https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 26 Apr 2026 21:26:56 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-933391 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 17:00:18 +0000 birdofafeather 933391@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: ahahaha.</p> <p>@matador84: people are rude!!</p> <p>@TurtleDoves: omg. that's awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-933161 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 15:53:32 +0000 Sugar.Biscuit 933161@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People can be so rude some times. I had a male co worker ask me how I made twins. After he didn't take my answer of "the good old fashion way" he continued. I gave him a "are you serious look" and asked if he was done asking questions about my reproductive system. He was embarrassed and quit. Some times you just have to be as blunt as they are :-) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-933116 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 15:41:39 +0000 googly-eyes 933116@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: yeah that's rude but unfortunately not really unexpected... I'm one of those people who would then ask why they want to know and make them feel awkward depending on the person.. But that's just me! Or I'd just say it wasnt a surprise and not give them the opportunity to tell me it shouldn't be a surprise. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-933092 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 15:36:23 +0000 Grace 933092@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Originally, I wouldn't have told them I wasn't on birth control, but i like Mrs Jacks answer waaaaay better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-933083 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 15:34:46 +0000 daniellemybelle 933083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It always surprises me the invasive questions people ask. Why does it matter if I was on birth control, or if we were trying, or what the definition of "trying" is to you? I'm pregnant, we're having the baby, we're excited, and I'm not 16 or anything. Just be happy for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-933015 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 15:20:14 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 933015@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: LOL!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932978 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 15:10:51 +0000 matador84 932978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: funny because I've never said it was a surprise but almost everyone feels the need to ask! Wth, right??! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932943 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 15:02:24 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 932943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: Sweet Jesus I can't believe someone has the nerve. No one has asked this even though I've indicated that we were surprised. Though my dad has cackled several times about "Well, you know what causes that, right?" Har har har. I grit my teeth and tune it out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932935 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 15:00:26 +0000 MsLipGloss 932935@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: Ass-hattery knows no bounds! I echo @MrsJacks with Laaaaaaaame! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932929 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:58:58 +0000 googly-eyes 932929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: I just wouldn't say it was a surprise to begin with.. It kind of invites "we're you on bc/what kind of bc?" an the question you mentioned. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932892 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:53:15 +0000 Running Elley 932892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh we've gotten a lot of this question. I always say "We've always wanted our children to be pretty close in age." I leave it at that. That way I don't really answer their question either way but let them know that yes, we're happy about this! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932885 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:52:51 +0000 matador84 932885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: LOL!!!!! @autumnlove: I had someone else say my<br /> Uterus hadnt healed and that's why I'm already so big! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932823 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:42:41 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 932823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bunnylove08: sometimes *I* really am asleep when it happens. </p> <p>He slipped on a banana peel and your vagina caught his fall?<br /> There are so many things you could say that make perfectly logical sense;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932779 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:34:04 +0000 runsyellowlites 932779@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Love @Mrs. Jacks answer! </p> <p>And seriously, there are people that don't use hormonal bc at all.... That doesn't mean we're always actively ttc though. Pfft</p> <p>We actually got asked the opposite since P is only 15 mths. Why would we "plan" a child that close? Ugh people just need to shut their face! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932736 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:26:12 +0000 LovelyPlum 932736@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: that is the best answer-drive by sperming ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932734 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:25:44 +0000 mamimami 932734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's none of their business, but if you're telling them it was a surprise you may be emboldening them by making them think it's their business! So maybe don't say it was a surprise? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932723 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:20:48 +0000 Happygal 932723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Edelweiss: I had a similar experience in middle school. People were talking about a girl who wasn't in the room, and a friend spoke up and said, "Don't you think we're being a little harsh?" It wasn't judgmental or mean, but it was very effective and true. I love people who can be straight-forward like that--so refreshing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932683 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:09:49 +0000 Foodnerd81 932683@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can't believe people actually would ask that. I like the idea of a straightforward answer that puts them in their place, but I'm too much of a people pleaser to do it, probably. You could just say you didn't expect it would happen so soon and leave it at that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932674 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:06:59 +0000 edelweiss 932674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>in my previous life as a dimwit, i once asked an acquaintance when they were thinking of having a baby (i know, so bad!). she looked at me and said "that's a little personal, isn't it?" that taught me a lesson. i didn't feel like she was being bitchy or anything--i deserved it! maybe you could say something similar and direct. it really is none of their business and there's no reason for you to sugar coat it. </p> <p>or, something like "what they say about not getting pregnant from sitting on a toilet seat? so not true!!" and then laugh maniacally. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932668 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:06:10 +0000 bunnylove08 932668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i was sleeping when it happened </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932664 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:05:03 +0000 autumnlove 932664@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My coworker asked me the same thing...after he asked if my uterus would burst from having a second baby so soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932647 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 14:01:51 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 932647@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lame. Tell them it was a surprise because you had a newborn, were exhausted and weren't having sex. Some drive by sperm decided to jump off of your husband and on to you. In fact, it was a miracle when you really think about it! That should shut them up </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-ask-well-how-was-it-a-surprise-then#post-932639 Mon, 15 Jul 2013 13:58:13 +0000 matador84 932639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Such a dreaded question and I don't get why people need to stick their most where it doesn't belong...how did you answer if people ask you something about how your pregnancy could be a surprise if you weren't using birth control? </p> <p>I know breastfeeding isn't a fool proof method but someone already said to me, "well it shouldn't have been a surprise then!" </p>