https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 20 May 2026 16:52:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58905 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 14:32:11 +0000 theknest 58905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unfortunately, it's so hard to understand someone's tone when you send a text/email - so that's probably part of the problem. </p> <p>I use the term Momma all the time talking to expecting friends and new moms (never Mom or Mommy) - to me it's a term of endearment, and shows excitement over the baby. </p> <p>@PennyLainne - I understand the hormones and not being able to "get over things" - I was the same way when I was pregnant, the littlest things would set me off and then they would just fester inside. Then all that anger would ruin my day/week/weekend and made me an unhappy person at what's supposed to be such a happy time. Best of Luck to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58885 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 14:19:21 +0000 MsMini 58885@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have a couple co-workers who call me "little mamma" since I have been showing. I don't mind at all. </p> <p>I do think you could have worded your request for your friend not to a little more gently. If I would have gotten the text you sent her, I probably would have called you out as well!</p> <p>That being said, I really think that you need to let it go! I get pregnant hormones, I really do (I am 25 weeks pregnant), but I really don't think that they excuse going crazy over a minor issue! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58812 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 13:42:01 +0000 heffalump 58812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Weird, nobody said that to me when I was preggo. All sorts of people call me mommy now, but only when talking to my lo. Which I'm ok with because I want her to know I'm mommy, so that helps. I wouldn't be ok with people calling me mom when my lo isn't around, that's just weird. </p> <p>At least your friend will probably stop calling you mama now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58805 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 13:39:37 +0000 chopsuey 58805@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>So many people call me mama. :D LO and DH call me Umma (mom in korean). It never bothered me though. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58792 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 13:37:13 +0000 PennyLainne 58792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Andrea: She knows. I told her when I told her about this one.<br /> @Rubies: *hugs back!!!* Thanks :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58784 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 13:34:22 +0000 Rubies 58784@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PennyLainne: GROUP HUG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58782 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 13:33:53 +0000 Andrea 58782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Does your friend know about your MC? If not, then that would help explains why she doesn't "get it". That being said, I would not try to argue with you about it. I would have just responded to your original text "Ok". </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58778 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 13:31:58 +0000 PennyLainne 58778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: That's ok. I know it is just my hormones blowing it all out of proportion, and I need to just chill out and let it go... but all she had to say was ok., not that one day my kid will call me it bs.</p> <p>Edit: Wow I suck at letting things go right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58742 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 13:06:54 +0000 mrbee 58742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PennyLainne: Now that I have the full context (from your later posts), your text totally makes sense to me!</p> <p>When I first read it, it did seem strongly worded to me. Sorry, it sounds like that's not what you wanted to hear! :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58713 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 12:45:24 +0000 PennyLainne 58713@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: I was really trying to make the initial request non offensive. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58707 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 12:39:39 +0000 mrbee 58707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PennyLainne: I think you had a totally fair request (i.e. please don't call me mama), but your initial request was pretty strongly worded! I think it's not necessarily out of line for her to be taken aback? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58698 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 12:25:58 +0000 PennyLainne 58698@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: She doesn't seem to understand at all. She replied this morning telling me that the term "mom" is significant to ALL moms. And how she is just taken back by a few things. TTYL. </p> <p>FML. All I asked is that she not call me "mama". Why does it have to get blown out of proportion like this. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58488 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 06:57:37 +0000 lilteacherbee 58488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@MsMamaBear: haha my students do too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58485 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 06:32:52 +0000 MsMamaBear 58485@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SO and my students.LOL </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58445 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 00:56:00 +0000 Rubies 58445@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@PennyLainne: I didn't know you had a MC, which definitely could explain why you don't like the term. And I'm sure she understands. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58437 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 00:45:56 +0000 PennyLainne 58437@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@tequiero21: it may be because I lost one not too long ago, and now I am super touchy with it. </p> <p>@lovelife: Thank you! I am glad I am not alone. </p> <p>@mrbee: Thank you!<br /> @Rubies: I know she was meaning to be endearing, and I sent her another text trying to explain why I am not comfortable with it. I told her that I know she is meaning it in an endearing way and I told her that I appreciate the thought. And I apologized so hopefully she gets where I am coming from. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58426 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 00:33:40 +0000 polkadots 58426@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't like it either... and some people still say that now that LO is here... and I still don't like it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58416 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 00:22:33 +0000 tequiero21 58416@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i don't mind being called mama or baby mama.... but the one time someone asked how the "baby mama" was doing.... i had suffered a miscarriage, so i was like EEK! don't call me that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58397 Wed, 25 Jan 2012 00:01:23 +0000 mrbee 58397@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Rubies: that's how I would take it too!</p> <p>That said, it sounds like the label has special significance in this situation and I can respect that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58394 Tue, 24 Jan 2012 23:59:05 +0000 Rubies 58394@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When people found out I was pregnant with my LO, my coworkers, who are close friends too, would call me "Mama" just like the way your friend did and I thought it was very cute - they were happy and excited for this new stage in my life and I wasn't bugged by it at all.</p> <p>Everyone is different and if you don't like being called Mama because it's a special term you for you and your family then that's how you feel. I really do think, though, that your friend was just meaning to be endearing.</p> <p>I wouldn't fire off an angry text...I think you've made it clear to your friend that you don't appreciate it.</p> <p>hugs! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-calls-you-mom#post-58386 Tue, 24 Jan 2012 23:52:53 +0000 PennyLainne 58386@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am about 7 weeks pregnant. Well I told one of my friends and she started calling me "mama". Well this really bugs me. </p> <p>So today she sent me a text "Hey Mama! How's it going?" so I replied "Good. I am going to ask you this and it isn't to be rude. I just don't really like it. Can you please not call me that. I don't know why but it just bugs me. Sorry "</p> <p>Well she replied "ok then. Just thought you would have a sense of humor." "ttyl" "I'm sure your child will call you that when they learn to talk" .....EXACTLY!!!! My kid will call me that! Not my friends! I was trying to be nice about it and this is what you flipping send me! </p> <p>So I replied "it's not that. I do have a sense of humor. It has just been a me and DH thing. I am just not ready for it to come from else where." "I really didn't mean it in a rude way. Sorry." ... She hasn't replied. </p> <p>I seriously don't know why it bugs me so much but I want to be known as mommy to my hubby and my kids. Not my friends. I want to still be me. Just because I am becoming a mom I don't want to lose my identity as well. Half of my friends have lost them selves in their children and the other half have found a nice balance. I want to be part of the later. But seriously I would never call my friends mama or anything. I might bug them about becoming a mom in a fun cutsey way but I would never call them it in every conversation....... </p> <p>Who calls you mom (or any variation of)? Do any of your friends call you that? Would you be ok with it? Am I wacko for not liking it? Is there any one who would feel the same way I do? Please tell me I am not alone. </p> <p>I really want to write a hormone driven angry text back but instead I have decided to write it on here. Sorry... </p>