https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 12 May 2026 08:22:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2189743 Tue, 26 May 2015 15:45:19 +0000 AprilFool 2189743@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably tell each child I love them equally and then tell them some of the unique reasons I love them specifically. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2189315 Tue, 26 May 2015 11:07:30 +0000 daniellemybelle 2189315@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom would always say, "I love you differently." Kind of a spin on - I love you both in your own special ways.</p> <p>But, I mean, I know I am the favorite even if she can't admit it to me :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2189305 Tue, 26 May 2015 11:03:51 +0000 regberadaisy 2189305@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: that's exactly what I was going to say. My response would've been I love you both in your own way then proceed to list all the things that are wonderful about her.</p> <p>Thankfully she hasn't asked this yet but I'm definitely mindful when it's just two of us to list the many things I love about her. Including being an amazing big sister! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2189301 Tue, 26 May 2015 11:01:17 +0000 erinpye 2189301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My dad always told me I was his favorite oldest daughter, and my sister was his favorite youngest daughter. :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2189300 Tue, 26 May 2015 11:01:16 +0000 Greentea 2189300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would probably say I love them both infinity, because love isn't dependent on their behavior, just pours from me naturally (from me for them). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2189284 Tue, 26 May 2015 10:53:42 +0000 ValentineMommy 2189284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I only had one sibling, who is a brother. So we always got the "You're my favorite son" and "you're my favorite daughter". So....they basically got out of it.</p> <p>Since we're about to have DS2, I have no idea what we will say! "You're my fav big/little boy"?!?! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2171827 Fri, 08 May 2015 10:11:00 +0000 mrs. wagon 2171827@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haven't gotten the question yet but I always tell both kids "I love you with my WHOLE heart. I love your brother/sister with my WHOLE heart. I love you both exactly the same!" </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2171825 Fri, 08 May 2015 10:10:15 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2171825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: probably kind of unique to our situation, but there was a lot of trouble at school before we went this route :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2171818 Fri, 08 May 2015 10:06:11 +0000 Mamaof2 2171818@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: interesting - thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2171812 Fri, 08 May 2015 10:03:02 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2171812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: in our family we work on being inclusive to all of our friends. Best friend makes other friends feel excluded. My older daughter is sort of the ring leader of the girls in her class and she and one other girl were being very exclusive. We wanted to foster more inclusion, so we've had lots of play dates with other friends and focused a lot on "no best friends, lots of good friends". It's led to a lot less drama at school. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2171809 Fri, 08 May 2015 10:01:31 +0000 mrbee 2171809@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@birdofafeather: Ah yah, I'll have to reread that book now! Great tip, thanks!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2171799 Fri, 08 May 2015 09:58:57 +0000 birdofafeather 2171799@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: In siblings without rivalry, the women who wrote how to talk so your kids will listen, they definitely say that kids don't want to hear that you love them equally. Instead focus on the child himself: I love you in your own way because you are the only you, etc. That satisfies that child's need for your love. If you haven't read it, I would HIGHLY suggest it! SIL got it for me now that I'm expecting LO2 and I devoured it. Need to read the how to talk book too! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2171790 Fri, 08 May 2015 09:53:09 +0000 Mamaof2 2171790@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Jacks: what's wrong with having a best friend? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2171789 Fri, 08 May 2015 09:52:12 +0000 Mrs. Jacks 2171789@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents did the "you are my favorite" thing to all four of us. We never told each other until we were adults.</p> <p>I tell my girls "you are each special to me in your own ways... But just as we don't pick a "best" friend because we love all our friends differently, your mama and dada don't pick a favorite child." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2171785 Fri, 08 May 2015 09:51:16 +0000 Mamaof2 2171785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If I told DS that I loved him the most but not tell his sister he would immediately run to his sister and say "haha mom loves me more!" So that would never work!</p> <p>I haven't been asked this but I guess I would say I love them the same </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2171778 Fri, 08 May 2015 09:47:33 +0000 autumnlove 2171778@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They haven't asked yet but my parents always gave us the "we love you equally" response. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-love-more-me-or-my-sister#post-2171773 Fri, 08 May 2015 09:43:24 +0000 mrbee 2171773@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This topic has been on my mind lately because my son asked me recently who I loved more! I answered something about how I love them both equally. He accepted the answer, but I could tell it wasn't what he wanted to hear!</p> <p>I read about this one parent who told all their kids that they loved them most, but not to tell their siblings. Amazingly none of the siblings told each other that they were the favorite, until much later in life when they all compared notes!</p> <p>I don't really love either approach, but don't really see any alternatives to the, "I love you both equally" approach. </p> <p>What do you say when your kids ask you who you love more? </p>