https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 07 Aug 2026 22:32:12 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1335169 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 10:50:47 +0000 dc yoga bee 1335169@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Snowdrop: LMAO!!!! I'm laughing at my desk. That is awesome. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1335151 Fri, 10 Jan 2014 10:45:59 +0000 Mrs tartan 1335151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Snowdrop: this is funny, I love the thought of your routine. My DH always pulls the "hell no" face but is probably even more eager than me for a baby </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1332902 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 19:31:02 +0000 Snowdrop 1332902@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@babycanuck: I say do it if it helps you, I'm going to tell certain people that now too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1332887 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 19:28:38 +0000 Crystal 1332887@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sapphire: we're hear to talk with you! </p> <p>@babycanuck: boo to your sister. Sorry, friend.</p> <p> @Mrs. Chickadee: I totally understand what you are saying! The momentary relief I'd get telling someone in no way would outweigh the disappointment from continually getting BFNs and having to share that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1332838 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 19:20:56 +0000 babycanuck 1332838@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>p.s. I totally regret telling my sister. I've told her since that I'm considering going back on BC because nothing is working. I really really wish I hadn't told her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1332831 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 19:19:50 +0000 Snowdrop 1332831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@raspberries: his grandad sounds lovely.</p> <p>What is weirdis that whenever someone who doesn't know asks us it's like we have this whole worked out charade of me going 'oh not quite yet I want to finish my masters' DH putting on a horrified exresion behind me as if the idea of babies is terrifying, and then us both saying 'no not at the moment, one day but there's no rush'...<br /> ...Then getting home and having timed ovulation sex hahaha </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1332799 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 19:15:32 +0000 babycanuck 1332799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Two girls at work know - one who has been ttcing for the same amount of time as me but went through a terrible loss with her first baby. and my BFF. and my sister only knows because she wouldn't shut up one day and I told her to get her to stfu. lol</p> <p>When people ask I just say I don't know if we're having kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1332763 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 19:09:47 +0000 Bea 1332763@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just all you bees! Oh, and my DH knows :wink:<br /> When people ask I normally just respond with a cheery "someday!" and DH normally implies that it's not happening anytime soon. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1331888 Thu, 09 Jan 2014 15:59:38 +0000 raspberries 1331888@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My very best friend from high school is the only one who knows, but she's been amazingly supportive about all of my freak outs.</p> <p>Also, funnily enough, my husband's 87 year-old grandfather knows, but it was more of a misunderstanding (I didn't want to outright LIE to him when he assumed we were actively trying to have kids, and he was actually very sweet about it - said something like, "Oh sweetheart, the best things in life are worth waiting for.") </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1329626 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 21:34:01 +0000 sapphire 1329626@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wish that I had someone I could talk to about it more. My closest friends are work friends and many of us want to have babies soon. However, because of the nature of our job, being out from work will have some huge implications so I don't want anyone knowing until I'm actually pregnant...and since it could take a while, I really have to stay mum. And overall I just hate to tell people, because I don't know how soon it will be! I wish I was more optimistic, then I probably wouldn't mind sharing... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1329510 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 20:45:34 +0000 Mrs. Chickadee 1329510@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Crystal: same here - everyone I know has said that they got pregnant on the first or second try. Sometimes I really want to tell someone but then later I'm always glad that I didn't. This sounds kind of weird, but I don't want any extra disappointment. I feel so sad every time I see the BFN. I don't want to then have to tell my friends or mother and have them feel bad too. I don't want them to feel let down, you know? So thank goodness we have everyone here! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1329485 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 20:37:12 +0000 Crystal 1329485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Chickadee: after the struggles we've had, I'm glad I didn't share either. I do sometimes wish I could have some people to lean on, but far as I know, no one around me has struggled. </p> <p>I am so thankful for this community! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1329481 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 20:36:41 +0000 owlteach 1329481@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told one friend the first month, and another at the end of month 5. I'm glad that I have them to talk to. Like others have posted above, if we ever get to the point where there is a diagnosis of a problem, etc. we will share with our family's then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1329472 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 20:34:18 +0000 Mrs. Chickadee 1329472@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMcD: Ugh! That was totally my worry! Sorry to hear that you're going through it :( We're at month #9 so I know how you feel. Hang in there! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1329459 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 20:31:10 +0000 Mrs. Chickadee 1329459@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't told anyone and I'm kind of glad because it's taking longer than expected. I was worried that it might and thought that it might make me feel more pressure if I knew other people were waiting and wondering. It's gotten harder to not talk about it though so I'm so glad to have the community here to talk to.