https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 01:30:17 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2591839 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 09:25:36 +0000 Alivoo01 2591839@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We wanted a 2 year gap between #1 and #2, after a miscarriage, they ended up being 24 months apart. I really like that age gap!</p> <p>If we decide to have #3, I think we'll try to shoot for a 2 year gap again since I'm getting a lil older and conceiving and maintaining a pregnancy isn't easy for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2591792 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 08:45:02 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 2591792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, the first two are 20 months apart, then 3 years to number 3. The main reason we waited was because I felt my body needed a break after 2 pregnancies and nursing for so long. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2591723 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 07:34:37 +0000 bushelandapeck 2591723@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My first two are 26 months apart, exactly. If we have a third, I would like for the gap to be closer to 3yrs so that DD (#2) is in preschool and more independent than DS was at 26mos. This would mean starting to TTC in Dec/Jan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2591681 Mon, 25 Jul 2016 00:08:50 +0000 Boogs 2591681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine are over 3 years apart. It has been so great in so many ways now, but down the road I don't know if I'll love it as much. If we did have another we would have tried to shoot for a 2 year gap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2589398 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 21:42:47 +0000 PinkElephant 2589398@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rainbow Sprinkles: I have always said I could go 3 kids or 4 kids; 3 if they're all close together, or 4 if we have two closely spaced sets of two with a larger gap between them (so maybe 4 years between 2 and 3). I've ended up in the first scenario, and the other day DH said something about #4.....haha he stopped me in my tracks! 😝 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2589393 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 21:34:22 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2589393@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We planned on having #1 and #2 close together, which we did. They are 19 month apart. The plan was then to wait 4 years or so, and have another two close together. Which would put #2 and #3 four years apart. HOWEVER. I ended up getting pregnant totally unplanned an our third is now 22 months younger than our second. We had no intentions of them all being so close, but I wouldn't change it for the world! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2589352 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 20:20:52 +0000 lilteacherbee 2589352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My two are 20 months apart and we're planning on a similar gap with #3 (which means we're starting TTC again soon!!). I originally wanted a 2- 2.5 year gap between LO1 and LO2, but we started TTC when LO1 turned one because it took over a year to conceive him (with a miscarriage in there). Because of that, we'll be TTC when LO2 turns one. He was conceived super fast, but there's always a chance it could take awhile like the first time, so I'd rather start sooner than later. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2589347 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 20:14:03 +0000 cheesetomywhine 2589347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted mine to be around the same or a bit closer. R and S are 22 months apart and S and D are 19.5 months apart. I am hoping for anywhere between 18 and 23 months apart when/if we go for #4. Sometimes I think I am crazy lol! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2589341 Wed, 20 Jul 2016 20:05:57 +0000 cat620 2589341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sons are 25 months apart, so pretty close to two years. My oldest has always been more high needs than the average child, so I wish the gap would have been larger, but it wasn't planned. My oldest didn't take having a brother too well, and he constantly wanted my attention all the time and got jealous when I did things with the baby. He recently turned 3, and he seems to be maturing a lot, and he is starting to like his brother. I think a 3 year gap would have been ideal, because he seemed like he needed me so much when he was younger. </p> <p>My second son is much more laid back than my oldest, so I could probably handle a smaller age gap, but I don't want to. I want a little break from being pregnant, and I would like to enjoy my two boys for a while. I think if I go for a third, I would want a 3+ year gap. Luckily, time is on my side. I'm 28. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588655 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 19:49:11 +0000 PinkElephant 2588655@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aimed for similar, but slightly bigger, age gap. I did not want to go less than 2 years this time, but if we got to much more than 3, that might have felt like too much for me. DD1 and DD2 are 22 months apart, currently just turned 4 and 2 (26 months-ish). DD3 will be almost 2.5 years younger than DD2 if I go to my due date, so probably a bit less (I tend to deliver early and I've been having some growth issues this pregnancy). The only bad thing about my timing is it means DD3 is being born in a totally different season than her sisters, which is a little tricky for hand me downs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588648 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 19:34:20 +0000 shellio 2588648@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The gap was 22 months between both 1/2 and 2/3, almost the same to the day. We actually wanted 2/3 even closer together, since we're getting older (late 30s) didn't see any good reason to wait and like having all our kids close together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588629 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 18:25:30 +0000 mfa_lady 2588629@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Deer: My girls will be 22 months apart, too--I'm due with #2 at the end of October. Don't think we can manage three in daycare (at least not for long) so we'll be waiting a little longer for a third, too. You'll have to let me know how it works out! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588615 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 17:44:24 +0000 catomd00 2588615@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're planning on a slightly smaller age gap (23-25 months vs 27 months)only because I'd like another early summer baby. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588601 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 16:48:49 +0000 MrsB2012 2588601@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We tried for the same age gap ( 18 months) as we really liked that age difference. It ended up taking longer than we thought, so 2 and 3 will be just over 2 years apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588594 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 16:34:06 +0000 oliviaoblivia 2588594@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were surprised with a 12.5 month gap between 2&amp;3. 1&amp;2 are 23.5 months apart.<br /> I think we'll aim for 20-24ish months apart for #4. