https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 01 Jul 2026 12:50:19 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545532 Tue, 10 May 2016 15:27:57 +0000 MrsSCB 2545532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@narwhal: Ha, my grandma also told me, "I only gained 15 pounds with three of my four pregnancies. I gained 30 with your dad, and that was my worst pregnancy." Like thanks grandma... :meh: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545518 Tue, 10 May 2016 15:19:50 +0000 gingerbebe 2545518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: oh man my husband is usually not sassy pants like me but I have heard him say something like "and what would you like me to do about that" to someone who said something outrageous to him like the butt comment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545385 Tue, 10 May 2016 14:00:52 +0000 FancyGem 2545385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: haha That is a good come back. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545238 Tue, 10 May 2016 12:03:58 +0000 Maysprout 2545238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: I have one relative like this. That for whatever reason is super judgemental of people's weight but isnt super fit themselves. After the 10th time of ignoring her comments about how she didn't gain weight until she was 20 weeks and stayed active throughout i responded as you did. Unfortunately some people are tone deaf and it hasn't stopped her. I'm 16 weeks and after saying Happy Mothers Day said 'you must have twins in there, I can't believe how big you are already, you must be really feeding that baby a lot if there's just one in there'. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545235 Tue, 10 May 2016 11:58:57 +0000 oldsoulmama 2545235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@psw27: omg I'm dying laughing here! That's awesome.</p> <p>OK so I'm a little guilty of being a commenter. Recently I went to a baby shower for a friend I hadn't seen since before she was pregnant. I guess I was excited to see her pregnant and when I walked in she barely even looked pregnant at 8.5 months! "Your belly is so tiny!" slipped out of my mouth. She's always been very confident in her appearance and she's a good friend of mine, so I didn't think it would be offensive. But boy I got some nasty stares from the ladies at the shower! My friend just laughed and hugged me. </p> <p>So I apologize on behalf on all idiot women out there making inappropriate belly comments. :bummed: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545201 Tue, 10 May 2016 11:25:33 +0000 psw27 2545201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So my admin at work used to make comments super frequently. One time she felt the need to stop me in the hall to tell me my "butt had gotten really big" Another time she told me she didn't even need maternity pants when she had her 4 kids (it was like 1976, they probably didn't even make them...). It was a lot of comments about how much weight I was gaining. Finally towards the end, I just replied that since I'm such a small person I had to gain more weight to help the baby grow but she was lucky she already had extra weight to begin with. Yup. Not nice, but no regrets. The comments stopped once I commented on her weight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545182 Tue, 10 May 2016 11:05:15 +0000 FancyGem 2545182@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>People can be so rude. I had a person constantly say that they didn't think I would make it to my due date because I was so big. She also mentioned how she didn't go to term with her pregnancy, so maybe that was her own personal issue. I ignored her, but I told my husband that I'm not dealing with those negative comments when we get pregnant again. I have always been smaller than most of the women on my husband's side of the family, and they seemed to enjoy the fact that I was gaining weight. SMH They still make comments about me being "healthier" than them in a condescending way. I will stand up for myself this time. I will do it in a tasteful way, but they need to learn how have some tack and deal with their own insecurities. They do not need to like what I have to say. They lost that luxury when they decided to be rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545140 Tue, 10 May 2016 10:25:04 +0000 DillonLion 2545140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh body comments are such a trigger for me. I feel you on this topic. </p> <p>Luckily most people didn't say much to me, probably because I have a perfected "Resting Bitch Face" most of the time, so people think better of trying to talk to me :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545131 Tue, 10 May 2016 10:18:09 +0000 Shantuck 2545131@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pickle: I got the same thing when I was pregnant with my first because of my long torso. I'm sure the constant "but you don't even look pregnant" was intended to be a compliment but it definitely had the effect of making me worry something was wrong. I was actually measuring small so that didn't help but my son was a healthy 6.5 lbs at 38 weeks. I'm now 14 weeks with #2 and barely showing so I'm just waiting for the comments to start up again.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545124 Tue, 10 May 2016 10:12:01 +0000 Modern Daisy 2545124@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pickle: I had a similar thing happen to me during my first pregnancy too. SO many people asked me how much weight I gained/if I was gaining a normal amount and I never knew how to answer because I didn't even keep track! Finally I was so worked up over these comments that I asked my OB and he was awesome. He just shrugged it off and said "I don't even need to look at your chart to know you are right on track - you look great" after that I just started ignoring those comments! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545120 Tue, 10 May 2016 10:08:35 +0000 Modern Daisy 2545120@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@maddyz: yeah, I get the "compliments" about not being too big as well and I think they are super offensive and inappropriate! I swear people either have to tell me I'm huge or I'm tiny, they can't just keep their mouths shut. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545118 Tue, 10 May 2016 10:07:04 +0000 Modern Daisy 2545118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@My Only Sunshine: oh my gosh that is so awful!!! I Am so sorry you had to deal with that :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545107 Tue, 10 May 2016 09:55:22 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2545107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Every time I left the house in my last two weeks of pregnancy someone would ask when I was due and then comment "no way, you're so small!" I gained 35 pounds and my belly was measuring appropriately. All the comments really got to me and made me worry something was wrong so I brought it up with my OB. She was really reassuring about it. I wish people realized just how much what they say can have a effect and learn to keep their mouths shut. There are lots of nice things to say to a pregnant woman that have nothing to do with size. