https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 07 May 2026 10:57:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-434419 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 11:08:27 +0000 jennylynn 434419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been back to work for awhile now, and I work 12 hours shifts so I'm away from LO for a long time. I still have bad days where I feel anxious, but it's gotten better. What helps me most is knowing whats going on while I'm away. DH texts me when she's napping and lets me know how she did eating, and then when she's with one of our moms for the evening, I usually call and check on her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-434320 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 10:41:29 +0000 prettylizy 434320@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm dreading this too... I have 3 more months until my mat leave is up and LO is in a total mumma phase right now. I get knots in my stomach every time I think about leaving her with a sitter to go to work :S </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-434309 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 10:38:28 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 434309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's always tough, and I know that for us, schedule is everything. It might take a couple of weeks for her to adjust to a new schedule in someone else's care, but things will get back to normal soon.</p> <p>ETA: The best you can do is write out her schedule and nap routines so they can use it as a guideline. They may or may not really follow it, but at least they have something to go on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-434207 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 10:04:40 +0000 Lozza 434207@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@winniebee: I found the report cards kind of boring until LO started walking, and then it was a constant stream of "Ben fell down while doing X and bumped his Y. Applied ice." We used to guess how many times per day or week he'd have been iced, and what he'd bumped that day.<br /> (He was always totally fine, he was just a little overenthusiastic about the walking. And not that good at it.) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-434054 Thu, 06 Dec 2012 08:32:19 +0000 winniebee 434054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlek: My husband calls it the "report card" and always says he is afraid Tyler will get scolded by me for poor marks ; ) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-433917 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 23:24:13 +0000 littlek 433917@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Congrats on the new job!</p> <p>I personally love reading the notes about my LOs day. I think the first week may be difficult but your LO will adjust. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-433903 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 22:28:49 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 433903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't have any tips because I haven't started work yet but...CONGRATS ON THE JOB, GIRL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-433719 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 19:14:15 +0000 winniebee 433719@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Agree about writing things down - my mom even does this for me too when she watches my son on Tuesdays. She writes down his naps and wake times and feeds. I know you have some doubts about whether your family members will respect nap times, and writing things down might help. My mom also really tends to follow my wishes, which I love. She raised 4 of her own kids, but she does things *my* way because she knows it is important to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-433461 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 16:12:22 +0000 babynumber1 433461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a hard time with this, then I just let it go. It wasn't worth worrying about. The baby will either sleep or wont'. If not then she will take her nap when we get home and all will be well in the world. </p> <p>As long as she is fed on time and diaper changed on time, I don't worry much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-433441 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 15:57:31 +0000 mediagirl 433441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would have a really hard time with it if she wasn't going to a center or wasn't being cared for by someone who's job is to be a nanny or a daycare provider. If your family is going to be watching her, you need to make sure they do all the things a care provider would do - feed at scheduled times, nap at scheduled times, play, etc. I like that daycare writes down what M does every day - nap times, feeding times, diaper changes. </p> <p>I know it can be hard for family to think about it as a job and not just "play time with baby."</p> <p>Good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-433357 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 15:03:21 +0000 Mrsbells 433357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It si natural to be worried. For daycare I made a list of a hey schedule but honestly the best advice I can give you is to try not to worry to much. your baby will respond differently to other people and they may set up their own schedule that works in that setting. They usually give your a sheet detailing all her naps, diaper changes and feedings </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-433351 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 14:59:38 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 433351@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: daycare does that, too! It's standard &amp; I can't wait to read DS's note sheet. It's not control freaky, it's sweet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-433343 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 14:54:47 +0000 banana 433343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What helped me the most was having my mom/MIL write down every thing that my son did that day. Like his feedings, naps, how many dirty diapers, how many spit ups, any milestones...things like that. I made them jot down everything they could think of and the times they occurred. I loved coming home and looking at the notes and asking them questions. It just made me feel more at ease knowing what happened that day. Control freaky? Yup. But I didn't care cause that's what made me feel better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-433203 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 13:36:49 +0000 winniebee 433203@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was very worried about naps and feedings when my son started daycare at 5 months. He is a little finicky about how he takes his bottle and was a terrible napper at the time. Turns out he eats very very well at daycare, and I have no idea why. </p> <p>They figured out how to get him to nap. Some days he does very well, but other days it's bad. On some daycare days he has VERY long awake periods. I've just learned to let it go....at this point, it doesn't seem to affect his nigth sleep as much. Also, I'm at work and pre-occupied so just don't worry about it because I can't control it.</p> <p>My sister's son is a bottle refuser as well (5 months). She is still on maternity leave but has been leaving him with their nanny for an hour or two this week. He will take the bottle if she is not around. I know you tried before, but have you tried recently? </p> <p> I think you just need to trust that as your mom/MIL continue to care for W, they will start to understand her cues better and will come up with their own ways to get her to sleep and eat. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-433185 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 13:22:58 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 433185@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is at his first half-day of daycare right now. I am worried about napping. Even I have a tough time getting him to fall asleep &amp; I can nurse! I let the ladies in his room know that he has a hard time falling asleep, it helps to rock him in arms, &amp; he shouldn't go more than 1-1.5 hours being awake.</p> <p>As for feeding, we've been having DH give him 1 or 2 bottles of expressed milk each week to practice eating from a bottle. We started at 3 weeks &amp; he does well every time, so I'm hoping that goes okay.</p> <p>He doesn't start full time until January, but I'll let you know what they say when I pick him up in a few hours! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-other-people-take-care-of-your-baby#post-433177 Wed, 05 Dec 2012 13:19:18 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 433177@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just found out today that I got a new job. I am so excited, but am already nervous about being away from LO. When I was working previously, my shifts were only five hours, so her schedule wasn't thrown off too much.<br /> I am so worried about her naps. What if her schedule Is thrown off because my mom or MIL can't get her down? What do I do about the bottle refusing?</p> <p>Do you have any tips that have helped you with adjusting when other people watch your LO (family, daycare, nanny, etc.). Were you worried about schedule? Does the anxiety go away? </p>