https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 14 Apr 2026 15:57:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-doesnt-want-to-do-something#post-1702364 Mon, 16 Jun 2014 09:39:06 +0000 aegie 1702364@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think in the situation you mentioned, it was completely appropriate to let your LO take the lead. It's a party and should be fun! If she didn't want to swim, then that's okay. Even if it's because she was uneasy with the pool or the bathing suit. Now, going to daycare is a different story! Mondays are especially hard for us because she usually has so much fun on the weekends playing with mommy and daddy that she starts chanting no daycare the minute she wakes up. But she gets no choice in the matter. But I do let her choose what she wants to wear (this pants or that pants), which shoes, etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-doesnt-want-to-do-something#post-1702326 Mon, 16 Jun 2014 09:30:26 +0000 Alivoo01 1702326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm with others in that I try to allow DS to warm up to the idea and be more comfortable, but if he isn't, then I don't force him to participate. It's frustrating sometimes, but I don't want to cause a scene. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-doesnt-want-to-do-something#post-1702221 Mon, 16 Jun 2014 08:48:55 +0000 autumnlove 1702221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@blackbird: So frustrating!!!!! :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-doesnt-want-to-do-something#post-1702208 Mon, 16 Jun 2014 08:42:47 +0000 blackbird 1702208@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The irrationality of children is so frustrating, lol. I only make my Lo do things that we have to do. Put on clothes to go to daycare. Take a bath. Put on a diaper. But yesterday she cried when i put her in the toddler pool so i just pulled her out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-doesnt-want-to-do-something#post-1702206 Mon, 16 Jun 2014 08:42:06 +0000 Adira 1702206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll do both! I'll try to talk him into it, but respect his wishes. I don't force him to do anything he doesn't want to do though (except, you know, diaper changes, naps, getting inspected by the doctor...).</p> <p>Like this weekend, we were around dogs and Xander was clearly petrified of them. I tried to calm him down and show him the dogs were nice and not scary by holding him close while I pet them, but if he continued to be uncomfortable, I didn't force the interaction! By the end of the day, he definitely had warmed up to the dogs (at a distance) and would point at them and yell "Da! Da!" (although it sounded more like "Dog" just without the "g"), but he still didn't really want them anywhere near him! And I respected that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-doesnt-want-to-do-something#post-1702202 Mon, 16 Jun 2014 08:40:22 +0000 mrsjyw 1702202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DS is very cautious, so we try to talk to him, and give him time to warm up. If he's really not up for it, then we don't push him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-doesnt-want-to-do-something#post-1702197 Mon, 16 Jun 2014 08:38:35 +0000 Smurfette 1702197@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on the situation. A couple weekends ago we were at a bday party and she was so excited to see the pony. Till I picked her up and walked over to the pony. I held her and petted the pony so she would see the pony was ok. She calmed down some but wasn't comfortable. I still put her on the pony and walked around the barn with her but she wasn't having it. But I am glad that she calmed down to at least try it! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-doesnt-want-to-do-something#post-1702187 Mon, 16 Jun 2014 08:36:00 +0000 autumnlove 1702187@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you try to talk them into it or just respect their wishes?</p> <p>My LO didn't want to go swimming at a birthday party on Saturday because she didn't like the swimsuit I packed and she said the pool too big. :P I tried to talk her into it but she wasn't feeling it so we just sat on the side and watched people play. She eventually (10-15 minutes later) told me that "it is time for water play" and asked me to help her into her unfashionable swimsuit.</p> <p>Several of my friends told me to force her into the pool but I didn't want LO to make a scene. </p>