https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 18:17:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2052099 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 12:17:53 +0000 Espion 2052099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry I haven't replied, it is a pain in the butt to reply on a phone. </p> <p>I'm just going to neglect to mention all the "immediately" replies to DH. ;) DH feels a little defeated when nothing works. </p> <p>I'm definitely going to look in to the 5 S's, and I think many are right...it will probably help for me not to be around. This kid is a total boob monster and he spends 24 hours a day with me, so I think we'll have to suck it up for a trial run. </p> <p>So hard, though. My maternity leave is so short that I am selfishly okay with being perma-attached to my little buddy for the time being. :/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2052074 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 12:10:59 +0000 meredithNYC 2052074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much right away. I was struggling with PPD and I really needed a lot of support. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2051912 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 11:07:43 +0000 Cole 2051912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Immediately here too but my baby will not nurse for comfort. Try having him watch the 5s's on you tube and encourage him to sing, both work well here, I think she likes the deep sound. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2051900 Tue, 03 Feb 2015 11:02:05 +0000 birdofafeather 2051900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Immediately. The 5s were a lifesaver for us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2051046 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 16:19:44 +0000 lady grey 2051046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it took a lot longer then 4 weeks, but if you are not in the house then maybe baby will respond differently. I've heard babies can smell the milk and can tell when mom is close by! While you're gone I would make sure he has a back up for someone to call to give him a break if your babe is inconsolable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2051042 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 16:16:52 +0000 miramira 2051042@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He's always been able to, but recently the baby has started wailing when DH tries to rock him to sleep. I can't stand listening to the crying, so I often go and take over. Probably not the best strategy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050892 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 14:55:57 +0000 Bubbles 2050892@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was BF, and DS wouldn't take a bottle til 6 months - but feeding never really soothed him due to his TT, so DH was just as good as me from the start. For the first 2 months we both used the exact same method, which was tie him up nice and snug in the moby and dance around to Bon Iver at ear splitting volume! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050877 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 14:47:41 +0000 Maysprout 2050877@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah that's rough with no outside. I breastfed but found them most receptive to bottles of pumped milk after dinner when they were cluster feeding. I would go on short runs so I wouldn't be around for her to see. Another thing they liked was skin to skin. Dh would lay on the couch shirtless and let half naked baby fall asleep on him of squiggle around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050848 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 14:31:29 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2050848@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the hardest part for DH is knowing the tools and tricks to sooth. He often tries one thing and when it doesn't work, he just either keeps trying or gives up. So I would also look at making sure DH has some tools like a paci, swaddle, 5 S's, swing, going outside, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050837 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 14:10:27 +0000 cookiemomster 2050837@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In the hospital, and he's still able to 95% of the time. I'm with her more during the day but he puts her to bed every night and gets up with her most mornings, so he's got his own tricks that have evolved over time. </p> <p>I think there's a lot of truth to the idea that if you aren't an option, the baby will probably do better with dad. Hoping everything goes well for you guys! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050817 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 13:56:19 +0000 78h2o 2050817@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: Yes. Luckily for us, LO was pretty susceptible to the 5 S's. He would swaddle, shush, swing/sway her and let her suck on his pinky finger. I can't remember if he did the side lying part.</p> <p>ETA: I second or third the advice to do some trial runs. Your DH may find that baby is easier to soothe when you're not home and boobs are not an option. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050814 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 13:53:57 +0000 snowjewelz 2050814@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH was great in the beginning but now at 2 mos bc I'm still mostly with her since I'm on leave, I think she is just more used to my way and I have found the tricks that work on her. Even if I tell DH to do what I do I guess it's just different! Not to say he isn't great still :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050804 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 13:47:11 +0000 Mama Bird 2050804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think almost right away, but it's always much harder if I was around, first because the kid could smell milk, and then because he decided he can get away with more with me. He still falls asleep way faster if DH puts him to bed. </p> <p>Oh, and long walks in the cold did wonders until he was like 9 months... but they're not everyone's cup of tea :grin: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050741 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 13:05:22 +0000 looch 2050741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Right away, like in the hospital. My husband's method involved pacing. Not sure if that's good or bad, lol, but as with everything, eventually it didn't work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050737 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 13:04:02 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2050737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Immediately here too. I had trouble with breastfeeding, so I exclusively pumped and LO took a bottle early on. DH was far more patient with LO than I was and would walk him around our basement when he was screaming bloody murder for hours. I needed it for my sanity, and I don't think the next will be any different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050721 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 12:55:22 +0000 NurseDMB 2050721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>From the beginning. DS (18 months) has always been a daddy's boy! He swings to team mommy every so often now :-P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050692 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 12:41:46 +0000 chopsuey 2050692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>awww.. we gave DS a bottle from day 1 and I only nursed in the middle of the night, so DH was able to sooth him early on. Pumping and bottle feeding made life with a toddler and newborn a little easier for us. </p> <p>good luck!