https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 23 Jun 2026 15:41:52 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-868095 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 14:03:11 +0000 swedishfish 868095@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since they've broken up before I wouldn't feel as bad about leaving her out. Maybe take one with her in it to keep the peace?</p> <p>My uncle dragged his girlfriend of a few months into our family picture at my wedding and she was drunk as a skunk...she actually turned out to be an alcoholic and they broke up soon after my wedding. I'm still annoyed when I look at the picture. I didn't realize she was even in it at the time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-868020 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:37:52 +0000 chopsuey 868020@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think only family should be in family portraits. No fiance/es, gf/bfs. :T<br /> I'm sure she'd feel offended if she wasn't included though.<br /> Oh well! Too bad. :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-868018 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:36:50 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 868018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd pre-warn the photographer and get her to take some without spouses, some with all of them, and then say something like "ok who's married?? everyone else get out for this one..." that way it seems like the photogs idea. I know a friend got married and the photog kicked out both of her PREGNANT sisters HUSBANDS from the family pic so they had one without them "just in case". I think that was a bit overkill, but now they will forever have a picture that works if anyone splits up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-868016 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:36:25 +0000 Dandelion 868016@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Reading the history of their on and off again status and postponing the wedding...I wouldn't be shy about omitting her for this. My bff has family portraits like that of her dad's family, where my bff's brother's fiance at the time is in it. She turned out to be psycho though, and she's no where near their family anymore. When my bff got married, she photo shopped the ex in and pasted in her hubby and son, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-868009 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:34:15 +0000 SugarplumsMom 868009@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If it's an extended family picture, I'd definitely include the fiance. She's part of the family, imo. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-868008 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:34:13 +0000 LuLu Mom 868008@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would do her in some and out of some. When I was dating DH, his brother got married, I was included in some and then they did some without. I completely understood &amp; was in no way offended that they took some without me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-868004 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:32:39 +0000 Dandelion 868004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@swurlygurl: My ex husband is forever in my brother's wedding photos. We were actually married, then, but it's awkward to look at them, now, especially since I'm happily remarried to DH, whom my family all loves. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-868000 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:31:48 +0000 PurplePumps 868000@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd do a few different sets. Definitely one of just immediate family only. Hate to say it, but even husbands/wives come and go, but your immediate family will never change. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867994 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:30:28 +0000 blackbird 867994@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They're engaged, it'd be rude to not include her. But maybe you could do a "siblings only" photo or something that excludes her but isn't....obvious? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867990 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:29:33 +0000 looch 867990@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wonder what the heck to do in these situations as well, it's much more complicated in my husband's family because 2 of his siblings are not married, and his sister is now in the process of getting a divorce.</p> <p>I probably wouldn't include the fiancee. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867977 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 13:26:26 +0000 Mrsbells 867977@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If they are getting married soon then I would include her </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867884 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:58:26 +0000 regberadaisy 867884@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: that is annoying. I hear ya bc one of our last few full family photos with my deceased BIL has other BIL's ex wife in it. I just want to x-acto her out. At least she never came to our wedding so we have the pictures from that. Win! :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867868 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:54:48 +0000 Adira 867868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Freckles: Yeah, I think as long as you include her in some of the photos, she and your BIL won't feel offended. You could do some that are meant for your side of the family that don't include her and them some that are meant for your husband's side of the family that do. That should be good enough! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867860 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:53:18 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 867860@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I would take two photos. One with her in it and one without her. I wasn't shy about wedding photos with just DH and his bio oarents and then one with his bio parents plus their spouses. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867857 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:52:38 +0000 Freckles 867857@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@regberadaisy: They've broken up a few times, and even postponed the wedding! I like her just fine, but i remember during one break up, i was annoyed that she was in our wedding photos. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867852 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:50:44 +0000 Freckles 867852@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@.twist.: don't care if she's in regular photos, but these are photos i want done at a studio. My parents don't know her either.</p> <p>@Adira: That's a good idea. Maybe we'll just have her for the photos with just his side of the family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867842 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:49:16 +0000 swurlygurl 867842@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For my family, I would include the fiance. </p> <p>However, my sister's baby daddy ended up in my wedding family picture - holding my nephew!!! - and I'm not happy </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867792 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:40:34 +0000 regberadaisy 867792@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Are you paying pp? </p> <p>It depends on how close the fiance is. When I was a Fiance I had already been dating for 10 years so I was part of the family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867782 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:38:36 +0000 .twist. 867782@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hm. When I first started dating my husband, his parents had a strict "no girlfriends" in the family photos until they were married in. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867780 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:37:50 +0000 Adira 867780@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Could you maybe do some pictures of just your LO, just your family with your LO, your family &amp; siblings, and then your family &amp; siblings and their fiancees? That way it looks like you just want a bunch of options and aren't purposely excluding anyone. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-be-in-the-family-portrait#post-867767 Wed, 19 Jun 2013 12:34:59 +0000 Freckles 867767@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Since we live far away from our families, i was thinking of doing family portraits. It would be nice for the grandparents to have something with LO. I want to have our siblings in the photo, but do you think it's an insult if i don't ask my BIL's fiancee to be in the photo? </p>