https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 04 Apr 2026 21:02:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2388105 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 15:58:02 +0000 Bubbles 2388105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes it absolutely does annoy me, I am English and we are obsessed with saying thank you and sorry! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387981 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 15:03:48 +0000 Mommy Finger 2387981@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This does annoy me. I often times will say "you're welcome" afterwards but I realize that's sort of passive aggressive</p> <p>@megjay18: Yes! At my work we have 5 doors to go through in a short amount of time so it does get sort of awkward. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387954 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 14:52:10 +0000 littlebug 2387954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It bothers me. So I usually just loudly say, "You're welcome!" with a big smile on my face. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387948 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 14:41:36 +0000 megjay18 2387948@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ineebee: haha - me too. i'm just like 'thanks again!' </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387947 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 14:40:34 +0000 ineebee 2387947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@megjay18: I've thought about this too! I just say it twice with a playful tone to acknowledge the weirdness. Better to be too polite and it be awkward than not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387940 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 14:36:51 +0000 megjay18 2387940@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i always say thank you and i get annoyed when people don't say it when i hold a door. i think it's just rude. if someone does something nice for you, just acknowledge it with a thank you - it's not difficult.</p> <p>side question - at my work, the parking garage is connected to the main building via walkway. there are two doors to go through. so - do you say thank you both times? i always find it so awkward... especially if i hold open the first one, then i walk faster than that person. i usually wait for them at the second door to hold it open again because i'm an awkward person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387889 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 13:57:22 +0000 travelgirl1 2387889@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Champagne: I found Canadians just as bad as the next person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387888 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 13:56:37 +0000 travelgirl1 2387888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh I get sooo annoyed by this! Mainly because when I'm pushing a double stroller and often have a baby strapped to me, it is not easy for me to hold the door open. Just say thank you! And I will admit to making snarky "you're welcome" comments too :shocked: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387864 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 13:36:13 +0000 ineebee 2387864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not doing it for the appreciation, but it's just common courtesy to thank the person. If a bunch of people are going through the door and each person is holding it open for the person behind them, whatever. But if I'm going through the door, I look back and see someone a few steps behind me, and I WAIT with the door open, come on. They can acknowledge the kindness.</p> <p>@mediagirl: Ha! I always want to do this but don't have the guts! I do say "you're welcome" under my breath, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387833 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 13:17:22 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2387833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm Canadian so we say thank you about 80 times when someone holds a door. Only young kids probably wouldn't. Most do! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387818 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 13:02:56 +0000 HLK208 2387818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I usually say thank you twice to make sure I'm heard. I don't mind when others don't say thank you...although it doesn't happen often! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387802 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 12:45:56 +0000 catomd00 2387802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends what kind of mood I'm in! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387799 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 12:42:34 +0000 fancyfunction 2387799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: If I'm feeling moody I usually do the same :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387752 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 12:11:41 +0000 meredithNYC 2387752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It really, really bothers me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387747 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 12:09:20 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2387747@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't ruin my day or anything, but I definitely get a little annoyed when people don't even acknowledge someone else doing something nice for them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387743 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 12:08:20 +0000 Alivoo01 2387743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm not bothered by it since people aren't as courteous as before, but I still do my part and think it's more of on me being kind then expecting a response.</p> <p>@MamaG: I say "uh huh" or "no problem" sometimes. Oops! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387741 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 12:07:34 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2387741@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I get annoyed, but I don't let it deter me from doing it again for the next person.</p> <p>A friend of mine once got a snotty "you're welcome" from someone who held the door for her. She was so mad at him. She was on the phone talking and she felt having the door held open for her was his way of letting her not have to break conversation. I explained it's polite to give some sort of acknowledgement- head nod, smile, mouthed thank you. Something! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387729 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 12:02:45 +0000 MamaG 2387729@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always make sure to say thank you. I also make sure to respond with "you are welcome" when someone thanks me. One of my Euro co-workers once told me that Americans are incredibly rude by responding "uh huh" when someone says Thank You. It really struck me, so now I'm very aware and make sure to say you are welcome (and thank you too). (Not really what you asked but felt the need to share). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387690 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:38:58 +0000 snowjewelz 2387690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't care/notice! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387682 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:36:53 +0000 irene 2387682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes I am annoyed, especially when they didn't even look at you or smile or nod, as if you are supposed to hold the door for your highness. But usually I get over it quickly..... I remind myself that maybe they are having a bad day. </p> <p>There are times I forgot to say thank you too, but that is because I was distracted and my mind is somewhere. Usually I feel very bad afterwards. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387677 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:33:58 +0000 MrsSCB 2387677@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't care. I'm not being polite to get a thank you, it's more just instinct at this point. Although I do say thank you if someone else holds the door for me! And I also think most people do the same. At least, I can't recall anyone NOT saying it, but I may not even notice. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387672 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:31:03 +0000 autumnleaves 2387672@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't expect a thank you - I just hold the door because I know I like for someone to hold the door for me when my hands are full. I think I say thank you but it's possible my mind is elsewhere sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387670 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:29:08 +0000 yoursilverlining 2387670@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It doesn't bother me. Where we live, everyone holds the door all the time and I don't usually notice or care if someone says thank you or not. I always try to say thank you, unless it's multiple doors in a short period of time and then I think one thank you covers it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387665 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:26:59 +0000 SweetiePie 2387665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to be annoyed. But then one time someone held it for me and I said thanks but they didn't hear me. They then told me off and said "it's customary to say thank you when someone holds the door" in a really shitty tone. And I was so shocked I just said "but I did!" And that's when I realized that maybe I didn't hear it or maybe even they are having a bad day or ultra shy. So I don't let it bother me. I did it to be nice, so I did my part.<br /> ETA: what DOES make me mad though is when I'm pushing a stroller through a door and men don't hold it for me. I've had them look me in the eye and let it go. Then I do usually say "gee thanks". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387662 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:22:58 +0000 BSB 2387662@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: I do have a very quiet voice or I mumble so people usually can't hear me. I usually make eye contact so I hope they see that I appreciate it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387660 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:21:46 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 2387660@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Little things like that don't bother me. It really bothers DH. He goes on rants about how people are no longer courteous. :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387659 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:20:46 +0000 hilsy85 2387659@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ok so I am on the other end of this ALL THE TIME. I ALWAYS say thank you when someone holds the door, and for some reason they n ever hear me, and then 99% of the time they make a snarky comment. I guess I speak too quietly?</p> <p>ETA and it also annoys me that people get angry if they think they don't hear a thank you. I never really care if I am thanked for holding doors! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387658 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:19:48 +0000 BSB 2387658@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: Oh, nothing happened. It happened to me this morning and I was just curious what others thought. It's Monday and I'm trying to think positively and think that maybe he said it and I didn't hear it. Or maybe he lost his voice. Giving him the benefit of the doubt on this Monday morning. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387646 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:15:32 +0000 mediagirl 2387646@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Sometimes I'll say "you're welcome..." and usually I get the side-eye for that. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-hold-the-door-for-someone-and-they-dont-say-thank-you#post-2387642 Mon, 14 Dec 2015 11:11:50 +0000 Adira 2387642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find it annoying. I mean, I'm not holding the door to get a thank you, but how hard is it to thank someone who's doing something nice for you?? Manners, people! </p>