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050686 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 12:38:22 +0000 Mae 2050686@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>whether or not my kid would take a bottle is a separate issue but if she *wasn't* hungry then my DH could soothe her really early. Like from the 2nd week on probably. Mostly because he found what worked for him and kept trying. The two things that worked best for him were holding her with her back to his chest and one hand on her belly and the other hand holding her knees up (I think because early on she was gassy a lot? the pressure must have felt good on her stomach) and the other thing was wrapping her in the moby and walking her around outside. Moby was magical. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050678 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 12:34:46 +0000 daniellemybelle 2050678@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It came in waves. Early on, when I was a hormonal recovering wreck, he was a champ at bouncing her on the yoga ball while I convalesced. Then, she got the hang of nursing, he went back to work and she was a mama's girl for a long time. She has had brief daddy's periods and he gained "skills" with her bit by bit. Now at 15 months, I can say confidently that she is just as happy with either of us, but since I am still nursing, I will win if she wants to nurse and I'm around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050643 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 12:19:10 +0000 blackbird 2050643@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: </p> [attach=618/15/nj5mry.396x330.image.jpg] https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050626 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 12:10:09 +0000 Espion 2050626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: lol! Or settle into the hypothermic stupor of not caring. :p</p> <p>DH did get me a gift certificate for a hair cut and style for my birthday. That might be perfect... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050621 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 12:07:25 +0000 blackbird 2050621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Espion: that's always fun :-/ maybe you should go get a pedicure :)</p> <p>Although maybe the cold will shock him into STFU lol. Jk. Kinda. Yes </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050613 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 12:03:29 +0000 Espion 2050613@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Maysprout: @blackbird: I wish we could go outside easily, but it's around 3 degrees here. I have some sweet pictures of DH dancing around on the deck with E when we lived in ATL....</p> <p>@blackbird: Yup, E was the same, because no boob. He was just plain gnarly for everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050603 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 11:58:55 +0000 Espion 2050603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LBee: I think there is a lot of truth to that. Usually by the time I rescue them, DH has resigned himself to the crying. </p> <p>@twodoghouse: Ooo, trial run boot camp. That's a good idea!</p> <p>@Cherrybee: I have to remind him that E was the same way, except E was straight up inconsolable for everyone because he couldn't figure out bottle or boob. But DH was away for 2 weeks after E was born, so he missed the rockiest parts. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050601 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 11:58:41 +0000 blackbird 2050601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Honestly, immediately. He had to find things that worked for him. And my boobs were defunct so we had no fall back. He often walked E outside, far away from me, which worked the best. I think E knew when I was around or just knew that I would step in. So I didnt. And it sucked at first. The 5S, yes! He did angry shushing and set E high on his collarbone. I read somewhere that the deep rumble of a man's voice is soothing</p> <p>Baby may not get what he wants, but he's gotta learn that daddy is ok, too! Especially with that trip coming up :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050600 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 11:58:20 +0000 Maysprout 2050600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Some combo of the 5 s's and going outside worked pretty well from the get go with both. Good luck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050597 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 11:55:08 +0000 MenagerieMama 2050597@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it really took until I went back to work and he had to be the only soother when I was gone when he was the caretaker to fully master it. Now he's great! Sometimes better than me if she isn't hungry :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050591 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 11:50:34 +0000 Cherrybee 2050591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Immediately.... he was so much better at it then me right from the start. As a toddler, DD needs her mummy cuddles but that's a very recent development! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050589 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 11:50:28 +0000 twodoghouse 2050589@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have twins, so DH learned immediately how to soothe a screaming baby while I fed the other. Around 3.5 months they gave up paci and swaddle and became boob monsters so now we have more problems with them preferring me. </p> <p>Does he take a paci? Do you have a yoga ball to bounce him on? I'd probably do a bootcamp before your trip where you get out of the house with LO1 and give him all the crutches possible (paci, bottles, swaddles, carrier if you have one, swing, yoga ball, bouncer, EVERYTHING!) and let them go at it until they figure their own strategy. I had many baby soothing techniques (in addition to boobs!) that worked for me but not DH. He had to find what worked for him! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-was-dh-able-to-soothe-your-baby#post-2050582 Mon, 02 Feb 2015 11:47:26 +0000 LBee 2050582@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even at almost 6 months I've noticed that my husband can't soothe my son like I can. I am also a little bit of a control freak, though. </p> <p>This sounds kind of harsh (towards my husband), but I've noticed that when I'm NOT around, he has no trouble getting T settled down. It's not like I come home and T is screaming his head off. I feel like it's a combination of a few things: (1) T can smell the real deal (aka milk / mom) when I'm in the house, freaking bloodhound baby, (2) my husband knows in the back of his mind that I will eventually swoop in, and (3) sort of the same as 2, but my husband isn't desperate enough to try everything. I also think that at around 2-3 weeks we started to know the "tricks" for settling him down (he's a bouncer addict), so that helped a lot. </p> <p>Long story short, I think all will be fine for your 4 day trip! </p>