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2545083 Tue, 10 May 2016 09:17:20 +0000 maddyz 2545083@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get "you arr really that far along? You hardly look pregnant!" All the time. Either way, it feels like shit.</p> <p>Really, if you wouldn't say it to someone who is not pregnant dont f'ing say it.</p> <p>All you should EVER say to a pregnant lady is that she looks good. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544977 Tue, 10 May 2016 07:07:54 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2544977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 39 weeks pregnant and a coworker just asked if I was sick today because I'm "not looking very good." Thanks, jerk. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544953 Tue, 10 May 2016 06:12:48 +0000 MrsSRS 2544953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For a coworker I think I'd go with a flat "I don't wish to discuss my body. That is neither polite nor professional." And be ready with another sentence immediately about something work related like how's X project, what time is the meeting, etc to end the awkward silence. If I was feeling particularly confrontational or someone was a repeat offender I might go with, "why does my pregnancy make it ok for you to talk about my body?" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544947 Tue, 10 May 2016 05:44:39 +0000 avivoca 2544947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@narwhal: @Modern Daisy: I always try to remember that back in their day, women were restricted to 15 pounds of weight gain for a pregnancy. It doesn't make their comments right, but it usually helps me stop myself from feeling sorry for myself when I think about how big I am. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544940 Tue, 10 May 2016 05:08:06 +0000 Modern Daisy 2544940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@narwhal: that is exactly why I think most of the older women want to make comments!! I've been told during both pregnancies by countless older women how little weight THEY gained during their pregnancies and I try to be polite in response but I'm always kind of like "I never asked and I really don't care plus it's kind of a bragging thing to say to someone who is huge right now" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544809 Mon, 09 May 2016 18:56:55 +0000 Mrs. Marshmallow 2544809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PawPrints: Love this! </p> <p>So far (because I'm only 14.5 weeks and not really showing much yet in regular clothes) I find people just LOOOOVE to tell me all about their pregnancies, which is totally fine... but my grandmother has told me twice now about how she only gained 9 lbs for 3/4 of her pregnancies, and 18 lbs with one. It's always some sort of pride thing, but you always knows she has some hidden judgey agenda. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544808 Mon, 09 May 2016 18:56:13 +0000 Alba4 2544808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm sorry you are hearing these comments. My dad kept making the twin joke and I told him nicely that it made me feel bad. He apologized and now hasn't made any more stupid jokes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544805 Mon, 09 May 2016 18:51:59 +0000 Eko 2544805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never got super rude comments, just ' you look big'. I always responded with 'I am growing a baby.' And left it at that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544762 Mon, 09 May 2016 17:35:00 +0000 MrsKRB 2544762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've been saying, 'wow! What a nice thing to say to a pregnant woman who already feels like crap!' Usually shuts them up :silly: It's really ridiculous that people think they can say whatever they want, like why even comment at all?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544743 Mon, 09 May 2016 16:40:14 +0000 PawPrints 2544743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"You know, pregnancy has really shown me that people are not shy about saying whatever they want!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544730 Mon, 09 May 2016 16:13:58 +0000 raspberries 2544730@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd usually just repeat back to them what they were saying, with something along the lines of "Did you really just tell me xxx?" with an incredulous look on your face. Most people will backpedal, but if someone is particularly obtuse, I'd follow up with "That's something you should never say to any woman/person... ever." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544727 Mon, 09 May 2016 16:11:56 +0000 gingerbebe 2544727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: I've actually heard him say "you know, I'm actually not that comfortable with that question!" Again, totally kindly.</p> <p>I'm way too sassy and mean for that type of thing but my husband is so good at being completely polite when he says it that people don't have time to get offended before he smiles and walks away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544718 Mon, 09 May 2016 15:50:22 +0000 avivoca 2544718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also wish I was brave enough to say something mildly rude, but it's not really who I am. People keep asking me if I'm sure I'm not having twins because my stomach is so big and it's getting old. I really just want to tell them how inappropriate it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544716 Mon, 09 May 2016 15:45:54 +0000 caterw 2544716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wished I was brave enough to make a personal comment about the other person, but I'm not that rude. I usually just gave a shocked look, hugged my belly protectively, and waddled away at my top speed... I'm going to follow this thread to see if anyone has good suggestions! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544714 Mon, 09 May 2016 15:42:34 +0000 Mrs. Pickles 2544714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>for the really horrible people, if I had reached my limit, I would reply with a comment in kind.</p> <p>"oh my gosh are you having twins you're huge", "wow you should really check your light bulbs, that color makes you look sallow" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544712 Mon, 09 May 2016 15:38:48 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2544712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: I had a friend who gained a lot of weight during pregnancy, and EVERYONE told her about it. She started smiling and saying, "I know...isn't it great?" If someone continued with something mean, she would just say, "I'm pregnant, this is what my body is supposed to do." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-people-comment-on-your-body#post-2544693 Mon, 09 May 2016 15:18:52 +0000 Modern Daisy 2544693@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@gingerbebe: that's a great response, thank you!! What about the personal questions though? </p>