https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 16 May 2026 14:27:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2318386 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 19:37:57 +0000 runnerd 2318386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No I don't worry. My ILs are the only ones who keep him overnight, and he's safer with their overprotective worried ways than he ever is in my house :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2318371 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 19:27:34 +0000 travelgirl1 2318371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought I would be crazy worried about this but actually, when it happened (she didn't end up staying overnight in the end, just two separate days), I was fine, not worried at all. I think it was because the friend who had her knows her very well, knows what a monkey she can be so knows what to look out for, and has a daughter the same age so deals with it every day. I think if she had been staying either grandparents, I definitely would have been more worried though, just because they are older and don't really know her that well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2318266 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 18:16:11 +0000 californiadreams 2318266@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i am not that worried. haven't actually gone away yet, but next month DH and I are doing an overnight trip by ourselves while my mom is visiting. I am not about LO wandering out because he currently still stays in his room all night and calls for us to come to him when he wakes up (MOTN or morning). So even though he is fully capable of leaving him room on his own, he won't get out of bed without us.</p> <p>i worry more if my mom were to take him out and can;t keep up with him - would he run into the road. or some other freak accident indoors happening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2318237 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 17:51:03 +0000 misolee 2318237@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO had occasional sleepovers at grandmas and grandpas. At three, I don't worry as much about safety bc she's pretty cautious and knows things not to touch. I also trust my parents and know they are capable of handling an emergency. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2318234 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 17:44:57 +0000 Mrs Hedgehog 2318234@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes and no. Do I worry just because I'm irrational? Sure? Do I worry that she is in real danger? No. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2318189 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 17:03:27 +0000 pinkcupcake 2318189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, I worry constantly... Irrational but I can't help it. This is why we won't go anywhere alone until she's off to college :P (kidding ... Sorta) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2318090 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 15:33:42 +0000 sera_87 2318090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom and MIL are stricter than I about safety etc. (I got lectured by my MIL for having balloons at the boys last birthday party. Like wtf are you kidding me? *roll eyes*) so no, I don't worry. </p> <p>Lo1's dad - well kinda have to trust him that he knows how to toddler proof an area :silly: nah but in all seriousness he's a concientious and generally awesome dad so again, I don't worry. </p> <p>I used to worry a bit about exDH's dad, but ..... That's exDH's problem, not mine. And he's been watching LO1 every other weekend for over a year now so *shrug* the worry has mostly gone away at this point. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317921 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 14:01:01 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 2317921@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always worry any time they aren't with me, even if they are with completely capable people. I think it's just something mother's do. But try to enjoy your time away and Happy Anniversary!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317912 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 13:58:03 +0000 BeachMama 2317912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They've stayed with my parents, or in laws, several times so generally I don't worry too much about their safety. I'm a pretty laid back parent though; I probably should worry more about certain things! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317902 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 13:51:30 +0000 Corduroy 2317902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents asked to take LO to a family farm this weekend. I'm a little worried. I totally trust my parents but this will be her first time out of the pack n play so she'll need more supervision. Also, a lot of family shares the place to it really isn't childproofed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317893 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 13:47:16 +0000 LuLu Mom 2317893@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, my girls have stayed with both sets of grandparents and one of my sister's. All who I trust immensely. I more get concerned about the behavior when coming home from grandma's who lets them do what they want ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317864 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 13:32:26 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 2317864@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No--not at all. The only place they've ever stayed is at my parents' house. My mom raised 5 kids and she's still really young. I totally trust her and don't worry about their safety.</p> <p>ETA: I do worry a bit about car seat safety, so we just make sure that when she is driving my kids around, the car seats have been installed by either DH or myself. I wouldn't trust her to install them herself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317822 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 13:07:55 +0000 Truth Bombs 2317822@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: @mediagirl: My poor dad pinched my LO one time when putting her in the car seat and she will NEVER let him live it down. She won't let him buckle her unless they are alone and there is no other option. She tells him "Papou, you not the best at buckling me". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317798 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 13:00:29 +0000 mediagirl 2317798@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@catlady: lol my mom is the same way. My dad has been learning the carseat for about a year now so I feel good about him getting her strapped into it safely. