https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 17 Apr 2026 21:28:06 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong/page/2#post-1516218 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 06:10:22 +0000 Cherrybee 1516218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just read your update. What wonderful news!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong/page/2#post-1516128 Mon, 24 Mar 2014 00:24:46 +0000 mrskc 1516128@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: I missed this thread initially when you posted it, but what a wonderful update! Yay! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong/page/2#post-1516099 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 23:31:50 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1516099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great update, yay!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong/page/2#post-1516090 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 23:23:08 +0000 HLK208 1516090@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: yay!!! Go, E!!! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong/page/2#post-1516077 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 22:59:25 +0000 MrsMccarthy 1516077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yay!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong/page/2#post-1516074 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 22:56:15 +0000 Crystal 1516074@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Great news!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1516050 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 22:23:29 +0000 rattles 1516050@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: That's awesome! I'm so glad to hear that he's off and moving! It gives me hope too, so thanks for sharing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1516048 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 22:16:39 +0000 LovelyPlum 1516048@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: such great news! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1516041 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 22:10:00 +0000 Mrs.Panda 1516041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: I'm so glad your LO is walking! I had read the original post and was going to reply that when I was a preschool teacher, I had babies that age. I had one who would NOT walk and was totally the same way, clingy and really shy. One day he just frickin TOOK OFF. He was like "yeah, time to walk" and just started! And he was a pro really quickly! I think sometimes they just need to get motivated themselves :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1516034 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 22:06:51 +0000 littlek 1516034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: Yay!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1516026 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 21:57:23 +0000 autumnlove 1516026@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: Yay, glad he is doing well! &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1516000 Sun, 23 Mar 2014 21:27:54 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1516000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hey mamas!!!! Just an update!</p> <p>E is walking so perfectly now. He started walking about 3 weeks after he started daycare (taking steps here and there) but is now about 6weeks in and is an excellent, full-on walker.<br /> I hope this gives hope to other parents dealing with the same thing. It was gradual, but we started to see him gain more and more courage and he became very proud of himself when he would take a few steps. Pretty soon, he realized he could get away with a whole lot more adventure in the house by walking, so he kept at it and is now running away from us ;) (talk about exhausting...) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418888 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 19:03:09 +0000 sunny 1418888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hugs mama, you didn't do anything wrong! Your little man will be walking on his own time. &lt;3 </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418880 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 18:57:48 +0000 swedishfish 1418880@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You didn't do anything wrong. Hugs, mama. :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418876 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 18:54:53 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1418876@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My DD is similar to your son. She didn't go to preschool until she was 20 months, but prior to that she was mostly at home. She was clingy from birth, had separation anxiety even as a newborn, and would only let me hold her. She didn't even want her dad hold her for her first year of life! It was exhausting. She has always been extremely cautious, sensitive, and introverted. </p> <p>She is now 3 and has come out of her shell a lot!! She still takes a few minutes to warm up at daycare/preschool, but she's fine within minutes and has a lot of fun playing with other kids. Her personality has really blossomed... and continues to blossom with each passing day.</p> <p>I would give him some more time to break out of his comfort zone. Some kids just take longer than others... I know it's really hard on you right now... hang in there!</p> <p>I definitely don't think there's anything you could've done. Some babies are just wired a certain way and have certain tendencies, but I believe nurture plays a significant role too so don't lose hope. My 2nd child is the COMPLETE opposite of DD... she really plays off his personality so he's definitely helped bring out a different side of her too!... So I do think a sibling could bring him out of his shell more, but that also depends on what the sibling is like. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418478 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:57:08 +0000 Raindrop 1418478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>You are not doing anything wrong!! :) I just had to put it out there.