</p> <p>I'm sort of lucky in that I have a good excuse to give people when they ask when we are going to have children. I'm in school so I have told everyone that we waiting until I'm close to finishing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1329181 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 18:42:49 +0000 Snowdrop 1329181@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MrsMcD: I agree, I told some close friends and my mum but now we are having trouble I wish I,d only told my mum as she is the only one who actually as anything useful to say! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1329084 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 17:48:31 +0000 deactivated_account 1329084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Basically all of my close friends know I am TTC. DH's close friends know. And my mom and sister know. I haven't told DH's family but I think his mom suspects we are. It was so fun to talk about at the first and second months of TTC. But now at 8 months TTC, I just want to tell people to STFU. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1329051 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 17:35:53 +0000 MadamBabyFever 1329051@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't told anyone, and I'd like to keep it that way. Hubs might tell his brother though, but I hope not as I don't really want SIL to know (doubt she could keep it to herself). We never really have to avoid the issue though as like @dc yoga bee: no one really asks us. Everyone in our family knows the arguements hubs and I have had re having kids so no one brings it up anymore for fear of ruining what ever gathering we are at at the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1329013 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 17:11:34 +0000 Mrs tartan 1329013@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@dc yoga bee: haha I find this funny as everyone thinks I don't like kids either, I don't argue with this as it stops those people asking! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1328986 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 16:55:46 +0000 mrs. 64 1328986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I initially told my mom, sister, and 2 friends. After a while I told a few other close friends. I just couldn't get through ttc without occasionally needing to talk to someone. I'm comfortable with that decision and never had anyone say anything unintentionally insensitive (though I know for many people that is not the case). DH didn't tell anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1328716 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 15:22:00 +0000 theonewhere 1328716@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>He hasn't told anyone. I've told a potential business partner (so he didn't have any illusion that I was planning a childfree life / 80 hour weeks) and some close girlfriends know I've thought about it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1328637 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:55:57 +0000 CatchAFallingStar 1328637@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs tartan: My mom, mother-in-law and my closest friend (who has two babies) all know. I don't think DH has told anyone. But, I just can't live in a bubble, especially when I'm having a hard time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1328593 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:44:20 +0000 dc yoga bee 1328593@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Not a single soul. Just you guys! Everyone thinks i hate kids so they dont really ask! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1328590 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:43:55 +0000 Adira 1328590@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my two BFFs when we were TTC with #1. They were really supportive and not too intrusive about it. This time around, I won't be telling anyone. I just want to be able to surprise people with #2! Plus I feel like I don't need the support of my BFFs anymore while trying. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1328574 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 14:35:09 +0000 LindsayInNY 1328574@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's parents/sister know, my family does not, and a couple friends do. Luckily not many people have been asking us directly about our plans, so that helps. Instead I sit quietly when things annoy or frustrate me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1328253 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 13:00:36 +0000 Crystal 1328253@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one knows but us two!</p> <p>Though plenty of people ask us about it, ugh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1328170 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 12:33:24 +0000 Mrs.Someone 1328170@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At first I only told my best friend who lives quite far away (and doesn't really talk to other friends). When it started taking a while, I told 2 other close friends in person because I was frustrated and I needed to talk. After 2 losses, we told our immediate families and a few other close friends, I was tired of keeping the secret. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1328152 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 12:28:25 +0000 GrapeCrush 1328152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we started TTC for #1, we told no one. I also have friends going through infertility and knew it could potentially be a while before we conceived, so I didn't want people constantly asking about our unprotected sex life. People ended up constantly asking us if we were trying, what our timeline was and if I was pregnant. It was annoying </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1328104 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 12:14:49 +0000 Shutterbug 1328104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I told my BFF at the beginning (almost 2 years ago) and then I told my mom last month because we're doing IVF this month and I wanted her to know. I'm glad I haven't told anyone else though. We've been married 4.5 years so we get the questions a lot - I usually just say "not yet" and leave it at that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-all-knows-you-are-ttc-apart-from-on-here-do-you-have-someone-to-go-through-this-with#post-1328058 Wed, 08 Jan 2014 12:00:18 +0000 mrsjyw 1328058@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>when we were ttc DS, our family and close friends knew we were ttc, but no one really asked prodding questions about it. </p>