https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 06 May 2026 12:21:49 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906373 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 15:50:18 +0000 IRunForFun 2906373@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Luckily no one has really said that to me, but I'd probably punch them in the face. We have a colicky almost 4 month old and no, I will NOT miss these days and look back on the fondly. </p> <p>Since punching isn't acceptable, I might tell them to come on over between the hours of 7 pm and midnight and see how much they enjoy all those moments of screaming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906321 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 13:10:27 +0000 Corduroy 2906321@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My 'comeback' to "enjoy every moment" was that I was taking lots of photos and videos so I could enjoy every moment... later. Like once I've had more rest and a spare moment to breathe. </p> <p>While I obviously can't enjoy every moment that way I'm pretty happy with how that mindset has worked out so far. Mine are 6 and 4 and I can enjoy the photos of hard times like labor, taming colic, the SNS system, the messy living room, working from home on sick days trying to meet deadlines while DS threw up inches past my laptop. I certainly did not enjoy those in the moment but DH and I would laugh (in a sick joke kind of way) as we snapped a photo and banked them for "yeah, sure I'll enjoy this later purposes." YMMV </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906299 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 12:21:52 +0000 codeitall 2906299@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think of it like that 'never go to bed angry' phrase that people would tell you when you got married. Blanket advice is terrible. Sheesh, go to bed angry and put some time into calming down and distancing from the argument. 'Enjoy every moment'? enjoy what you can and try to survive the rest.</p> <p>Basically just a big eye roll from me :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906287 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 11:00:14 +0000 Mrs. Cereal 2906287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Internal barf emoji. Kids are hard work. Like really hard work and it is not enjoyable every moment. And just because it is not always enjoyable does not mean we don't love our kids and cherish them. I hate these kind of blanket statements that are meant to be sweet but are super annoying and judgy. I would rather have an older parent tell me, there are some really amazing and great moments, but there will also be some really terrible moments. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906285 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 10:49:21 +0000 crazydoglady 2906285@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mommy Finger: Absolutely!</p> <p>I don't take issue with the idea to slow down, or savor these moments sentiments., but the idea that we should enjoy *every* moment as though we should guilty for the times we are frustrated, wondering if we made a mistake, or are dealing with crippling ppd/ppa. Perhaps I am just taking it too literally. </p> <p>@pinkb: That makes sense and sounds a lot like my feelings on the subject. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906284 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 10:45:44 +0000 graceandjoy 2906284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BadgerMom: it's my favorite saying b/c it's so TRUE! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906283 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 10:28:34 +0000 BadgerMom 2906283@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I had my first my SIL told me to remember, “the days are long, but the years are short.” And at the time I thought it was such a cliche. But I think about it a lot, especially when someone makes those kind of comments to me and it usually keeps me from wanting to kill them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906282 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 10:06:18 +0000 josina 2906282@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, I think it's a good reminder; they do grow so fast, each stage does end up being short. I had a woman tell me at 38 weeks pregnant, when I was so ready to be done, to enjoy it, and I appreciated that so much, because it most likely was my last pregnancy and I needed that reminder to just stop and think and enjoy it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906281 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 10:01:19 +0000 pinkb 2906281@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have grown to appreciate it. Because it is true. The older my kids get the more I realize how small some of these moments are. Yes I get frustrated and lose my cool a lot, I am a parent and probably need to work on doing better. I don't think this saying has anything to do with that and the trying times. It has everything to do with time just goes by too fast and life is so short. In the good moments I sneak pictures I normally would forget to take and really take time to watch and take it in. And in the bad times I try not to let that stay in my mind, I don't give it the time to stay there. Even when the kids drew all over their bunk bed last night with purple marker ;) To me the people saying it have been thru it and are reminiscing of all those fond memories and not so fond ones when they say it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906280 Wed, 18 Dec 2019 09:47:53 +0000 graceandjoy 2906280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>*shrug* I just smile and say yes I do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906225 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 21:31:15 +0000 Mommy Finger 2906225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I smile and nod and mentally punch them. </p> <p>But I get the parent amnesia thing. The other week I was enjoying a glorious night alone strolling the aisles of Target ALONE when I heard a tiny baby cry. You can't mistake the sounds of a tiny newborn cries. My littles are 7 and 4 and for the first time ever I had this weird feeling where I missed that. I remembered how completely overwhelming it was and it sucked most of the time but I still felt the nostalgia. I could tell the mother was new and just needed to get out of the house. She struggled to quiet her child and was looking all around. We locked eyes and I just smiled at her. If we were closer, I would have told her that she was doing a great job. She seemed like she relaxed as she thought I was going to judge her. </p> <p>Honestly, I try to remember that people mean well but that doesn't help the frustration in the moment. We're allowed to not love every moment! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906212 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 20:34:20 +0000 crazydoglady 2906212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cake2017: I basically decided to enjoy what I can and give myself grace for the rest. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906205 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 19:56:49 +0000 cake2017 2906205@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree! I actually say it haha. It’s hard a lot of the times! I have a four month old and a 2.5 yo and in the beginning I cried a lot. I am so blessed to have them and when it gets hard I remember that this season is temporary and it goes by so darn fast! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906204 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 19:53:56 +0000 pachamama 2906204@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ilovepie: total parent amnesia!! my two sons are savages in restaurants and my mom was like, you two girls (my sister and I) were never like that! And my dad's like hell yeah they were, we didn't go to restaurants for 2 years! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906200 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 19:51:26 +0000 pachamama 2906200@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Reflexively it pisses me off. But at this point I know now sometimes older people often really DO know what they're talking about. I get so caught up in the mundanity and stress of my days home with 2 kids that sometimes honestly a nice reminder.<br /> So so soon I will wish they were little, annoying as they are. They will never learn to walk or have a first word or dance to the recorded Jingle Bells tune on their train set, or nap on me or want a baba when they're older. I don't want to regret this time period.<br /> 😭Crying a little </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906199 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 19:51:05 +0000 MoonMoon 2906199@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get the sentiment behind it. It's not about enjoying difficult moments, it's about appreciating how fleeting life is, which I feel more the older I get. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906198 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 19:47:15 +0000 Kemma 2906198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It reminds me that despite any challenges we face our life is actually pretty sweet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906196 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 19:27:20 +0000 Anagram 2906196@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My kids are 4 and 6 now and I totally get it! It flies by so fast every year. My mom told me she feels like it was just yesterday since she was on my life stage and I totally understood. Life is short and I am really feeling it lately. </p> <p>I mean, I don’t enjoy every single moment of even this stage but I am way more nostalgia and appreciative of where they are because it’s not going to last. Ugh . </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906194 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 19:23:34 +0000 JJ2626 2906194@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want to punch them! Every moment is not enjoyable and they probably have their own regrets or something. Also I feel guilty even though I tell myself what I just wrote above. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906193 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 19:19:58 +0000 crazydoglady 2906193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ilovepie: Yes! I hope I get that parenting amnesia, too. Like I get that this stage is special because we are the center of their worlds, but that doesn't make it easy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906192 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 19:16:37 +0000 ilovepie 2906192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like I wish I could have their parent amnesia and perspective without having to make it through whatever stage I'm in first. Basically, "it's easy for you to say!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906191 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 18:59:08 +0000 crazydoglady 2906191@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel frustrated and guilty. I have a coworker who says all the time "isnt it the best?!" Like, yes, I know I am blessed and I love my kids but enjoy every moment? How? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-someone-tells-me-to-enjoy-every-moment-it-makes-me-feel#post-2906190 Tue, 17 Dec 2019 18:58:48 +0000 crazydoglady 2906190@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>"enjoy every moment?" </p>