https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 23 Apr 2026 06:02:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-there-is-a-kid-at-school-who-is-a-bad-influence#post-2641523 Mon, 24 Oct 2016 15:38:28 +0000 Cole 2641523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I agree about trying to set up play dates with other kids in the class, I'd focus on one or two kids that she showed interest in. It's so hard, we had a similar situation in my classroom with two 3rd grade girls and it was miserable. I hope you guys can find a solution that works. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-there-is-a-kid-at-school-who-is-a-bad-influence#post-2641480 Mon, 24 Oct 2016 14:45:43 +0000 catomd00 2641480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Set up some play dates with other kids in her class to help her branch out maybe? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-there-is-a-kid-at-school-who-is-a-bad-influence#post-2641388 Mon, 24 Oct 2016 13:26:55 +0000 Bao 2641388@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have talked to her parents (twice now) and the teachers know about it. I just feel like it's a daily battle! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-there-is-a-kid-at-school-who-is-a-bad-influence#post-2641352 Mon, 24 Oct 2016 12:44:39 +0000 irene 2641352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This is so tough (especially they are relatives!), I have no useful advice except to comment and show my support! It is so hard we can not control how other people raise their kids and how their kids behave. Sometimes you can't even talk to those parents because then they'd get offended, you know?</p> <p>My DS had "friends" who are very physical (as in punching and pushing), and would call him names or use bad words. DS has been a very good "rule follower" (not sure if I should be happy about it or not) and usually wouldn't use bad words as he'd explain that "it is bad and it will get him in trouble". </p> <p>What would you say about your relative's parenting style? What do they do when their child does undesireable behavior, like ignoring or teasing and such?</p> <p>One thing you can do is to talk to your child a lot about it, and teaching her about making good choices. Ignoring / excluding and teasing are things that will hurt other people's feelings and make other people unhappy. We want to treat others with love and respect regardless of who they are. You love her very much, and you trust that she wouldn't do such things even though other people does it.</p> <p>Hugs! I hope this gets resolved soon and your LO would be willing to branch out and meet new friends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-there-is-a-kid-at-school-who-is-a-bad-influence#post-2641342 Mon, 24 Oct 2016 12:31:17 +0000 looch 2641342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are they in the same class? If so, I would enlist the teacher to help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-there-is-a-kid-at-school-who-is-a-bad-influence#post-2641341 Mon, 24 Oct 2016 12:31:13 +0000 Rescuemom10 2641341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's tough with it being a cousin. Def adds another element.</p> <p>My DD is over 3.5, and there is a 4 year old in her class who uses VERY BAD words. That was our recent struggle. This child can cuss with the best of them, and even knows HOW to. He can swear in perfect context and knows HOW to use the words. So when my DD came home and dropped the F* bomb I was pretty alarmed. I talked to the teacher about it and we talked a lot to LO about it and just kept addressing what IS and IS NOT appropriate behavior and language in our home. She used a few words a couple times, but I think (Knock on wood) we have it under control and she hasn't in awhile now. </p> <p>Someone already said something about talking to the parents IF you think you could. The other route would be talking to the teacher to see if they could help encourage her to play with other friends or re-direct her in activities that may help her meet and play with others more.</p> <p>That is a tough one. Best of luck. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-there-is-a-kid-at-school-who-is-a-bad-influence#post-2641338 Mon, 24 Oct 2016 12:21:10 +0000 kiddosc 2641338@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you talk to the parents? How do they respond to the behavior when they're at your house? Even if they're somehow separated at school, it sounds like the cousin is in your lives and will continue to be some sort of influence on your LO </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-there-is-a-kid-at-school-who-is-a-bad-influence#post-2641334 Mon, 24 Oct 2016 12:14:41 +0000 mediagirl 2641334@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, so tough that it's LO's cousin. I think I would just keep focusing and praising positive behavior and discussing why we don't do the things you don't want her doing. If she gives you the "so and so does it" I use, "different mommies, different rules." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-there-is-a-kid-at-school-who-is-a-bad-influence#post-2641326 Mon, 24 Oct 2016 12:08:57 +0000 Bao 2641326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>...on your LO, what would you do?</p> <p>We have been struggling with what to do about this for about a good month now. Unfortunately the kid I am referring to is LO's cousin. It started off as her excluding/ignoring LO at times, now it's that and other behaviors we aren't ok with. Using teasing words, being one of them. I know the kids are only 4 but LO is glued to her cousin, won't branch out to other kids, and soaks in all of her behaviors. So far we have just casually talked to LO about asking new friends to play but would love to try something else...</p> <p>Her cousin was over to play the other day and she shows some of the behaviors here too, so I know it's facts not just what LO tells me. </p> <p>Any advice? </p>