https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 21 Jun 2026 05:03:34 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1079953 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 14:56:39 +0000 Pepper 1079953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Ahh, I overlooked that when responding to you. If I were considering these options for myself, I think I'd still prefer to sleep in my own bed. DH does help me with diaper changes. Additionally, I plan to sleep in the same room as LO until he's 6 months old... I feel like that would be too long to sleep in another room! Definitely do what works best for you though! I think either way could work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1079829 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 14:31:23 +0000 spinningry 1079829@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: I totally know what you mean. I had every last detail planned for my pregnancy, birth, and for when the baby was born. Turns out, nothing went as planned and I was left dissapointed in some areas and felt like I was failing. When in all reality, I just had my expectations set to high and things will happen the way they are meant and going to happen. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1079813 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 14:28:33 +0000 daniellemybelle 1079813@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@spinningry: That's what I keep telling myself but I almost am afraid of not planning enough and just standing there with my mouth hanging open when we get home!</p> <p>@Pepper: There is a bed in the nursery so I wouldn't be getting up and walking to her room. Does that change your advice? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1079743 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 14:07:12 +0000 Pepper 1079743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted PnP in your room. Currently, LO sleeps in an Arms Reach Cosleeper attached to our bed. It works really well for us, because I breastfeed, and I'm so tired... I couldn't imagine walking back and forth to his room in the middle of the night for his MOTN and early AM feed. In the beginning he was walking up every 1-2 hours. That would have been so hard! </p> <p>We had him in a Rock n Play initially, but I switched him out of that because I wanted him to get used to sleeping flat. If we didn't have the cosleeper, we would use a PnP. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1079737 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 14:05:21 +0000 spinningry 1079737@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The one thing I learned when I had LO is no matter how much you plan and think you know what your going to do, when it comes down to it you end up doing what works, gets you both the most sleep, and keeps you and DH sane. Even if the situation isn't ideal, just do what works. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1079721 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 14:01:05 +0000 daniellemybelle 1079721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BabyBoecksMom: @ValentineMommy: The more I think about it, the more I really want to start her out in her crib! I can just sleep in the room with her at first. I will still get DH to come and help. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1079623 Wed, 11 Sep 2013 13:37:06 +0000 ValentineMommy 1079623@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For the first month we tried everything to keep him in our room. He "slept" in the pnp or rnp...but no one slept well. He DH snores and the dog hops in and out of bed all night. My mom told me that I hated sleeping with other people in the room as a baby and to just TRY putting him in his nursery (even though I was scared). Night #1 he slept 11 hours, at 5 weeks old. We never turned back and he's STTN ever since. I guess we both like our quiet! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1076455 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 12:21:27 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 1076455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>What worked for us is to have her sleep in her crib in her own room and we slept in ours. She was a noisy sleeper and was keeping us up. DH snores and kept her up. I couldn't sleep because I was on edge every time she moved. So, this plan worked better for everyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1076439 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 12:15:00 +0000 daniellemybelle 1076439@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Seems like most of you think she should sleep in our room rather than vice versa! And it seems like the main reason is so DH helps with nighttime wake-ups. What if DH kept the monitor and came in when she got up? I just think sleeping in her room will 1) help her get used to her crib right away and 2) make it easier on me because I don't have to deal with DH's snoring &amp; the dog on top of getting up every 2 hours! We already end up in separate beds half the time because of his snoring. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075718 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 07:41:39 +0000 Ree723 1075718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I was sure I wanted LO to sleep in her own room from the start as I thought that would be best. Then she arrived and there was no way on earth she was going anywhere other than in the PnP next to our bed, even though her bedroom was about five feet from ours. It worked so well - we slept better knowing we could hear her little noises and movements, and it made nighttime wake ups so easy. DH would take her to her nursery to change her, then bing her back to me in bed where I could feed her. We'd alternate burping and settling her back to sleep and it was perfect.</p> <p>LO stayed in our room until she was 7 months old, despite STTN from 10 weeks on. She was used to sleeping through our noises and the dim light coming from our bedside tables, so we didn't have to tiptoe around our room when going to bed. I think getting used to the noise/light from the start has helped her to not be a finicky sleeper - she doesn't need darkness, silence, or particular sounds to fall asleep, which is a wonderful, wonderful thing! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075712 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 07:35:41 +0000 SugarplumsMom 1075712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's great that you options. We had a crib in her nursery, a PnP, an antique family bassinet, a NB bouncer, a lounger for naps, a pram that's about the same size as the bassinet. None of it worked. She only wanted to sleep on me :(</p> <p>It all depends on your baby. I hope you get lucky and your LO's not picky! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075708 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 07:31:16 +0000 Foodnerd81 1075708@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think you will have to do whatever makes you comfortable when baby comes home, but I know I couldn't have had her in her own room at first. We have a high bed in our bedroom and I didn't want to be climbing in and out a million time a night. So for us it worked for me to sleep in the nursery on the bed in there with C in the RnP. This meant Dh wasn't there for all te late night feeds but we figured it made some sense to have one of us with a decent amount of sleep for coping purposes. It did lead to a little resentment in the middle of the night but I'm not sure it would have been better if he was in the room with me anyway. </p> <p>We did that for the first three weeks then baby and I both move into the master bedroom when we had my mom come and stay in the nursery. Last night, six weeks old, baby slept in her own room in her crib. She's been napping in the crib for a couple of weeks already. I definitely slept better with her not in the room but I needed her close in the beginning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075687 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 07:12:46 +0000 sslm 1075687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted other. Whatever makes you comfortable!!! We thought we'd have DD sleep in her crib in her room from day 1, but when we brought her home from the hospital we just couldn't do it. She slept in a bassinet in our room for 4/5 weeks and then we moved her. I think you'll know what's best for you when the time comes :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075671 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 06:51:18 +0000 Adira 1075671@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would definitely TRY having the baby in your room if possible - having your husband get up and help you in the middle of the night is sooooooooooo helpful, especially those first few weeks! And as a newborn, your LO will probably be able to sleep through the snoring and the dogs. BUT if you find all the commotion is keeping her up, I'd move her to her crib and have you sleep in there with her. They're up every couple hours in the beginning and being right next to them makes it soooo convenient. Plus I think having the baby near you in those first few weeks helps reduce the chance of SIDS. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075666 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 06:46:59 +0000 MrsF 1075666@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I vote to have baby in your room (we LOVED the r'n'p but to each their own). I think I would have felt very resentful if I was the only one in the room waking up with the baby every 2 or 3 hours In the beginning DH woke up with us every time, did the diaper change and brought M to me to nurse. I think setting up a good division of labor in the beginning is still helping us now at 11 months. Co-rooming at the beginning definitely helped with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075558 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 00:38:33 +0000 LazyLightning 1075558@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dr told us no rock n play, so we did pack n play in room. Then I realized I was being kept awake by her noises so we moved her to crib with baby monitor, much better. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075556 Tue, 10 Sep 2013 00:33:23 +0000 VanillaBean 1075556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Initially, we were going to have our son sleep on the pnp while we slept on our own bed. However, I ended up with a c-section so it was very difficult for me to get in and out of our elevated bed, walk to the nursery to feed him and come back to bed in our room. It just made more sense to stay in the same room with him. </p> <p>I slept in the nursery room with my son for the first month. I am glad we made the decision to have him start in his crib, no transition to worry about. He is now 8 months, still sleeping in his crib. </p> <p>It is hard to predict what you would do until the baby is present. I would do what works for you and your baby when the time comes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075546 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 23:56:28 +0000 PurplePeony 1075546@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ooh, I'm also wondering about this. Right now, I'd say that my preference is for the baby to sleep in its crib from the start, but I'm not sure I'll feel that way once we're all home together. Our bedrooms are all grouped closely together in our house, so its only a couple steps from our room to the nursery, but I do put some stock in the idea that being near parents helps the baby's breathing stay regular in the early days. We have a secondhand P&amp;P but it doesn't have the bassinet attachment, so I'm wondering if we should get some other bassinet and not set it up unless necessary, so we could return/exchange it if we don't end up needing it. For some reason, I'm just mentally REALLY opposed to the R&amp;P but I may eat my words in a couple months... I think it's just so hard to know what will work until the baby comes, but it's hard when you're a planner and just want to make sure everything is in place! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075525 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 23:17:32 +0000 lemondrop 1075525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It took us some trial and error, but we figured out what worked for us. For the first month he slept in the p&amp;p in our room, then we moved him to his crib. We left the p&amp;p up for his first 6 months because some nights he woke up often enough that walking across the house was just too much work. We never had a rn'p though. Some fussy nights I crashed on our guest bed with him out of exhaustion, but I tried to sleep in our room as much as possible since I feel it is best for our relationship to have some normalcy. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075524 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 23:16:55 +0000 LomaLinda 1075524@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For those first few months the pack n play in our room worked best. My hubby would bring the baby to me in bed when baby woke up in the middle of the night, and burp him and change him when he was done nursing. It was good teamwork! I would have become very resentful if I had to handle the night feedings all alone in another room, but I know that works well for some people. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075514 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 23:01:00 +0000 googly-eyes 1075514@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@daniellemybelle: Don't worry...I think most people get home with their first and think "what now?" :) You're a step ahead of me...I didn't even think about it til we got home! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075496 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 22:35:21 +0000 daniellemybelle 1075496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@googly-eyes: Thanks! I just don't know what to even attempt when we first come home. Maybe I will just know? And yes, I would prefer to use the RnP for naps, hanging out, etc. than nighttime sleep but I know it's good to have in case flat surfaces just aren't cutting it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075490 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 22:13:25 +0000 googly-eyes 1075490@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whatever you are more comfortable with as far as whether you sleep in her room or she sleeps in yours. As far as what she sleeps in, Id try a flat surface first and if be doesn't take to it try the rnp. My LO never had one but she did ok. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/where-should-lo-sleep#post-1075487 Mon, 09 Sep 2013 22:11:16 +0000 daniellemybelle 1075487@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I know we will have to just figure it out when she's here, but I feel like we need to have some sort of game plan!</p> <p>We have a full size bed in the nursery &amp; I think I'd like start her out in her crib, and sleep in the nursery with her. But then DH won't really be helping with nighttime wake-ups. </p> <p>I'm not sure about keeping her in our bedroom because DH snores a lot and our dog sleeps in our room too. Seems like just too much commotion when she has a nursery!</p> <p>And while I said I wouldn't get a RnP, I caved and registered for one, so now we have both a RnP &amp; a PnP as options! I lean toward the PnP if we aren't going to use the crib because it's flat but I know some babies just love the RnP. </p>