https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 28 Apr 2026 23:56:22 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679985 Sat, 14 Jan 2017 00:10:04 +0000 gingerbebe 2679985@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyD: Ding ding ding. I've never thought of my children as "mine." I get that they are literally my flesh and blood and I absolutely adore them and would easily give my life for them, but I feel like my role is of someone vested with this responsibility to help them become who God created them to be. I'm supposed to protect them and care for them and teach the skills to be competent human beings, but they don't belong to me. They will go off and live the life that's meant for them. But DH IS "mine" and we belong to each other. We chose each other and are committed to one another and we'll be together until we die. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679966 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 23:02:52 +0000 youboots 2679966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyD: I agree with this. SO is the only family member you can choose based on compatibility. It's the relationship that takes the least work because we get along so well and are so tuned into eachother. I've always said being with his is effortless- like breathing. And we will always live together. Hopefully for 60-70 years.</p> <p>DD is so awesome but being a parent to a toddler is work- awesome work but still physically and otherwise demanding. It's what I signed up for. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679959 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 21:45:17 +0000 winniebee 2679959@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@JennyD: this is so true. It's hard to remember that our kids will not always need us or want us in the way that they do right now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679954 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 21:33:55 +0000 Ms. RV 2679954@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SO. Back when we were just work acquaintances, he unintenionally (and unknowingly) gave me the courage to leave my physically and emotionally abusive alcoholic husband. </p> <p>I love DD with all my heart, and she is the best thing that ever happened to SO. But I may owe my life to SO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679950 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 21:20:34 +0000 DesertDreams88 2679950@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hummusgirl: @JennyD: love what you said. My thoughts too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679945 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 21:10:44 +0000 newlypregnantlady 2679945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This was really hard for me to answer because my SO is a big reason I felt I would ever be able to parent. Without him I doubt I'd have reached a place where I'd think myself capable of being a mother.</p> <p> I actually probably would have dedicated myself to being a caregiver for my parents. And I'd probably be working on my PhD online, just as a way to have something to do. What a different life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679936 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 20:33:08 +0000 JennyD 2679936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH. I picked him. He's made me who I am. </p> <p>As odd as this might sound, I have always considered DD "temporary". As in, she'll (hopefully) always be part of my life, but she won't always be the centre of my life. My relationship with her will always be changing as she grows and becomes more independent and eventually goes off on her own. And I'll still have DH. Sure, our relationship always changes but we're together, forever. For each other. </p> <p>For the record, I love her and planned for her and wanted her. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679894 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 19:01:12 +0000 Mrs. Goose 2679894@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Well both! I couldn't have a baby without him...well I mean I could have, but it wouldn't have been his baby and our baby together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679884 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 18:44:13 +0000 JennyPenny 2679884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is definitely the best thing that happened to me. He helped show me what a healthy loving relationship looked like and to really trust others. I don't think I would be a good mother if it weren't for him, and not just because I wouldn't have the awesome kiddos he helped make :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679878 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 18:24:27 +0000 Greentea 2679878@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@looch: I really appreciate your answer! :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679870 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 18:07:33 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2679870@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@hummusgirl: this is so true too! How I love them is completely different types of love. I remember asking my mom when I was a kid if she loved my dad or her kids more and said it's so different, I couldn't say. I remember being so frustrated with her answer! But now I totally get it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679869 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 18:04:51 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2679869@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@mrbee: haha are you referring to my comment in the other thread :wink: you know my answer, then!</p> <p>I love DH of course and I see us being together forever. We're so happy together and function together so well.<br /> But it's different with LO. Like @yoursilverlining: @Mamaof2: as heartbroken as I would be to be widowed or divorced... I can't even fathom the thought of losing my child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679835 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 16:47:55 +0000 arosebyany 2679835@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my LO, but DH, we've been together since high school, so he's always been my life. Honestly I don't know that I could survive if something happened to him. I also want to say I didn't think I've ever seen a poll so evenly divided on here. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679833 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 16:45:18 +0000 LilSprinkles 2679833@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's a hard one. I'd have to say my DH because without him, DS would not exist. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679808 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 16:16:24 +0000 LuLu Mom 2679808@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to go with my children for the same reasons as @Mamaof2 &amp; @yoursilverlining. If my relationship ended for whatever reason with DH I would be heartbroken but would eventually recover, if my relationship ended for whatever reason with my children I would be a wreck and emotionally unstable. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679804 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 16:06:20 +0000 Boogs 2679804@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to go with SO because without him I wouldn't have my kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679746 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 14:57:10 +0000 ineebee 2679746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH. I adore my son of course, but I have a level of respect for my husband that will not be rivaled. His honesty, integrity and wisdom continue to astound me. I am so lucky to have him to ground me and love me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679724 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 14:38:19 +0000 Grace 2679724@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH. It's a very close tie, really, but he might squeak it through. I think because DH really broke a lot of walls I had put up. He really made me a happier person. I love LO to pieces, but I don't think the impact on my life was as huge. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679710 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 14:26:28 +0000 thepicklemonster 2679710@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH. I was going through some depression when I met him and he really saved me. He makes me a better person and ever since having a baby, I am even more obsessed with him. I adore DS, but he is only 15 weeks and I am still kinda getting to know him, if that makes sense. I can imagine having a happy life if we never had a kid but I can't imagine my life if I had never met DH. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679640 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 13:33:19 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2679640@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH for sure. Without him, there would be no kiddos. We had so much trouble having our kiddos, and we went through it all together. It very much brought us closer together, and our relationship is better because we were there for each other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679604 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 13:10:44 +0000 looch 2679604@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am the best thing that happened to me. Without me, there would be no us, or him. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679570 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 12:19:16 +0000 gingerbebe 2679570@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Other than my relationship with God, DH is the best thing that happened to me. I wouldn't have my kids without him anyway. He was an incredible husband before kids, he's a phenomenal husband and father after kids, he works his ass off for us, he's my best friend and I never get tired of spending time with him. I adore my children, but I've always prioritized my marriage when it comes to household decisions. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679547 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 11:52:23 +0000 littlejoy 2679547@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My feelings towards both are totally different. Different classes of "the best". My relationship with DH has made me a better communicator, and I feel confident in myself and our life choices. Parenting LO has taught me how deeply I can love (or how much deeper). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679521 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 11:28:33 +0000 snowjewelz 2679521@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>SO for sure. Without my husband there would be no kids. And when the kids are grown and out of the house, he's the one I'm going to spend the rest of my life with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679492 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 11:04:58 +0000 hummusgirl 2679492@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted DH. I adore my kids of course, but really I would adore them regardless of who they were (i.e. if I had conceived a month later, they would not be the kids I know now, but I'm sure I would love those hypothetical kids as much as I love my actual kids). But DH, I love him/chose him *specifically* and I can't imagine having what we have together with anyone else. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679488 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 11:00:39 +0000 808love 2679488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First thought: LO. Second thought: Maybe it's DH. He changed everything. LO is half-him too. So there you have it. DH is the best thing that happened but LO is my favorite! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679478 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 10:52:08 +0000 youboots 2679478@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DD is a product of my relationship with DH. Without him there's no her. I have always said the best part of my life is being married to him. </p> <p>Neither of them happened to me. We waited to have children intentionally. She was born after we had been married 8.5 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679469 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 10:37:20 +0000 travellingbee 2679469@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Everything wonderful in my life is a result of meeting and falling in love with my DH so I guess that's the best thing that ever happened to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679419 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 09:50:03 +0000 caterw 2679419@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love my kids and my husband equally, but my kids are the best things that ever happened to me. DD1 was a complete surprise after DH and I had been together for 5 years and having her completely changed my life. I never really thought I wanted to be a full time mom and I was kinda ambivalent about having kids at all. I was the breadwinner in our relationship and planned to send her to daycare so I could continue to work full time. Once she was born I looked at her and realized that being a mom was my life's purpose so now I'm a SAHM. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-is-the-best-thing-that-ever-happened-to-you-your-lo-or-your-so#post-2679417 Fri, 13 Jan 2017 09:48:12 +0000 oscarthegoon 2679417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: absolutely agree. </p>