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588575 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 15:51:23 +0000 Mrs. Deer 2588575@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our girls are 22 months apart and hoping for a bigger gap the next time around. :) if we got pregnant say next month, the gap between #2 and #3 would be just over 2.5 years. Hopefully will have some big milestones out of the way. And depending on timing, even with the bigger gap they still likely could be two school years apart, the same as the older girls which could be cool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588572 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 15:45:39 +0000 autumnlove 2588572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1 &amp; 2 are 16 months apart. We wanted a larger gap and 2 &amp; 3 are 2 years and 3 months apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588560 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 15:33:04 +0000 MrsRcCar 2588560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>N and E are 16 months apart. E and this baby will about 32 months apart. We didn't push to get pregnant after E just let it happen. </p> <p>Totally do it. Join the three plus crowd. 😉<br /> We will be:<br /> October 2012<br /> February 2014<br /> October/November 2016 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588548 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 15:09:16 +0000 anonysquire 2588548@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We started going through the adoption process when my baby #2 was 8 months old. We were matched with a baby that would have been born around my 2nds 1st bday so they all would have been a year apart but the mom decided to parent so that didn't work out. Now we're still TTC and it hasn't been successful so I don't know what the heck were doing haha. Ideally I would have liked my kids all a year apart. But I can't imagine being pregnant last year while dealing with my sons colic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588540 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 14:44:41 +0000 Canoli 2588540@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My oldest 2 are 2.5 years apart and we were going to try for that age difference for our third because we liked that age gap and mine and my husbands age was a factor. However, we got pregnant our first month trying so #2 and #3 are exactly 2 years apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588502 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:57:39 +0000 skipra 2588502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The difference between #1 &amp; #2 is 20 months. #2 &amp; #3 should be about 28 months. I absolutely love the gap between my first two but it wasn't even physically possible for me to get pregnant at that point and I just wasn't ready. I also didn't want a newborn in the summer. So we waited to try until I would have a September due date and LO1 would be at least 4. Both kids will be in preschool a couple mornings a week which will be a huge help too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588499 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:52:53 +0000 Pumuckl 2588499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We loved the 21m gap between #1 and #2 but my body didn't handle it all too well and I definitely didn't want to be BF while pregnant again so we waited a little longer. So #2 will be about 24m when the twins hopefully arrive next year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588491 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:47:38 +0000 rattles 2588491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We want at least one more, and there will already be a bigger gap. My first two are 2 years (23.5 months) apart. I loved that spread, but DH had a stressful grad program this year and my second pregnancy was really rough, so we opted to wait until he finished (next week!) before we discussed TTC. At this point, a third would be at least 2.5 years younger than my second. I like the two grade spread, but if it doesn't happen fairly quickly, it'll be more like 3. Past that, I think I'd want a fourth two years behind the hypothetical third. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588486 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:43:39 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2588486@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@whiskers: Agree with looking at considering the gap between #1 and #3. I think she will still by "young" enough at age 5 to still play with blocks or dolls or little things. After more of a 6 year gap or more I think you start dealing with kids in two different age spans (one baby/one elementary and one toddler/one big kid etc) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588482 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:41:45 +0000 T.H.O.U. 2588482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well between #1 and #2 we were ready for a 2 year gap but ended up with a 3 year gap. This time with #2 and #3, we didn't really decide, we just let it happen and we got lucky the first time which means these will have a 2 year gap. </p> <p>Aug 2011<br /> Aug 2014<br /> Aug 2016 </p> <p>The three year gap worked out GREAT. My oldest was old enough to know what was going on. She completed potty training and transition to a big girl bed. She could appreciate the baby and knew how to share and wait and help. </p> <p>I'm a bit more nervous about the two year gap this time. He's not potty trained, we had to buy another crib and he has no clue whats about to hit him. But we were happy because the oldest will be in K so it still means only 2 in daycare at a time. And I'm not sure we would have been so eager to go back to the baby stage if we had waited another year and were still on the fence about a third. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588480 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:39:01 +0000 whiskers 2588480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Age gap between DD1 and DD2 is 25.5 months. Gap between DD2 and DD3 will be 20.5 months. </p> <p>Factors:<br /> I wanted the gap between DD1 and DD3 to be less than 5 years. She will be 3 yrs 10 months when DD3 is due.<br /> I want to be able to focus on my career sooner than later.<br /> I don't want to get out of the diapers stage (and everything related to it) and have to go back into it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588473 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:30:42 +0000 josina 2588473@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're 9 weeks with #2 yet, and a 3rd isn't a for-sure thing (I'm all in, DH isn't yet) but we would space out 2 and 3 a bit more so we're only paying for 2 in daycare.<br /> There will be 2 years 3 months between 1 &amp; 2. And we would need 2 years 6 months between 2 &amp; 3 to have #1 in all-day preschool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588469 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:27:47 +0000 matador84 2588469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i would want the same age difference between a 3rd and 4th. we would want to wait until 1 and 2 are in at least full day kinder. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588455 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:07:07 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2588455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm really really hoping to have a 3rd. My first 2 are 19 months apart and while that has its great parts, I didnt want to do it again. I'm hoping to TTC when DD2 is somewhere around 2.5 so we will have a little over twice the age gap as we did with the first 2. Having kids is hard period, but man, having 2 babies in the house was really hard for me. I feel like I missed a lot of an extremely enjoyable age with DD1 because I was stressing or hormonal after having DD2. Plus, not having to worry about what exactly my child is doing while I run off to vomit sounds nice lol</p> <p>ETA: we would have had an 18 month gap between 2 and 3 but we lost that pregnancy. I want more distance from my miscarriage before trying again, which factors into everything as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-decided-to-go-for-a-3rd#post-2588454 Tue, 19 Jul 2016 13:04:02 +0000 winniebee 2588454@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We got surprise pregnant when DS2 was 9 months. That would have resulted in a terrifying 17 month age gap. But we miscarried. We then got pregnant again and our two youngest would have been 22 months apart, but we lost our son at 18 weeks. Our sons have a 2.5 year age gap and though I really liked that gap, we were shooting for a closer gap since I'm 36. At this point, if we do decide to try again for a third, our age gap would be at least 2.5 years. </p>