https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 07 Jul 2026 15:14:00 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-141101 Sat, 28 Apr 2012 09:30:37 +0000 looch 141101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have my shoes on when my sitter comes, it's literally "hi, here are some instructions for the day, I'll be doing xyz, see you later!"</p> <p>I find that works best. We had some crying spells, lasted about a year, but consistency is key! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-141018 Sat, 28 Apr 2012 04:43:43 +0000 SAHM0811 141018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely say bye and try to make it quick... Don't draw it out if he makes a fuss, which just makes it worse. I read too that if you sneak out, they will start to get anxious that they'll be snuck out on unknowingly again. </p> <p>I know it's tough though... I hate leaving my kids, especially when I can hear the cries after I shut the door :( but then I give it a few minutes and call just so I know they got over it okay. Makes me feel better about leaving... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140974 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 23:28:44 +0000 BoogieBea 140974@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always say bye to him but I make it a quick goodbye. If he cries, it's usually only for a couple minutes. I snuck out a couple of times but then I don't want him to think I just suddenly vanished, so I stopped doing that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140963 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 23:05:36 +0000 Boogs 140963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always say bye and give hug and kisses, but he's also at an age where he's not really bothered by my leaving. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140961 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 23:01:04 +0000 Maysprout 140961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was just thinking about posting this question!<br /> I am starting to think that baby has a harder time if I just sneak away because whoever's watching her will say she starts looking around after a few minutes, which then leads to tears. If I say bye though she happily waves bye (mommy's not happy to wave bye though I pretend). My sister was watching her today after I said bye and said she was fine until right before we came back (right around her bed time) and she walked over to the front door (where we left from) and sat next to it and cried until she distracted her again. So she grasps that mommy has gone somewhere but in one she at least understands but if I sneak away I'm just a mystery. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140618 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 15:40:53 +0000 Mrs. Superhero 140618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Totally depends on her mood. If she's having a weepy toddler time, I sneak out. If she's happy then we say buhbye with many blown kisses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140523 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:33:33 +0000 heffalump 140523@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I read somewhere that it's best to say goodbye so your LO knows what's going on, where you're going, and trusts that you'll come back. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140502 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:20:16 +0000 purrpletulips 140502@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What do you do when you have to leave to run an errand or go to work? I'd suggest doing that. Wagon Sr. should expect to answer "where's mama" questions for awhile (possibly all weekend) regardless of how you leave.</p> <p>I usually have LO give me a kiss and hug then say bye to her before I go anywhere so that is what I'd do. DH does the same and every morning when he goes to work I have to answer where he's gone about 10 times before she moves onto something else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140482 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:10:48 +0000 Andrea 140482@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@banana: @mrs. wagon: @chopsuey119: only my LO is clingy? you guys are so lucky x 1,000,000,000%!!!!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140470 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:08:11 +0000 mrs. wagon 140470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: awww!!! so cute. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140468 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:08:02 +0000 chopsuey 140468@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We hardly ever leave her. When I leave for something I'll kiss her bye. She doesn't care when I leave :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140464 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:06:12 +0000 Andrea 140464@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: DH is never home so the LO always says "Daddy is at work!". It is cute and funny because how does she know what "work" is???? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140461 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:05:09 +0000 mrs. wagon 140461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh... the last time Wagon Sr. had to work late and I did pickup, dinner, and bedtime by myself he did keep asking "where daddy go?" and he didn't understand my explanations of "he's at work, he will be home later" but he didn't cry about it. So I'm hoping it'll be the same this way around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140459 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:04:13 +0000 mrs. wagon 140459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just asked Wagon Jr. and he suggested the same thing I and @mediagirl did: lavish him with attention (really more for me than him) and then disappear. Wagon Sr. can definitely deal with him, I think, it's really just a matter of the moments when he asks. He's not super attached to me or anything so I think distractions like gummies, yogurt melts, and tv will help :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140453 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 14:02:11 +0000 mediagirl 140453@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think I would just lavish extra attention on him when you do see him this evening. If you think he will do okay with you saying goodbye, then do so. If you think he'll freak out, maybe you should sneak out. The only question is, if you do sneak out, is Wagon Sr. prepared to deal with Wagon Jr. wondering where Mama is? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140448 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 13:58:55 +0000 banana 140448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always say "see you later!" so that he knows I'm leaving but will always come back. I want him to get used to seeing me leave and come back. But honestly, I don't think he really cares if any of us leave or stay or whatevs. He doesn't have separation anxiety in the slightest right now. I dont' know if I should take as a good thing or as an insult! haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140445 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 13:56:59 +0000 Andrea 140445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I used to sneak out when she was younger but now I say bye. It is better than her suddenly realizing 5 minutes later that I am gone and then DH has to deal with a meltdown. We have tried it both ways and me saying goodbye works best at the moment. Have fun! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-you-leave-do-you-sneak-out-or-say-bye-to-your-lo#post-140440 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 13:54:12 +0000 mrs. wagon 140440@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm leaving this afternoon for a weekend away from Wagon Sr. and Jr., and I'm starting to get a little anxious. I'm not worried about Wagon Jr. since he'll be with his dad the entire time (I'm more worried about Wagon Sr.!) but I'm dreading the moment I have to leave. It'll be before his bedtime, so I'm not sure if I should say goodbye to him or if I should sneak out while he's not looking. I just do NOT want him to cry... but I feel like sneaking out is, well, a little sneaky.</p> <p>He's not super attached to me or anything, but he's in the "I want everything my way" phase so if he sees me saying bye and he doesn't want me to leave, he will probably throw a fit.</p> <p>I'm leaning more towards just covering him with kisses from the moment I see him after work, then sneaking out while he's eating dinner with Wagon Sr.</p> <p>Do you sneak out? Or do you make it a point to say goodbye and let them know you're leaving? </p>