https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 11:03:21 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-doctors-disagree-with-each-other#post-2782576 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 11:37:39 +0000 starchild 2782576@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: thank you for the suggestion on approach, that's really helpful!</p> <p>@gotkimchi: exactly! We agree with the extra appts, I'm just feeling conflict avoidant. I think it's more about being over my OB.</p> <p>@ShootingStar: they want the tests to be staggered to continuously monitor that she is getting enough blood flow etc. Twice weekly isn't ideal but I'm fortunate to have understanding and flexibility at work to be able to make it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-doctors-disagree-with-each-other#post-2782571 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 11:21:34 +0000 ShootingStar 2782571@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you go to one place to have them done? My OB was attached to a hospital so the couple of times I needed a BPP after an NST they just sent me right over. Personally I'd find it difficult to do twice a week. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-doctors-disagree-with-each-other#post-2782565 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 11:05:42 +0000 MrsRoo 2782565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: this. 100% what I would say </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-doctors-disagree-with-each-other#post-2782564 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 11:04:08 +0000 gotkimchi 2782564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were in a similar situation and I was seen twice a week for bpp or a growth scan so twice weekly seems normal to me. I’d also rather be cautious. I thought it was overkill at first so did a ton of research and basically people were having still born babies with no warning signs. So that made me realize I’d rather be over cautious </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-doctors-disagree-with-each-other#post-2782562 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 10:53:17 +0000 Truth Bombs 2782562@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would also trust the MFM. If the OB gives you a hard time just advise that you wanted to go with the most conservative plan of action since it’s reassuring to you as opposed to saying you think he’s wrong the MFM is right. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-doctors-disagree-with-each-other#post-2782560 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 10:45:16 +0000 MaryM 2782560@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In that situation, the MFM is the specialist, so I'd trust their judgement over the OB. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-doctors-disagree-with-each-other#post-2782558 Fri, 27 Oct 2017 10:38:22 +0000 starchild 2782558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How do you handle disagreements between your care providers? We're IUGR (baby is 6th percentile), and my Maternal Fetal Medicine doc wants me to have both a BPP and NST each week. He said if I want to do one with them and the other with my OB that is fine. Well, when I went to schedule with my OB, OB thinks it's too much and my MFM doc is new to their practice and a great doctor but really by the book. He only wants to see me every other week. I will have the BPP with MFM every week regardless. So at my BPP today, MFM doc says I should come into them for the second test on the weeks I don't see my OB. I see them both next week already and he said we can evaluate frequency after her growth check, which will be Friday. If she has grown enough, maybe we can agree to scale back. But if she's still that small, my DH and I tend to agree with MFM and find the checks reassuring. It is the difference between being seen four times or three times across two weeks so maybe not a big deal, but I feel awkward being in the middle of this. Would you keep up the twice weekly appointments? Also just not thrilled to have to push back on OB. He's super nice but communication with him often feels like a challenge. </p>