https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 12:32:43 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459506 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 21:44:08 +0000 Mamasig 1459506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrsjyw: same here! I so appreciated someone taking care of me while I took care of the baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459355 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 20:31:27 +0000 Veggiemama 1459355@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would choose option 2 (or some variation of coming around your due date). My first was 12 days late and both times I definitely needed more help after both births. While it would be nice for her to be at your shower, you will really need her after the birth! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459296 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 19:52:21 +0000 rattles 1459296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I like @Mae's suggestion best, but otherwise I vote option 2 for sure! If she jumps on a plane when you go into labor, she might make it in time for the birth anyway. Even if she doesn't, it was awesome to have an extra set of hands postpartum to run errands and help around the house when I was chained to an armchair nursing! Plus I'd rather have her meet the little one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459289 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 19:47:05 +0000 regberadaisy 1459289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Glitter: haha sorry!! Your username is Familiar with someone I remember from weddingbee! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459287 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 19:45:44 +0000 Glitter 1459287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@locavore_mama: Oh no I'm from the Caribbean :happy: Born in St. Lucia but living in Trinidad with my Trinidadian husband. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459278 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 19:42:32 +0000 Dandelion 1459278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would choose 2, if you're looking for extra help. Before baby, you won't need all that much help getting around. Afterwards, an extra pair of hands would be great to take care of food and cleaning while you recover and get used to a newborn.</p> <p>Plus, then she's guaranteed to see your baby! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459274 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 19:41:21 +0000 mrsjyw 1459274@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#2! Pp help from mama is a must for me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459267 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 19:37:49 +0000 regberadaisy 1459267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do #2 because with #1 it is too risky her missing the birth completely. I'm assuming it's very hard for her to come visit and it will be a while before she can meet him if she misses his birth?</p> <p>Are you Asian? I seem to recall you might be? Just asking bc of pp care.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459137 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 18:06:33 +0000 HabesBabe 1459137@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it was between 1 or 2, I would choose 2, because she might miss the birth with option 1 (I was a week late with my first LO, so I wouldn't have delivered until the day after she left!) and that would suck for both of you. At least with option 2, she'd for sure be here for the baby and to help you out after delivery (which is when I would need more help than beforehand).</p> <p>But I do like @Mae's suggestion! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459130 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 18:01:08 +0000 lovehoneybee 1459130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not sure what would be best for you, but we did Option 2-ish. My mom bought a plane ticket for 5 days before my due date (and ended up changing it to a week before when I got my membranes stripped at 39 weeks). She wasn't charged for changing her (Southwest) ticket, and actually ended up getting like a $50 refund. She was there at the very end of my pregnancy, for the birth, and for the first two or so weeks afterwards. </p> <p>I would have liked to have had more time with her, and for her to have been at the baby shower, but it was more important to all of us that she be at the birth. She is a former childbirth coach, (and I just wanted my mom there), and was very helpful since D only got 3 days of paid paternity leave and went back to work the Monday after E was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459127 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:59:56 +0000 Glitter 1459127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mae: I hadn't thought of that... but I like it :happy: I haven't spent a mother's day with her since I migrated almost 10 years ago... she would def appreciate it! I'm going to suggest that to DH and to her, thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459113 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:53:40 +0000 Mae 1459113@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What if she came May 10? That would still give you some pre-baby time (probably, since most 1st time moms seem to go on time or late) and she'd also be there for the birth probably and mother's day (which is fun!). And you'd definitely have the baby before the end of the month when she had to go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459091 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:43:19 +0000 Glitter 1459091@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: True, if she stays for 5 weeks and I still haven't delivered I would be devastated, and so would she.</p> <p>It's because of some work policies. She's a principal so she's on Easter vacation from April 12th for 2 weeks. Then she's allowed a further 3 weeks to take whenever. So she can either lump it all up into 5 weeks (option 1), or take the 3 weeks separately (option 2), but we definitely can't afford two separate trips. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459088 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:41:04 +0000 Mae 1459088@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you need to decide which you value more-- her being present at the shower and spending more time with you over all, or her meeting the baby and having lots of time with him. </p> <p>I'd be a little nervous with option 1 because 6 days is not THAT late, so it seems like probably at least a 25%+ chance she won't be present at the birth and won't meet your LO at all. So unless you think you'd be able to do another visit in the first few months, I'd personally probably pick option 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459086 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:40:26 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1459086@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted option 1 because while it would be great for your mom to get a ton of quality time with LO...my mom is so precious to me &amp; I would love to have all that free time to be with her before baby &amp; have her at the shower &amp; delivery. But that's just me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459082 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:39:42 +0000 wonderstruck 1459082@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I definitely needed more help after delivery (and I'm sure my mom would have wanted to spend as my time with her new grandbaby as she could - mine lives nearby so we didn't deal with this.) I understand wanting her at the baby shower, but I don't feel like it's as big of a deal as when the baby is actually here - and you being 6 days overdue could very possibly happen. How would you feel if she was there for 5 weeks and didn't get to meet the baby?</p> <p>Is there a reason that if she doesn't come out as early as April 12th, she can't come until you go into labor? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-should-mom-visit#post-1459064 Fri, 28 Feb 2014 17:30:36 +0000 Glitter 1459064@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom is planning to come for the birth of our son, EDD May 12. We have only two options.</p> <p>1. She comes from April 12-May 18th (5 weeks, and that way she is present for my baby shower, for the birth and a little help after birth, provided he doesn't come late!)</p> <p>or</p> <p>2. She hops on a flight when I go into labour, and spends 3 weeks with us (that way she misses the shower and the actual birth, but will have more time after delivery to help out)</p> <p>Both DH and I are very comfortable with my mom and we're not worried about being under the same roof with her at all. We really just want her present for the shower, birth, and to help after delivery, especially since I haven't seen her at all since we got pregnant, but we have to choose one of the options mentioned above.</p> <p>In light of how much help you needed in the final weeks leading up to delivery, and in the weeks after delivery, when would you suggest is the best time for her to come? I would be off work and DH's job is very flexible so he would be at home a lot as well. DH's mom also lives near and is available round the clock. </p>