https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 25 Apr 2026 04:02:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717441 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 22:27:05 +0000 Weagle 1717441@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In her crib. We've never used a step/corner/chair because the constant escaping is incredibly frustrating for me. She gets it in the crib, so we've been doing it there since about 14-15 months. I don't know what we'll do when we move her to a regular bed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717435 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 22:12:08 +0000 Running Elley 1717435@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We use his crib. Anywhere else he wouldn't stay/be contained. I tell him that he's getting a time out because of (insert behavior here) and as I'm walking him to the crib I make sure he knows what he's going in there for. For example "We need to be nice to our sister. We love her. No hitting/pushing Emmy. Nice." Then I sit him in his crib and he stays there for about 2 minutes. When I go back in as soon as I walk through the door he's saying "Nice to Emmy. No hitting." etc. It seems to work for us!</p> <p>@Beebug: Ours hasn't affected nap or bedtimes at all either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717433 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 22:04:57 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1717433@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have him stand in a corner facing the wall, in the LR. I thought it was a good spot - but now he plays behind the curtains at the window next to the corner haha. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717432 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 21:59:18 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 1717432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>standing with her face facing the wall, downstairs by the stairs. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717426 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 21:52:43 +0000 MamaCate 1717426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We do time out in her room. I put her on her bed and shut the door. She is usually crying at the door by the time I go back in. </p> <p>Timeout has worked well for us with the following qualifications:<br /> -reserved for safety issues or repeated defiance (hitting and biting mostly)<br /> -it is a timeout from attention so it doesn't matter if she yells or fusses<br /> -a minute for age<br /> -I think this is the most important: timeout is followed by a "time in". With the time in, I go in and pick LO up, sit with her in the rocking chair. I talk to her about her feelings and how upset she is until she is calm enough to hear what I need to say about why she had to go in time out. Then she needs to apologize or fix what she broke, and then we move on.</p> <p>We do not need it often, but it is an important part of our discipline approach. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717412 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 21:40:08 +0000 matador84 1717412@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beebug: it doesn't affect him. He goes to time out rarely, only when he's directly disobeying or hurting others--it's a severe consequence for us. All other times we just have a conversation about the behavior. Truthfully, I'm not a huge believer in time out. One has to get kids to open their heart to understand what they've done wrong, and time out doesn't always do that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717394 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 21:19:26 +0000 Arden 1717394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't do time-out in the traditional sense (and don't plan to) but we do a "calm down time" when she's worked up or throwing a tantrum where I pick her up and hold her facing me (in the carrier if it's handy), take her to a quiet place, and talk to her until she calms down.<br /> I'll say things like "I understand that you are very upset because you want to play with my phone and you aren't allowed. But if you calm down and stop yelling, you can play with the spray bottle instead." Or whatever. Basically just letting her know that I understand her frustration but still enforcing the rule. </p> <p>It works really well. Usually within less than a minute she's calmed down hugging me. So far I'm really happy with this approach.</p> <p>Edited to add: We also do this for hitting. I'll hold her and hold onto her hands in mine if she is still hitting, and just talk to her. "I am sorry you are upset, but if you want to get my attention you can call me, not hit me, ok? We only use gentle touches. See? *strokes her arm* Can you show me gentle touches?" etc. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717389 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 21:14:44 +0000 Beebug 1717389@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@matador84: do you think/experience it impacting bed or nap time at all? I thought of there, but didn't want to make the crib a negative space and I won't dare eff with sleep so nixed it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717383 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 20:59:24 +0000 matador84 1717383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In his crib. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717382 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 20:57:45 +0000 Beebug 1717382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: girlie hit her little bro for the first time Saturday, guess where she got to go?? Ugh! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717376 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 20:54:44 +0000 immabeetoo 1717376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@CupQuakeWalk: that sounds frustrating! we haven't hit that stage yet, knock on wood </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717360 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 20:38:23 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1717360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: so, I just red that article. It seems like try are thinking that people on your kids into time out to end a tantrum and calm the child. But! We don't ever (need to) do that.<br /> Our timeouts are for hitting or ....hitting, haha. The kid likes to smack:'( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717357 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 20:35:50 +0000 CupQuakeWalk 1717357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: it's been AMAZING for us. We started at about 18m; my son is 20m now. </p> <p>Ours is in our bedroom, on an empty wall. He just sits cross -legged. It happened one day (he hit me) while we were in my room. Ever since, I've been doing timeouts in there to keep consistency.</p> <p>Eta: we do a solid minute with 100% ignoring the temper tantrum that ensues immediately upon me walking away. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717352 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 20:33:10 +0000 immabeetoo 1717352@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Beebug: I'm sure every kid is different! The 4 kids I see on a regular basis of a similar age seem to respond like it's a funny thing, or a game, not a punishment. So, it just seems more frustrating for the parent :silly: I'm glad it works for you though! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717344 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 20:26:37 +0000 Beebug 1717344@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@scg00387: personally/our experience disagree, but that's interesting!</p> <p>My 20m old definitely gets it! We have been using it since March, but still (thankfully) only a handful of times.</p> <p>Nothing in public needed yet.</p> <p>She has a book nook in her room, and sits on that and we close the door. We leave her there to CIO to an extent, then go in and talk it through with her (at her level) and when she comes out she usually is apologizing and/or giving someone a hug, and she definitely hasn't done anything again she's gone there for!</p> <p>It has four big pillows, books, stuffed animals, and is basically a dog bed recovered to match her room (lol) so is a cozy, safe place she can be alone and get her shit together, lol. Gives us a break from her noise so we can sort out the best reaction/treatment rather than in the moment too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1717040 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 16:22:47 +0000 LuLu Mom 1717040@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In a chair in the living room, facing a wall. SHe's 20 months, and we do a minute and 1/2, and they are working wonders now that she gets it. When she does something she knows is naughty and I give her a look she will walk to her chair and point! haha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1716903 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 15:19:46 +0000 immabeetoo 1716903@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We aren't doing them yet because he is only 18m and anything I've read has said they're ineffective before two at the earliest (which is supported by the anecdotal evidence I see at play dates lol!) but we hope to do something like this: <a href="http://www.m.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/features/positive-time-out-feature" rel="nofollow">http://www.m.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/features/positive-time-out-feature</a> (I think waiting until three seems to err on the other side but it probably depends on the kid). </p> <p>I know several people who use standing in a corner bc it was usable anywhere, not just at home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1716895 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 15:16:32 +0000 HLK208 1716895@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>On a stool, in the corner of the kitchen where there aren't distractions (ugh, except light switches!!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1716888 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 15:12:07 +0000 Mamaof2 1716888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>on the bottom step </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-is-your-time-out-spot-1#post-1716753 Mon, 23 Jun 2014 14:18:00 +0000 Smurfette 1716753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>R keeps trying to play with things that she knows she isn't supposed too. So I put her in time out a couple times this weekend. Just right in front of the french doors away from her toys. She thinks it is funny, and def. doesn't get it yet. I will say that she sits there for a minute and then gets up but never goes back to what she was doing, right away anyway! </p>