</p> <p>DS didn't really start walking till he was 15-16 months old. It was really tough on us because we have a lot of friends with girls that walked at 10 months and even some friends with boys that were working around 12 months. We felt like we were doing things wrong too. We didn't get it... he was standing on his own and crusing at 10 months so we thought he would be early walker but nope by his 1st birthday... still wouldn't have it with walking. Then suddenly at 15 months old he started to walk from one crusing spot to another... not very well but something and seriously over night he started to walk. The drunken new walker walk but walking and that was the end of that.</p> <p>I am in the camp that all kids are different. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418443 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:46:20 +0000 Weagle 1418443@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I highly doubt that you've somehow made it so that he's shy and not walking. Give yourself a bit of grace :)</p> <p>As for the shyness, my LO has always been really shy. Recently, she has started learning her friends' names and is social around them, but was totally shy before. And these are people we see multiple times a week since she was an infant. Outside of that group, she's still really really shy. I imagine it will get better as she learns to play and interact more. But if she's shy forever, that's fine too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418404 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:34:26 +0000 hilsy85 1418404@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just want to give hugs and support mama! You didn't do ANYTHING wrong, you're a great mama and E is lucky to have you! I do think we often try to make things easier for our kids, but it's also true that without challenges and difficulty, they never learn to "rise to the occasion" so to speak. It sounds like he may just be a shy/reserved kid by nature, which is ok...have you been going to the same playgroups/reading circles for a few times? Maybe as he gets used to it, he'll be more comfortable. Also, as someone who worked in a preschool, I woudl hope the teachers are encouraging him out of their laps (I'm sure they are)--when I worked I Was told NOT to hold them or just sit and snuggle with them unless they were really upset, as we wwanted to foster independence. I'm sure as he gets used to daycare he will blossom! </p> <p>And I don't think 15 months is late for walking...my niece didn't walk til 17 months! I do think PT might be a good idea, if for no other reason than it will give him more exposure to new people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418361 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:24:17 +0000 ninja 1418361@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: My LO is 15.5 months...close to 16 months, and still doesn't walk independently either. He cruises along holding on to stuff without a problem, but he is very cautious when it comes to walking. He was also so independent that he wouldn't let us help him walk by holding his hands; he would just crawl everywhere. I don't think it's anything you have done...it's just their nature. I've been saying for months that I was just sure he was going to take off any day. I know it will happen...for now, I'm just enjoying the fact that he's NOT running all over the place yet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418358 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:23:26 +0000 californiadreams 1418358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i've read that some babies don't walk until 18 months. my LO is 15 months and just took his first steps a week ago, but by no means is he a full "walker" yet. I gather it will be at least another month before he is an independent walker and that is only if he keeps up like this. i wasn't planning to get worried until he was closer to 18 months though. maybe a little impatient, but not worried. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418352 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:23:20 +0000 Jenn23 1418352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just want to say that PT worked wonders for my son and recommend calling now since it usually takes a few weeks to get started with all the paperwork, etc. My son has hypotonia (low muscle tone) so we had to start physical therapy when he was about 9 months old (couldn't sit up yet) and now he is thriving. Learned to sit up, then crawl, stand, cruise and walk by 14 months. He's caught up physically now. The PT does exercises with him and as a poster said above, they make it fun. My son loves it. Don't think you did anything wrong! Just make the call and get an appointment scheduled. You can always cancel if need be. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418347 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:22:11 +0000 sandy 1418347@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: you did absolutely nothing wrong! He's his own little person and will do things on his own schedule...maybe he might need a little encouragement but there is nothing you did wrong. My friend carried her baby everywhere but she was walking by 11 months. I left my LO alone to cruise around and she didn't walk until 14 months. Now at 2 her LO still wants to be carried around all the time and my LO runs everywhere. We do our best for our kids but sometimes nature is stronger than nurture and they'll do things when they're ready </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418346 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:22:09 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1418346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MamaJ: that's our story too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418344 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:21:39 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1418344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ShootingStar: Oh, that's not judgey. You're 100% right. He will throw a fit because I tried to make him walk, so I'll go over there and pick him up. Or we will be practicing, he will fall and I'll run over and cradle him. I just hate that I do (did) that for so long. I have only stopped in the last 4 weeks, since his 15m ped visit. </p> <p>@googly-eyes: @Cherrybee: Thank you guys:) I do agree with you ladies that much of it is luck of the draw. But, at this rate, I am worried that the issue of muscle tone (or lack thereof) will actually inhibit him from walking, and FURTHER make him confident and shy in front of his peers, because he can't jump around and be rambunctious like they can. