00 +0000 MsLipGloss 124692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*Augh* Neither pregnancy nor parenting is a mathematical equation with *one* right answer, Matter of fact, mathematical problems can be solved in any number of ways, all with the *right* answer . . . you really are only limited by your own mind and pre-set limitations. I just don't get some women. ((hugs)) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124677 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:45:11 +0000 calsmom 124677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: That is not a friend! How rude of her. My feelings would be hurt too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124654 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:40:55 +0000 Mrs. Sunglasses 124654@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would just say something. Everyone raises their kids differently. As long as it's not something dangerous, she should learn to either keep her mouth shut or understand that there is no right or wrong way. </p> <p>Egh.... mom's ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124648 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:39:34 +0000 chopsuey 124648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Uh. WTF! @Andrea: lets kick her ass!<br /> She shouldn't be telling you how to parent. And she shouldn't be telling you that your way of parenting is wrong.<br /> The nerve.. &gt;:T </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124644 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:37:54 +0000 heffalump 124644@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh no! If anyone tells me something like that, I try to kill them with kindness and tell them that it's awesome that whatever it is works so well with their family, but this is what works for us. Don't let her make you feel bad, you're an awesome mommy! Your LO is happy and healthy and thriving. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124606 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:23:19 +0000 SugarplumsMom 124606@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>;( I hate when people feel the need to make others feel bad just to make them feel better about themselves. Don't let her get to you! </p> <p>*hugs* </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124605 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:23:18 +0000 Mrs. Bicycle 124605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ignore them. They just want to feel important and in order to do that they have to put you down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124596 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:21:11 +0000 Rubies 124596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Arden: Can you rewrite it with a lot of profanity and send it on my behalf? :) Just kidding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124585 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:18:33 +0000 Arden 124585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Personally, I would write her a note.. </p> <p>I'd say "You know, I didn't say anything at the time, but that was actually hurtful. I'm a good mom, and your criticism wasn't appreciated. I respect your decisions in parenting your children, please respect mine." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124572 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:15:50 +0000 Andrea 124572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: i really hate when people of multiple children put you down. like i have two so i am better than you. it is total BS! i am sorry she did that to you. don't believe it!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124563 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:13:49 +0000 Minnie_Girl 124563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that's the worst. People can be so ignorant...honestly, if they knew the least bit about your choices, they would probably be supportive of you and applauding you. The mommy crucifixions are ridiculous! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124559 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:12:29 +0000 Rubies 124559@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: The entire time she was talking I just stood there like an idiot nodding my head as if I was agreeing with her! Her tone was very "Psh, I'm a mother of two so I know more than you"...I just stood there - didn't know what to do or say! :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124545 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:07:05 +0000 Andrea 124545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: did you react or were you just shocked. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124542 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:06:06 +0000 regberadaisy 124542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>awww that is SO mean!!!!</p> <p>I think you sound like a WONDERFUL mother!</p> <p>Defriend her ASAP! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124541 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:05:54 +0000 Rubies 124541@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: Seriously! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124534 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 12:04:03 +0000 Andrea 124534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What??? I am going to beat her up! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-mothers-make-you-feel-bad#post-124509 Mon, 16 Apr 2012 11:53:28 +0000 Rubies 124509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you react when other moms make you feel badly about the way you choose to do things?</p> <p>Recently a good mommy friend of mine just started letting loose about all sorts of things that I'm doing "wrong" (even though I know it's not "wrong"...Just different than the way she does things) and days later, I'm still feeling down and insecure about it.</p> <p>Deep down, I know that I'm doing a great job with LO but on the surface, my confidence is shattered! Dang her! </p>