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317797 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:59:32 +0000 catlady 2317797@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I worry about her, but only with regards to car seat safety. My dad is terrible at using the car seat. He will strap her in with the straps all twisted and super loose. I have had to instruct my brother (who lives with my dad) how to do it because I don't trust my dad at all. His response is something like "they weren't this complicated when you were little." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317775 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:50:13 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2317775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope - both of our sets of parents have successfully raised great kids. They clearly know what they're doing and are very capable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317770 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:48:10 +0000 yoursilverlining 2317770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>LO has stayed overnight with my parents many times. I don’t worry about safety. They did fine by me as parents, and are about 100000000000000000000000x more attentive to / protective of / doting on LO, so I can’t imagine she could ever get out of their sight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317728 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:26:41 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2317728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: Don't get me started. The nails were just the tip of a massive iceberg. Sometimes I wonder if my IL's are having senility issues already, because some of the things they do, especially regarding LO, make me go WTF on the regular (in addition to nails, my daughter also got a stuffed toy that looked like it was dug out of 20 year old storage- yellow stains and all). Husband won't hear a word of it, though so I just make sure to be very vigilant and inspect everything at their house. She never stays there without my husband, though, and never will, that he is with me on, thankfully. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317727 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:26:30 +0000 .twist. 2317727@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: nah. I still leave him there. My fear isn't so irrational that I would stop his sleepovers there. We have also had a few talks about how opening the door isn't ok unless [insert person] is there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317726 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:26:02 +0000 My Only Sunshine 2317726@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mediagirl: My LO has been having the occasional sleepover at her grandparents' houses since she was a few months old so I think we're kind of used to it. We definitely helped them kid-proof their houses to a rational degree (outlet plugs, a bed rail, etc.) but we didn't make them bolt down their furniture or anything. We also took over our video monitor for naps and night time so they can watch her at night to make sure she's not up to any mischief. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317716 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:22:43 +0000 Smurfette 2317716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Truth Bombs: same. I worry about her fighting bedtime, waking up sick, etc. but I know that safety wise she is fine. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317715 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:22:08 +0000 mediagirl 2317715@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: soooo you don't leave him there now?<br /> @Mrs. Carrot: nails. Really? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317710 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:21:19 +0000 winniebee 2317710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but they've only ever stayed with grandparents, who are very vigilant (and my mom is a super light sleeper!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317703 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:19:39 +0000 Truth Bombs 2317703@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Nope, we only leave her with people we really trust in environments we know to be safe. Honestly, I worry more about her behaving well for whoever is watching her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317700 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:18:32 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2317700@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ditto @habesbabe. My in laws, for example, leave nails laying around their house (seriously), whereas my parents crawled through their entire apartment last time we visited to make sure most danger points were secure. Guess who gets to keep her for a weekend and who doesn't? I also know my mom is neurotic (good and bad) about keeping an eye on LO, so I know she's going to be pretty vigilant, and I give her all the watch-out points as well. And I have found that my kid sleeps easier and longer at my parents. It was really hard to let it go the first time around, but I just had to take it on faith and everything worked out great. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317696 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:16:37 +0000 .twist. 2317696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He has recently proven that he can, and will, push a stool up to the front door of my Il's house and unlock and open the door. (I never used to worry because, although he could read the handle, he couldn't reach the lock) Now, he can reach the lock. My IL's are completely capable, but kids are insane and one moment of not looking and he's out the door! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317690 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:14:17 +0000 HabesBabe 2317690@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No, but I don't leave them with people who I don't trust to be safe. I used to worry about their sleep, but they seem to have so much fun that they crash and snooze for 10+ hours every time! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-lo-stays-away-from-home-and-without-you#post-2317682 Tue, 13 Oct 2015 12:11:04 +0000 mediagirl 2317682@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you worry about their safety? </p> <p>My lo is staying at my parents house this weekend while we go away to celebrate our anniversary. I have been away and my husband has been away but we have never left her with someone without us. My parents are totally capable people but I worry that they will leave a door unlocked, our lo will wake up early and go looking for us and wander away. </p> <p>Ugh. How do you stop worrying and know that your lo is in capable hands when you go away together? </p>