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418326 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:15:32 +0000 ShootingStar 1418326@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I mean this completely not judgementally, but do you make it too easy for him to not walk? I only ask because I was thinking about this after hanging out with a mom friend of mine a few days ago. She was telling me how her daughter's a little behind verbally. And the entire time I was at her house the little girl did not say anything other than a constant stream of "eh eh eh." To which her mom constantly asked her " Do you want another book?" "Do you want a snack?" And the little girl would nod when my friend guessed what she was trying to say. I could see that it was a way easier way to handle a toddler than to force her to use words. But at the same time I kind of wondered if my friend wasn't helping the situation.</p> <p>So maybe you need to give him some more motivation for wanting to walk? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418323 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:15:00 +0000 Cherrybee 1418323@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Please @CupQuakeWalk: @MamaJ: ) stop saying that you went *wrong*. You didn't do anything wrong. Babies will learn what they want to learn when they want to learn it. I know NOTHING about babies but my kid started trying to pull up when she was very, very small. I didn't encourage it or engineer it, I just went with it. Now at almost 7 months, she can't roll, she is nowhere near crawling, she can only sit unaided, she can't eat finger foods, she can't drink from a sippy cup, she makes no consonant sounds.... but boy are her legs strong!! It was her choice. Babies have their own personalities and likes &amp; dislikes, I reckon. </p> <p>He will come out of himself and then there will be no stopping him!! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418310 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:09:39 +0000 googly-eyes 1418310@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think the shyness is more an inborn temperament thing and I highly doubt the late walking is due to lack of practice.</p> <p>I'm only saying the following to make a point so please don't think I'm saying I did something better, because I didn't. I SAH and my lo doesn't attend daycare and we don't do moms groups, yet my daughter was walking at 12 months and has gone through phases of shy but will often chase after other (often older) kids at the park. I think, for the most part, it's just the luck of the draw. I really believe it will happen with time! Also, having worked in an infant/toddler environment, albeit briefly, I was told and observed that the part timers took a little longer to adjust to the daycare setting. He will come around. He's only been there a little while. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418287 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 15:01:39 +0000 MamaJ 1418287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: I could have written your OP (minus having another LO). DS is 14.5 months and nowhere near walking. He will walk while holding hands but screams the minute you let go. He is so so shy. Yesterday was the first time I have seen him try to play with another kid, but the kid wanted nothing to do with him. :(</p> <p>I have no mom friends, and I am shy so I don't do playgroups or anything. I think that is where maybe I went wrong :( I am going to try my gym next week and see how that goes. I have him signed up for daycare but they won't take him until he is walking. The infant room has an 8 month wait list. Plus not sure how him being in the infant room would help the walking.</p> <p>I've cried several times to DH about him not walking. He isn't worried, but I am. I cringe every time someone asks if he is walking yet.</p> <p>Hugs mama. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418279 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 14:59:16 +0000 pinkcupcake 1418279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: on and accdg to my mom, I was the clingiest kid ever. She said I actually got kicked out of preschool bc I couldn't handle being away from her and screamed the entire time. I guess even when she had to use the bathroom, I say on her lap bc I couldn't bear to be separated from her even for a moment :P she said it got better as I got older and got a sibling, started more structured school, etc. I think some kids are just shyer and clingier than others :) (and for the most part, I turned out totally fine and I can handle being away from her now :P hehe) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-did-we-go-wrong#post-1418276 Wed, 12 Feb 2014 14:58:15 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1418276@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bhbee: yep, I find him in a daycare teacher's lap everytime I pick him up!</p> <p> @yoursilverlining: The PT is not because there is a physical issue *keeping him* from walking, but it is because at this point in his age, *because* he has not walked nor has he practiced walking much (damn me!!!), he does not have much muscle tone at all in his legs. So, the theory is, even if he wanted to walk today, he would find it difficult and exhausting because his legs have not "trained up" for the task. Ya know? I don't know how much of this is true, but I am paranoid because my ped and husband (who is usually so relaxed) are both concerned. </p>