https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 08 May 2026 01:10:30 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-141206 Sat, 28 Apr 2012 12:24:59 +0000 BSB 141206@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At the moment, no one. But I have vented to friends and family members in the past. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140407 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 13:32:55 +0000 baby98765 140407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>oh wow, I talk to my mom. She gives good advice. She's more like a friend at this point in my life anyway. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140301 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 11:52:05 +0000 littlebug 140301@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hubs and I rarely fight, but if we have a doozie, I'll usually call my best friend. He knows me better than anyone and a) can give me a guy's perspective and b) knows exactly how to talk me down. Hubs never talks to anyone about anything, ha.</p> <p>ETA: I would NEVER consider talking to my parents or his parents. I have, once or twice, talked to his cousin's wife. She's also a social worker, and we've gotten to be very close. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140296 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 11:45:14 +0000 heffalump 140296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: Lol, I know! My inlaws always make a face when BIL calls because they never know what he's going to say to them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140290 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 11:42:23 +0000 mrs. wagon 140290@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: haha. no problem. Even though it was hard at first for my MIL (possibly feeling abandoned by her own son, etc) I think she appreciates it in the end... she has been learning to live her own life and not emotionally depend so much on Wagon Sr., and I know she very much appreciates the good relationship between him and I. She's always telling us how proud she is of the work we do to keep our marriage strong. </p> <p>I can't believe your BIL tells his mom about problems with his sex life. I just threw up in my mouth a little. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140284 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 11:37:36 +0000 heffalump 140284@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: DH told me when we first started dating that he didn't tell his parents much. Over the years I'm starting to think he's comparing himself to his brother who tells them everything, including problems with his sex life. I'm ok with DH talking to his mom all he wants, just not about my personal business. We've put a stop to that now. I guess I wrote this post to see if I'm being a bad wife for making him stop, but it sounds like it's normal to feel the way I do about it so now I don't feel so bad. Thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140280 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 11:33:11 +0000 mrs. wagon 140280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>clarification for if (aka WHEN) Wagon Sr. lurks on here and finds this post: he is NOT a momma's boy any more. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140279 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 11:32:32 +0000 mrs. wagon 140279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: no matter how helpful or supportive she might be (and she would probably take my side a lot of the time), I don't find it appropriate for Wagon Sr. to depend on his mom for that kind of support or advice. I would much rather he go to his closest friends, his brother, or our pastor. I am all about boundaries and this is one I will NOT cross! :)</p> <p>Then again, Wagon Sr. was a REAL momma's boy. When I found out early in our marriage that he called her EVERY DAY (even when she would ask him not to, he'd still check in) I put a stop to that immediately. I'm glad I put my foot down early because all three of our relationships are so much better for it now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140272 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 11:26:35 +0000 heffalump 140272@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: I love DH's parents and I know they'd try their best to be non judgy and unbiased, but I just feel like it's impossible when you're talking about family and getting a one sided story. </p> <p>@mrs. wagon: Thank you! So glad I'm not in the wrong here. I felt bad telling DH I didn't feel comfortable with him telling his parents because I feel like I'm taking away his support system from him. But it's my life too, they're my family too, and I don't want them to think bad of me because of a stupid fight we have. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140267 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 11:23:19 +0000 mediagirl 140267@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No one. Our arguments stay between us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140260 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 11:16:18 +0000 mrs. wagon 140260@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: @Coco Bee: omg I'd be FURIOUS if Wagon Sr. went to his mom to discuss a fight we'd had. Even though she could probably help him see my point of view as a woman/wife, it's none of her business. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140241 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 11:03:58 +0000 LuLu Mom 140241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My best friend, if I'm really upset I call and vent to her and she gives it to me straight. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140216 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 10:54:31 +0000 JessicaMcB 140216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually my SIL (the oldest of his younger sisters) as we're in pretty constant contact anyway. Because she grew up with him, she understands he can be "interesting" sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140202 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 10:48:55 +0000 Mrs. Pen 140202@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: I think it could get messy very quickly if you involve family in your marital issues. why risk it...</p> <p>I WOULD go to my sister tho, and DH would go to her husband. He is a pastor and we trust them more than anyone </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140192 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 10:44:26 +0000 Mrs. Pen 140192@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: well, I definitely don't want him going to his parents with personal issues involving me. I know his mom would take his side because he's her favorite. I trust his dad a little more, but he talks to his wife about everything and she tends to involve herself in everyone elses business. It was actually a huge problem while we were dating.</p> <p>My parents love DH and I totally trust them to always give unbiased advice, but DH really doesn't want family involved. And I totally understand why, it could get awkward. And I think it's best to have a more outside opinion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140171 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 10:36:13 +0000 heffalump 140171@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Coco Bee: why do you feel like your parents shouldn't know? I actually agree with you, but dh talks to his parents about us. I said I wasn't comfortable with that and he made it seem like it was normal. So of course I came here to see, and I'm glad to hear I'm the normal one! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140167 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 10:35:02 +0000 Alivoo01 140167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrs. wagon: we're the same way!! We hardly fight, but when we do, oh man... bring out the guns and call Mr. and Mrs. Smith! LOL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140046 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 10:02:43 +0000 Mrs. Pen 140046@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We usually never get into a big enough argument that would make me feel I needed to talk to someone, but in the situations that I have, I go to my close married friend. She always gives me great advice and is sure to never "side with me" just because she's my friend. </p> <p>My husband and I created lists of approved people to go to with our marital issues, so I know exactly who he'd talk to and I'm okay with that and vice versa. He really trusts this friend of mine. It's a good setup I think, because we always know the other will get quality advice and isn't off gossiping to someone who shouldn't really know (like our parents!) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140045 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 10:02:20 +0000 chopsuey 140045@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@artbee: Haha thanks! @mrsjyw: I changed my pic. :) Muahaha. It's of M in her radio flyer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140041 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 10:01:10 +0000 Andrea 140041@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I don't really fight. If we do, we work it out right away so there is nothing to talk about to anyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140039 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 09:59:39 +0000 mrsjyw 140039@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>no one really. we usually just work it out. i'll talk about it in hindsight when giving advice to my gfs... </p> <p>@artbee: @chopsuey119: am i going blind? I only see the same avatar of bentley!? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140029 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 09:55:39 +0000 heffalump 140029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chopsuey119: I just noticed you changed your picture- so cute! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140024 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 09:52:11 +0000 chopsuey 140024@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mmm.. No one really. We don't argue or disagree often, by when we do we just talk things out </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140017 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 09:50:06 +0000 autumnlove 140017@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>lately, no one! :-( </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140016 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 09:49:28 +0000 mrs. wagon 140016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually just him. Sometimes I'll vent to one of my closest girlfriends, but I rarely call someone up or meet up with them just because I need to talk. I usually just fight it out with Wagon Sr.</p> <p>We don't fight often, but when we do, it's epic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-do-you-talk-to-when-youre-having-a-disagreement-with-your-so#post-140012 Fri, 27 Apr 2012 09:46:58 +0000 heffalump 140012@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Other than your SO of course. </p>