https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 18 Apr 2026 12:46:53 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2075572 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:58:04 +0000 Orchid 2075572@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both would be absolutely heartbreaking! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2075556 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 15:50:59 +0000 jaguar 2075556@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I equate physical/sex to emotions - so to me, that's as equally damaging as emotional.</p> <p>I know people will say men are different... but you don't just ACCIDENTALLY have a physical affair - there's thought behind it. </p> <p>I'm so sorry for your friend. :( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2074932 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 10:26:57 +0000 BandDmommy 2074932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@StbHisMrs: I told her she needs to think about her and her happiness. It's her choice what she wants to do and I support her no matter what she chooses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2074611 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 00:28:51 +0000 californiadreams 2074611@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Physical </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2074607 Wed, 18 Feb 2015 00:25:30 +0000 StbHisMrs 2074607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: Exactly. @BandMommy: The best thing you can do is assure your friend that it's ok to forgive him if she so chooses to. It's not easy, it takes a long time, and a lot of work, but if she has reassurance that she isn't making a mistake it will mean the world to her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2074384 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 20:51:05 +0000 BandDmommy 2074384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: you make a great point! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2074145 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 18:07:11 +0000 cait 2074145@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>From experience - They're both awful but emotional was personally worse. </p> <p>Physical can be explained away as "meaning nothing" but that stings because why would someone who loves you hurt you for nothing?</p> <p>Emotional weighs heavier because you know the person has been/is on your SO's mind even when you're with them. They can physically cut contact with the person but when it's emotional, that connection is still there. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2074014 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 16:52:39 +0000 Modern Daisy 2074014@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it would be hardest to find out that he was no longer in love with me, regardless of the type of affair. I could forgive either one if i trusted that he was still in love and devoted to making things right again. No one is perfect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073971 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 16:28:48 +0000 Alivoo01 2073971@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@wonderstruck: LMAO at your missing arm comment. So true! I know I'd be complaining left and right if I all of the sudden had to be efficient using my left hand. Unless you're ambidextrous... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073965 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 16:27:07 +0000 Alivoo01 2073965@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: Agreed! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073783 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 15:01:26 +0000 illumina 2073783@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Emotional would be worse. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073728 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:38:26 +0000 psw27 2073728@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ouch. They would both gut me. I really can't say. I think I could forgive a random drunken kiss a lot easier than a long term emotional affair. But... if it was a more intimate physical cheating situation, I'm not sure I could move past that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073712 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:33:32 +0000 bunnylove08 2073712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Emotional, they are talking to someone else about their lives instead of you. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073696 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:26:20 +0000 BSB 2073696@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think both would be hard. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073681 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 14:17:25 +0000 daniellemybelle 2073681@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both would be devastatingly horrible, but I would say physical. I feel like it is such a deep betrayal to make that choice and physically take action. It feels more selfish. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073432 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 12:34:37 +0000 MapleMoose 2073432@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wouldn't be able to deal with either type of cheating. :crying: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073409 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 12:26:04 +0000 plantains 2073409@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gah, I don't know how to separate the two, I would just be so devastated. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073394 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 12:18:21 +0000 hellocupcake 2073394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With the ex, he did both. For some reason, the emotional was worse. He physically cheated a couple times and I got over it pretty quickly. The texting and long phone conversations with another girl were too much to get over. He finally ended up hooking up with her after a few months of "connecting". I think emotional will eventually lead to physical while physical can be just that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073381 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 12:12:03 +0000 mrsjyw 2073381@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both would suck, but emotional would weigh on me heavily and take so much more to overcome, if at all even possible. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073378 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 12:11:38 +0000 FaithFertility 2073378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think both would hurt me and I don't know if I could ever get past either....</p> <p>I hope your friend is ok, awful!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073356 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 12:00:36 +0000 Synchronicity 2073356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really don't know. I doubt I'd be able to forgive either! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073340 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:51:07 +0000 catomd00 2073340@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both! If physical is long term I don't see how emotions arent tied up in it. I'd take one "accidental" night of sex vs long term emotional affair if I had to choose, but I don't think i would ever get over either. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073330 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:47:35 +0000 cascademom 2073330@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both. My best friend's husband cheated on her physically to the point of impregnating someone else during their marriage. His cheating devastated her even after she took him back for a year or so later. She's still recovering as they've been divorced for under a year now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073295 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:32:53 +0000 Tanjowen 2073295@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think physical. I place a lot of emphasis on physical touch and I am very picky about who I let touch me. My DH still teases me that we were friends for 6 months before I even hugged him goodbye. Both would be devastating, but the physical would be harder to forgive for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073292 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:32:02 +0000 mrsjazz 2073292@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've experienced both types and the emotional cheating was way harder for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair/page/2#post-2073287 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:31:05 +0000 stiletto_mom 2073287@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LuLu Mom: This is not the first time I agree 100% with your posts. LOL.</p> <p>Emotional hands down. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair#post-2073278 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:28:10 +0000 littlejoy 2073278@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would argue that both kinds are emotional. Sure, physical could be just about sex, but you know there are all kinds of emotions going on too. Both are awful. I'm not the forgiving type, and I find it hard to fathom forgiving my partner for either. </p> <p>I'm so sorry for your friend It's the ultimate betrayal and heartbreak. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair#post-2073273 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:25:21 +0000 jedeve 2073273@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Physical. Because I think it would be like the emotional affair, but concrete. The hard part would be the emotional betrayal and that it was taken so far. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair#post-2073272 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:24:28 +0000 wonderstruck 2073272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Tiger: Right but when it comes down to it, you'd miss the right arm more if you're right handed, right? :wink: </p> <p>They are both totally awful, I'm just being difficult. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/which-is-harder-emotional-or-physical-affair#post-2073246 Tue, 17 Feb 2015 11:15:49 +0000 Smurfette 2073246@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both would suck but I agree emotional would be harder to deal with. </p>