Hellobee Boards Topic: Who *needs* whom more?

Hellobee Boards Topic: Who *needs* whom more? https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Thu, 14 May 2026 07:55:37 +0000 MsMini on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107961 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 19:20:54 +0000 MsMini 107961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think emotionally we are pretty even in the needing department. We are both pretty independent, but lean on each other from time to time. I think though, when I am off work for the year, I will need him a bit more, because I will have fewer outside sources of fulfilment. Adira on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107937 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 18:34:07 +0000 Adira 107937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH definitely needs me more. He's so lost without me, he's like a poor puppy dog. :P I'm much more independent AND social than he is. I'm perfectly happy reading a book or hanging out with my girlfriends, but he only likes hanging out with me, haha. But I like that about him. :) googly-eyes on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107890 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 17:37:07 +0000 googly-eyes 107890@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Since others have mentioned, he is the breadwinner...But emotionally I'd say it depends on the day! I'd say we're about equal but sometimes it seems I'm the more "needy" one because he isn't available much at all during his work week, whereas even though I have grad school, I'm able to have my phone on me at all times, spend a lot of time at home, etc. I like to think he'd seem "needier" if I were less available than I am! ;) DigAPony on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107828 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 14:25:20 +0000 DigAPony 107828@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I adore my husband, but he definitely needs me more. I cherish my alone time and he's the opposite. I'm very independent and lived by myself for nearly a year and really enjoyed it--if he's alone for a long time he gets mopey and sad. My sweetie! Mrs. Pen on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107746 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 10:31:22 +0000 Mrs. Pen 107746@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Oh I definitely need him more! Firstly, he has a masters and I only have an AA so I def need him for his skillz ;) he has a good teaching job that allows me to finish school and be home with our son. even when I was pregnant I didn't have to work which was great. Emotionally too as well. Sometimes I think I have an attachment or dependency disorder lol in all seriousness I don't know how I would cope without him. I have a really hard time with the fact that he works long days/nights. I will cry because I miss him so much! sorrycharlie on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107712 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 09:51:40 +0000 sorrycharlie 107712@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I am much more needy. I guess that means I need him more. At least - based on what we say! mrbee on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107709 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 09:49:43 +0000 mrbee 107709@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Leialou: Ah, so interesting! Thanks for sharing! Mrs. Yoyo on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107707 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 09:47:20 +0000 Mrs. Yoyo 107707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrbee: not sure, but I thought you needed some props for your correct usage of "whom." Bravo, sir. @Leialou: That is our relationship you just described! Except I am the affectionate one. winniebee on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107704 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 09:44:23 +0000 winniebee 107704@https://boards.hellobee.com/ In general he needs me more - he relies on me to keep him organized and gets very lonely without me! I am much more independent than he is. But, now that I'm on bedrest I need him more! MsMamaBear on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107692 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 09:30:03 +0000 MsMamaBear 107692@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think we both need each other the same since we are both independent, but with Baby Bear, he needs me. She's a daredevil right now.lol Mrs. Pickle on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107645 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 08:53:05 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 107645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrbee I think my comment did sound sort of abrupt. I think it has a lot to do with the way we grew up. I was bounced around a lot and became independent really young. My dad raised me and he doesn't show a lot of emotion so neither do I. My husband was raised by his mom who is super affectionate. So now he needs me to tell him that I love him, hug, and talk about feelings to feel secure in our relationship. I feel like I know he loves me and while those things are great I don't need them. When we first started dating and got serious I was really had to work on being an emotional person. It took a while to get there, but I did. I think it's a way we balance each other out now. Sorry for the novel! yoursilverlining on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107614 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 08:25:48 +0000 yoursilverlining 107614@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think my husband needs me more. It's hard to explain why, but yeah, he needs me more volksgirl64 on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107599 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 07:56:44 +0000 volksgirl64 107599@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I think it shifts but right now I definitely need him more. The last half of 2011 was a horrible year (death, lay off, health issues, etc) and now I'm 33 weeks pregnant so I could never imagine not having him. Which is SO opposite from when we met, I was an independant woman! mediagirl on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107565 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 06:19:53 +0000 mediagirl 107565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He needs me more. I think he would turn into a hermit without me around! cupcakemama on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107520 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 01:18:14 +0000 cupcakemama 107520@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrbee: wow Mr Bee you are an identical twin?? Cool! DH needs me more in the sense that if I died or we split it would destroy DH completely whereas I think I would cope better. That makes me sound heartless, which is not the case (!). Also I think having lost a parent I would be more equipped to deal with the grief if widowed. MaisyMay on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107512 Sat, 31 Mar 2012 00:44:29 +0000 MaisyMay 107512@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I love my husband, but he definitely needs me more. He never had to be completely on his own independent, and there are some common-sense things in life that he doesn't always figure out. Funny enough, he's by far the more "realistic" of the two of us. I tend to be the dreamer. His Barista on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107498 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 23:29:45 +0000 His Barista 107498@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Dh needs me. Half the time he can't find his keys it proper paper work for bills. mrbee on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107496 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 23:17:22 +0000 mrbee 107496@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @Leialou: How do you mean? BabyBoecksMom on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107493 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 23:10:19 +0000 BabyBoecksMom 107493@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I need DH more - definitely. We're both independent, but he is my rock when I get emotional. He keeps me centered and helps me to realize what's actually important. Mrs. Pickle on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107491 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 23:06:00 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 107491@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He needs me more for sure. It took me a while to get used to it. mrs. wagon on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107479 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 22:33:55 +0000 mrs. wagon 107479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I definitely need Rob Sr. more than he needs me. Although without me his life would be in total disarray! I keep things running... he is the emotional rock and visionary for our lives. It's a good system. Andrea on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107476 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 22:25:39 +0000 Andrea 107476@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He needs me more. He jokes around and says - you can't die first! BSB on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107385 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 21:11:14 +0000 BSB 107385@https://boards.hellobee.com/ My DH needs me more. I'm currently the breadwinner. He is still my partner and he knows I would be lost without him. Rubies on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107384 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 21:09:58 +0000 Rubies 107384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ He needs me more! chopsuey on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107383 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 21:09:55 +0000 chopsuey 107383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @mrbee: lol! okay. asked again and he says he needs me more emotionally! mrbee on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107380 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 21:08:04 +0000 mrbee 107380@https://boards.hellobee.com/ @chopsuey119: Haha, I mean *emotionally*!! chopsuey on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107374 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 21:05:53 +0000 chopsuey 107374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ DH says I totally need him more. I agree. He brings home the cheddah so I can stay home with my LO! Grace on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107371 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 21:05:24 +0000 Grace 107371@https://boards.hellobee.com/ For regular day to day things, neither of us needs eachother. We met in our late 20s and are both very good at being independant. Having said that, I think that now that we know what we've been missing, I think we'd be equally lost without the other. heffalump on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107360 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 21:00:34 +0000 heffalump 107360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ I need him. He does soooo much for me. But he needs me to help with LO. mrbee on "Who *needs* whom more?" https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-needs-whom-more#post-107358 Fri, 30 Mar 2012 20:59:40 +0000 mrbee 107358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ Mrs. Bee always says that she needs me more than I need her. Although now that we have kids, I need her or else I will be outnumbered!! How would I put down two kids without her?! But when it comes to just us and our relationship, she's probably right. Overall, I am more independent than she is. Which is surprising, since I'm an identical twin. Who needs whom more in your relationship?