https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 30 Apr 2026 11:31:27 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-bad-cop#post-2518136 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 09:55:54 +0000 lovehoneybee 2518136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Eh, we switch off? I'm home with him more, so I'm bad cop by default. When DH is home, though, he's more often bad cop. E is very responsive to bad cop/good cop, so D disciplines him, then I go in after a few minutes and be the burn balm, so to speak, and we talk about why he's being punished. And then D comes back in to "make up". It's very effective in our house. It really sucks when I try to do it by myself, though...if I'm legit mad at something he's done or just his general behavior it's really hard to shut it down to be the good cop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-bad-cop#post-2518118 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 09:45:43 +0000 Mrs Green Grass 2518118@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me for sure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-bad-cop#post-2518111 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 09:38:53 +0000 yoursilverlining 2518111@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Definitely me. DH never undermines me or anything, and it's not done in a bad/mean way or something I resent, but yeah I'm definitely the bad cop. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-bad-cop#post-2518099 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 09:28:28 +0000 LilSprinkles 2518099@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-bad-cop#post-2518019 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 08:35:51 +0000 snowjewelz 2518019@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ValentineMommy: Same here! DH seems like the disciplinarian in the house, but I try to be more Janet Lansbury like and I do feel like when I'm kind a a softie/push over, I do a "better" job, for now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-bad-cop#post-2517993 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 08:16:10 +0000 ValentineMommy 2517993@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well, I think I discipline more effectively. DH is an automatic yeller (which drives me crazy), so while he seems to be the bad cop, his yelling really is ineffective. Since DS listens to me more when I discipline, so I guess it's me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-bad-cop#post-2517980 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 07:58:48 +0000 Jess1483 2517980@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are pretty even. He hears no from me more since I'm with him more, but he also hears yes from me more. He takes us both seriously. We both have moments where we think the other was too lenient/too harsh, but overall have very similar styles. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-bad-cop#post-2517972 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 07:54:43 +0000 Canoli 2517972@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Me! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-bad-cop#post-2517968 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 07:51:29 +0000 petunia354 2517968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Same! I'm the bad cop because I spend more time with him and DH doesn't want the little time he spends with DS to be a negative experience for both of them. Plus he is way more calm and patient so he just doesn't tend to get upset or discipline as much as I do. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-bad-cop#post-2517961 Thu, 07 Apr 2016 07:49:09 +0000 mrsjyw 2517961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm around more and DS1 doesn't take my mom as seriously as far as discipline (she's his primary caretaker), so I end up being the "bad cop," a lot.</p> <p>DH is very much like me in the discipline area, but at the same time he isn't around as much; so he has more patience to spare during the week which also defaults to me being "bad cop."</p> <p>I don't mind disciplining, but sometimes it makes me sad that all DS ever hears from is what he shouldn't be doing! </p>