https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 24 Apr 2026 09:33:32 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-277335 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 22:02:09 +0000 anonysquire 277335@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think my mom would be more offended if I brought something. She is an amazing cook and wants to do it herself and wants no help. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-277332 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 22:00:37 +0000 betsyboop 277332@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not to my parents, but always dessert and booze when we go to my in-laws. And always SOMEthing when going to a friend's place. To be honest, I expect it of my guests too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-277254 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 21:20:09 +0000 prettylizy 277254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We only make bring something if it's a big dinner or not my parents or IL's. I usually make a token offer though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-277250 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 21:18:45 +0000 mynoahbear 277250@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always take something, small gift, when going to visit anyone. It's absolutely customary here. It would be considered rude if you didn't have something. And it has to be wrapped or boxed nicely. It was annoying at first but after 4 years, it's just something we don't even think about anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-277235 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 21:13:41 +0000 Mrs. Oatmeal 277235@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always bring something when I go to someone's house, but I don't expect it from my guests. That being said, I do appreciate it when people at least offer to bring something. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-277234 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 21:13:19 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 277234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always bring wine, flowers or dessert, but I don't bring anything to Mom or MIL unless it's a special occasion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-277224 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 21:11:20 +0000 aprk 277224@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always bring something consumable - dessert or wine, mostly. Sometimes flowers if it's a nice occasion or a celebration. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276943 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:19:14 +0000 bienlivingdesign 276943@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always bring something to dinner - usually a bottle of wine or dessert. But going over to my mother in law's house, I wouldn't feel like I had to bring anything... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276937 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:17:27 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 276937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually don't take anything to my parent's house. I help them cook when I get there. I ask when we are going over to visit my extended family. They usually have me bring a dessert or appetizer. With friends, it is usually wine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276923 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:13:17 +0000 yin 276923@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would be that girlfriend who doesn't bring anything over. I was also pretty young when I first dated DH (boyfriend at the time of course), and I didn't know I was expected to contribute anything to big family events (don't think it's possible for me to bring any single item that could feed my DH's entire extended family). My MIL gave me the hint a few years ago by suggesting different dishes for me to make. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276886 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 19:04:07 +0000 blackbird 276886@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends who it is. If it's family, not unless we're asked. We always offer. A friend's house? Wine or dessert. </p> <p>I don't necessarily think the gf shows a lack of respect, though. Maybe her son is like, "nah, don't worry about it!"</p> <p>If the shoe was on the other foot, I don't think many people would be upset their daughter's boyfriend didn't bring something over </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276852 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 18:56:09 +0000 Smurfette 276852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For family, nothing. If we go to friends, I ask if we can bring anything, if they say nothing, I bring wine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276591 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 17:40:14 +0000 chopsuey 276591@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would take fruit, flowers, something over if I was going to a BF's parents' place for dinner. Probably only the first time though.. definitely not each time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276587 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 17:37:10 +0000 Mrsbells 276587@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not unless its a big dinner and everyone is bringing a dish </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276566 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 17:21:29 +0000 Mrs. Pen 276566@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>maybe it's a regional thing because no one ever does that here!! lol I've never brought a gift to someone's house, and I certainly didn't when I met DH's family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276563 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 17:09:19 +0000 DigAPony 276563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With friends I just ask what I should bring, and our friends usually ask us the same. Typically it's salad or wine or beer. We don't live in the same state as our parents so I'd never bring something for dinner with them! I'm not sure I would even if we did, only because I think with family you can be a bit more casual. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276560 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:57:12 +0000 JerricaBenton 276560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm trying to think about when my husband and I were dating - his family lives out of state so we would drive or fly to get there but I think I always brought something like cookies or bread or something. I know I did the first 4 visits or so. I think I stopped once we got engaged/married though. If we visit for a holiday I still bring something but not otherwise. My brother's girlfriend is at my parents' house every other weekend and she never brings anything and my mom has never said anything and I never really thought about it. I think it's nice, especially the first few times but I don't think it should be expected with family all the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276555 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:49:10 +0000 heffalump 276555@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends..... not usually just for dinner at parents house. For a big holiday meal I try to bring something to DH's parent's house. I don't to my mom's because I'm usually with her all day cooking, but I don't do that with DH's mom so I do like to bring something. But for the first few meals that were just meals..... no I didn't bring anything. And I always feel awful because I usually have a migraine so I can't even offer to help cook or clean up :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276542 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:37:37 +0000 PurplePumps 276542@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Friends place, a bottle of wine usually. Parents? Probably nothing, it's my *parents*, we're long past that formality. Extended family that I dont see often, perhaps a few oranges (I'm Asian so that's customary). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276539 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:35:48 +0000 Mrs. Lantern 276539@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>All the kids go to the parents house for dins on wednesdays and on occasion we would bring treats, but nothing is ever expected. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276536 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:32:52 +0000 tororojo 276536@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For family, we don't bring anything unless it's a pot-luck type event with extended family. I doubt she means it to be offensive; her family probably just does things differently. </p> <p>Also, I think not bringing a gift is just as much on your brother as his girlfriend--why would it be solely her responsibility? He may have even told her not to worry about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276534 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:31:36 +0000 LuLu Mom 276534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends, parents house no, unless it's a holiday. Friend's house I usually ask if there is anything I can bring, but I am never offended if someone shows up empty handed. If I invite you to dinner, I don't expect you to chip in! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276532 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:26:42 +0000 hilsy85 276532@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends who it is...not when we go to our parents, but yes when we go to any other relatives house. For friends, we'll usually bring a bottle of wine or dessert. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276527 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:24:17 +0000 HLK208 276527@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never expect anything when people come over but I appreciate it when they do! I always try to bring flowers or desert to the in-laws when we visit. If we saw them frequently then I probably wouldn't bring something over every time but we only see them maybe once a month. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276524 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:22:02 +0000 Running Elley 276524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaMoose: Same here!</p> <p>When we go over to MIL’s house I always ask what we can bring and since we go over there fairly frequently I don’t take something each time if she says she has it covered. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276522 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:21:04 +0000 yoursilverlining 276522@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always bring a bottle of wine. I also always ask if the host would like me to bring something like dessert or a small appetizer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276520 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:20:38 +0000 MamaMoose 276520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If someone invites us to dinner at their house I always ask what I can bring. If they tell me nothing, then I bring a bottle of wine. I only actually cook something if I clear with with the host first because I wouldn't want them to feel like they had to serve something I brought if it didn't go with the menu they planned. But I'm definitely not offended if someone doesn't bring something when they come to my house for dinner. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276518 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:17:36 +0000 DillonLion 276518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually bring something but I do not expect it from guests at my home nor get offended if someone shows up at my house empty handed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-eat-at-someones-house#post-276517 Thu, 30 Aug 2012 16:16:35 +0000 autumnlove 276517@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My Mom is butt hurt because my brother and his girlfriend have been over 5 times for dinner and she has never brought anything over. She says she doesn't necessarily care about the gift but thinks his gf displays a lack of respect. She says something small would go a long way...maybe some fruit, dessert or some flowers.</p> <p>Do you usually bring a dish or a small hostess gift? </p>