Hellobee Boards Topic: When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?

Hellobee Boards Topic: When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 23 May 2026 13:59:31 +0000 Bao on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935567 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 22:16:04 +0000 Bao 1935567@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Andrea: yes! Our toddler is so much more whiny/demanding/stubborn when DH is around. I can reason so much better with her on my own. photojane on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935565 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 22:12:27 +0000 photojane 1935565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Andrea: Yep! I only have one, but she's much better for just me. I usually grocery shop during the week while he's at work, but I thought it would be nice to have the extra hands today. Sadie was a hot mess at the grocery store. She normally just sits in the cart and eats a snack and plays. Tonight she was whining and standing up and throwing things. No more family grocery trips! photojane on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935561 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 22:09:50 +0000 photojane 1935561@https://boards.hellobee.com/ YES. I get nothing done on his off days. I mean, I love the family time, but my house is always a disaster on Sunday when he goes back to work. Mrs. D on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935545 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 21:51:11 +0000 Mrs. D 1935545@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When I was on mat leave and he'd come home from weeks on the road for work, yes he did! Our girl and I had a routine, and he kept saying I had to do things a different way because he didn't like things. I'm sure he just wanted to be included, but after he left again I went back to our routine because change wasn't good. shhhh regberadaisy on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935383 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 18:53:16 +0000 regberadaisy 1935383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope, things are sooo much much easier when DH is home! He completely handles DD 1 which leaves me free to take care of DD 2. And he handled meals and two people doing housework! Orchid on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935337 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 17:44:13 +0000 Orchid 1935337@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH is home probably off 1 day every week and our schedule gets thrown off, BUT I welcome it! I need a break from the monotony (i sah). We go eat lunch or do something else. Naps happen but not strictly according to schedule. Rainbow Sprinkles on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935325 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 17:27:17 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1935325@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes yes yes. Bedtime is a disaster the 1 day a week he's home for it. Mama Bird on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935278 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 16:50:18 +0000 Mama Bird 1935278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Depends on what phase DS is going through. Sometimes we work as an awesome team. Sometimes the kid is grumpy and irrational and the only way to keep him calm is to let him do something he's not normally allowed... DH always tries to argue against the rule breaking. And then I walk out the room for ten minutes, and he's given up on trying to calm down DS, seen the reason of my suggestion, and i is letting DS walk around in my rain boots or run off with our pillows :) gingerbebe on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935221 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 16:23:10 +0000 gingerbebe 1935221@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH commutes 2 days a week and then works from home the other days, with 2 days being dedicated to client calls. So we have a range of availability - from not being home at all to needing to keep the baby quiet on certain days to being technically available all day. He does not disrupt our routine really, but his way to DOING the routine just differs from mine is all. Overall, I dread the days he commutes because I'm just used to having a set of hands around here and there and I'm sad for DH when he only gets to see the baby a few minutes on the commute days. Even though he's exhausted on those days (he's gone like 12 hours, with 3+ hours of drive time in traffic), I give him the baby for the last feeding so he can see his son. fairy on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935181 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 16:05:16 +0000 fairy 1935181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Not really - even when he is home I do just about all of the childcare so not much changes there besides having someone to play with her while I do cleaning/cooking. When he works from home, he is in the basement most of the day so there isn't much change there either. Mrs. Sunshine on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935179 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 16:04:25 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 1935179@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes! I sometimes get really agitated if he is home during a time when I didn't know he would be lol poor DH. I genuinely enjoy being with him, he just gets in my physical & brain space & I can't get anything done! bunnylove08 on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935164 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 16:00:57 +0000 bunnylove08 1935164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ When DH goes to work late/ or is off it totally throws me off because I want to hangout and talk with him. coopsmama on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935157 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 15:59:29 +0000 coopsmama 1935157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh yes. I find it easier the days I'm home alone with the kids. They don't seem as obedient when he is around -- I think they know they can get away with more. ;) Mae on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935134 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 15:54:26 +0000 Mae 1935134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Nope! DH is extremely deferent to the routines I set because he sees what happens when they get out of whack. He wants a happy baby so he's happy to run with my groove :) jedeve on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935104 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 15:42:02 +0000 jedeve 1935104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes! I always think Saturdays are going to be so nice and easy because he will be home. But our schedule gets totally thrown off. And it kinda bugs me when he acts like it is so hard to get out the door with two kids, when that is what I do by myself everyday! MrsF on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935100 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 15:40:01 +0000 MrsF 1935100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ We each have days where we are solo parents for M and I think we are both a little thrown off when we're all home together - as much as we love the family time. Andrea on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1935084 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 15:33:57 +0000 Andrea 1935084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Absolutely. It is actually easier being solo with the two kids. They behave better when one person is in charge. Ra on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1934857 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 14:04:38 +0000 Ra 1934857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My husband is home with me everyday! My routine gets thrown off on the weeks he travels for work. ineebee on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1934819 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 13:51:50 +0000 ineebee 1934819@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't even have kids yet, but my answer is still yes! DH works long hours and has a long commute, so when he's home, he just wants to relax and watch TV, AND he wants me to relax and watch TV with him! Very sweet, but it's so hard to do when I have a list of things I want to get done. Baby Boy Mom on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1934815 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 13:48:56 +0000 Baby Boy Mom 1934815@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Yes! Same! MrsMccarthy on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1934807 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 13:44:46 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1934807@https://boards.hellobee.com/ So thrown! At his old job he was working from Home and I loved having him but what a nightmare. He is really bad about disrupting the routine. Love him though and only weekends now so not so bad. 2PeasinaPod on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1934799 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 13:42:23 +0000 2PeasinaPod 1934799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I don't think this is what you mean, but I have morning routine and DH is totally out of the house when I have my routine. So I'll meet my dad, his dad or take LO to school in the morning. If DH is home at all b/c of a day off or he was going into work late for some reason, it totally throws me off. He definitely tries to help me, but it ends up making me forget something. autumnlove on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1934777 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 13:34:34 +0000 autumnlove 1934777@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He likes to keep the kids up later! He does bath and bedtime on those nights so it is ok with me. rachiecakes on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1934775 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 13:33:20 +0000 rachiecakes 1934775@https://boards.hellobee.com/ it's reverse for us - DH is the one that is home. I probably throw him off when I'm home :silly: Bao on "When your SO is home, does it throw off your groove?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/when-your-so-is-home-does-it-throw-off-your-groove#post-1934770 Fri, 07 Nov 2014 13:31:44 +0000 Bao 1934770@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I love when my DH is home so we can spend time with him! However, my groove is totally thrown off the days he is home all day. I have a certain way of doing things during the week so that I can keep sane for 12 hours a day alone with the girls. I obviously love the extra set of hands but sometimes it actually takes a little longer to get things done ;)