https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 30 May 2026 04:20:37 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-kid-is-yelling-no-at-you#post-2362240 Wed, 18 Nov 2015 21:42:36 +0000 MrsSRS 2362240@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it isn't negotiable, or I'm being rudely yelled at, my standard answer, regardless of location, is a calm "you don't get to say 'no,' you get to say, 'yes, mama.'" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-kid-is-yelling-no-at-you#post-2361963 Wed, 18 Nov 2015 17:53:30 +0000 mauxie 2361963@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kind of like above, if it's not a choice, I just calmly say "I know you're feeling frustrated about it but it's not a choice right now" and "We don't say 'no' to Mommy like that" (if she's yelling about it and being rude). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-kid-is-yelling-no-at-you#post-2361914 Wed, 18 Nov 2015 16:57:42 +0000 Rockies11 2361914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on what it is. If it's a "no" for leaving or something that isn't a choice, I usually just verbalize the feelings while we're wrestling her out the door "it's really hard to change activities when we're having fun! but it's time for us to go home and see daddy" or whatever. If it's something else like putting on a coat or something that she can say no to, I affirm her right to say no, and a compromise. So something like "you're allowed to make choices about your own body, but mommy is worried you will get cold. I will put it in the stroller and you let me know if you need it". Usually about 30 seconds of freezing is sufficient. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-kid-is-yelling-no-at-you#post-2361883 Wed, 18 Nov 2015 16:28:35 +0000 Oxana 2361883@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't allow our LO to tell us no, unless it's in response to a yes/no question. A no in any other circumstance, like the one you described, is a verbalization of defiance, anger, and disobedience. In your situation, I'd start by curbing it at home with, "You don't say no to Mama" and immediate consequences for saying it. I know that's not for everyone, but that's what we do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-kid-is-yelling-no-at-you#post-2361858 Wed, 18 Nov 2015 16:03:41 +0000 Mommy Finger 2361858@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it has to do with something where we need to stop what we're doing and go somewhere else, I turn to Daniel Tiger. I tell DS that it's almost time to stop so choose one more thing to do. For example, if we're at a park, he'll want to go down one more slide and then he's usually ok to leave after that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-kid-is-yelling-no-at-you#post-2359975 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 15:13:52 +0000 daniellemybelle 2359975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am still trying to figure this one out but I've found that a lot of times she is trying to see how I will react since we are in public, if that makes sense. A toddler loves to see a mama flustered. ;) So I usually try to keep my reactions pretty low key and if I am talking to her I will use a low voice and speak in her ear.</p> <p>I for sure still get flustered and I have been guilty of being more pointed with her just to make sure the people around me don't think she's a total brat walking all over me. Not proud of that though and I'm trying to do better about not caring what others think! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-kid-is-yelling-no-at-you#post-2359564 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 10:53:15 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2359564@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I don't let the crying embarrass me and I do whatever we would do at home. Usually something like @hilsy85 said. But if she's still freaking out after a few hugs/explanations, shes just gonna have to scream and do what I said to begin with. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-kid-is-yelling-no-at-you#post-2359551 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 10:46:06 +0000 travelgirl1 2359551@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hilsy85: yeah, as in we ask her to do something and she yells "no". I'm not against forcing into the stroller, but then she yells and scares the baby and then they will both be crying, lol. Sometimes she is the most calm, rational person I know. Then just a few seconds later.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-kid-is-yelling-no-at-you#post-2359455 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 10:02:42 +0000 hilsy85 2359455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As in, "no I won't leave" when it's time to go? I try to reflect his feelings "you really want to stay and have fun" and then explain why we need to go home "but it's getting dark outside and everyone is leaving the park because soon we won't be able to see!". If all else fails I will bribe with snacks, or if I have a place to put him (carseat/stroller) I will force him in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-kid-is-yelling-no-at-you#post-2359411 Tue, 17 Nov 2015 09:47:24 +0000 travelgirl1 2359411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>... And you are out in public, what do you do?</p> <p>I often give her three seconds to finish up what she is doing then do what I ask, but it stopped working. I also used to force her into the stroller if I had to but man, she is strong. </p> <p>How do you handle the loud, determined "no"? </p>