https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 04 May 2026 05:01:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-253775 Thu, 09 Aug 2012 20:00:10 +0000 cranberryapple 253775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks, everyone, for the reassurance! :) I do enjoy holding him and I'm certain I will miss these times when he's older. I'm relieved to hear that this is normal! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-250215 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 20:33:38 +0000 Mrs. Pen 250215@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've all been there! For the first 4 weeks DH and I took turns holding him all night, it was the only way any of us could get any sleep.<br /> Then at 4 weeks we just took him to bed with us because we were so exhausted. At 3.5 months he slept in his crib on his own. He is just over 5 mos now and completely independent for sleeping. It's a little sad now and I remember that first month SO fondly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-250210 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 20:30:24 +0000 MamaBehr 250210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The best piece of advice I ever got was "everything is a phase, the good and the bad" and so, this too shall pass. With my first LO, I slept upright in a chair until she was at least two and half months old. Then, slowly, she began to make the transition to the crib. The screaming was atrocious, but she ended up calming down as she got older. Don't worry about creating habits or spoiling the baby yet, the first six weeks of life is all about survival for the parents. Do what works (though you might want to try co-sleeping for a little while, so you are at least laying down). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-250007 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 17:32:12 +0000 X0X0X0 250007@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same thing happened to us and believe me "it will pass". We researched and tried every method because our baby cried bloody murder when we tried to put her down at day or night. I recommend trying different methods and see what sticks. What worked for us at 1 month was to use a Swaddle Summer infant swaddle me blanket, shushing baby to sleep, and we started putting her down in the Summer Infant Rest Assured Sleeper (and using sound machine that comes with it)...eventhough pre-baby I swore I would never co-sleep but I just couldn't deal with the lack of sleep anymore). She soon started sleeping 2hrs, then 3hrs, then would only wake up once a nite (this is when we put co-sleeper in crib), and now at 2 months sleeps from 10pm - 7am (transitioning to sleep on actual crib mattress). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-249762 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 14:39:24 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 249762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Trust me, it will be over before you know it. Right now, my LO is 12 weeks and wont even sleep in my arms anymore! She is a bed only girl....as soon as I pick her up, she just wants to look around and be social. I miss the cuddly newborn phase. I remember being so frustrated because she cried every time I set her down....boy, how things change! Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-249712 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 14:03:15 +0000 erwoo 249712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were opposite. LO wanted to be held all the time during the day time and slept well at night. Then we slowly started swing napping him around 3 months of age. He now swing naps between 1-3 hours. He does need some rocking from time-to-time before he settles for the night; but it's only for the first 30 minutes of his night time sleep so not bad. I just rock him until he starts smiling or breathing hard and then I set him down gently. Most of the time he stays asleep. Good luck and I hope he sleeps better at night soon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-249609 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 12:47:59 +0000 mrsjazz 249609@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrsbells: @cranberryapple: I was about to respond but Mrsbells wrote everything I would've said.</p> <p>Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-249601 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 12:43:55 +0000 plantains 249601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sorry you are getting so little sleep. Have you tried swaddling? It was the only thing that helped LO in the beginning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-249598 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 12:42:34 +0000 cvbee 249598@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you swaddle?<br /> I found when baby was swaddled at night he was all good, as it probably feels like he's still being held. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-249594 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 12:40:33 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 249594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup all newborns are like this! He really can't self sooth yet. Like others mentioned by 8 weeks you'll probably be able to leave him a little longer. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-249577 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 12:26:13 +0000 Freckles 249577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 weeks is way too early. At 3 weeks i couldnt do anything...couldnt put LO down without her crying. Have you thought about carrying him in a carrier to make things easier? I agree with @mrsbells, it passes quickly. I was also worried about bad habits forming but you dont have to worry about that until 6-8 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-249527 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 11:42:52 +0000 Mrsbells 249527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@cranberryapple: Hang in there, I know exactly how you feel, my LO was the same and then around 6 weeks she suddenly became a bit more independent and was ok to be left by herself for short periods. I promise its just a newborn phase and they will outgrow it soon. At 2 weeks I would say yes your LO is too young to self soothe. But you will be surprised how fast this phase passes. My LO is only 3.5 months old but she is so much more independent than she was at 2 weeks. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-will-my-newborn-not-need-to-sleep-in-my-arms#post-249523 Mon, 06 Aug 2012 11:39:33 +0000 cranberryapple 249523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My baby is 2 weeks old and while he will sleep in 2-3 hour stretches in the daytime in his bassinet, at night time, it is a whole different story. Once we lay him down, he will start whimpering/kicking his legs/fussing within 5-10 minutes. I suppose he just likes being held, but I obviously don't want to make this a habit! Supposedly we can't spoil a newborn, right? These past nights, I've fallen asleep upright just holding him, but it's not good for my back to be sitting the entire night! I don't pick him up right away when he starts whimpering. I usually wait until he's more "frustrated", hoping that maybe he will be able to self-soothe to get back to sleep. Is he too young for self-soothing? Should I just pick him up the moment he makes a peep? *Sigh* I'm tired. He's so needy! I'd feel better if I knew all newborns were like this, but I have a feeling he is EXTRA needier than most! </p>