https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 21 Apr 2026 12:18:28 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581309 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 19:42:08 +0000 MrsSCB 2581309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whoever needs the most space seems like the most fair way to do it, especially if you're splitting the cost. We go to a beach house with my parents and sister every year. My parents get the master, but they also pay for the house, so we obviously don't mind!</p> <p>ETA: I don't really know what will happen next year when we have a baby with us...If my parents are still paying, I don't think I'd ask for the master but they might offer it. Although typically, there are two rooms that are pretty equally large/nice in the houses where we stay. So really my sister gets the short end of the stick, as she is single and gets third choice :-/ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581304 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 19:27:09 +0000 Corduroy 2581304@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Is it a bathroom issue? My family has bathroom issues so we probably wouldn't want one of two toilets off limits for 12 hours at night and during nap time. Assuming the kids and I could fit elsewhere I would pass up the en suite room. However, I would expect my family to leave the decision up to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581269 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 17:33:41 +0000 youboots 2581269@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Even if my parents were paying for the whole thing I'd ask for the master. In the past they usually choose the darkest room- since my Dad likes it really dark to sleep- if it were the master it would be a debate for that reason. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581231 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 15:43:55 +0000 caterw 2581231@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents take the master because they pick up the tab for vacations (they refuse to take money from us because it's "their pleasure to treat their babies"). They will take our 2 year old in her pack n play with them if there isn't enough room for her with us. However, they have let us take the biggest room when our daughter still needed to nurse at night and when I'm pregnant, so I think they should defer to your family's needs this time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581195 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 14:42:56 +0000 misolee 2581195@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were in an exact same situation last vacation. My parents gave us the master bc of the kids and bc they still woke up at night. </p> <p>My parents took the smaller room with a queen. They had their own private bathroom too. My brother was t married at the time and slept on the fold out couch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581193 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 14:40:28 +0000 sapphire 2581193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In our family and friend trips, whoever does the organizing and legwork on the trip gets the best room. However exceptions made for people needing more space. Sometimes the best room for kids is not the master. On a recent family trip we found a small office to put one kid and then the master bedroom Walk in cedar closet for the other. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581189 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 14:37:04 +0000 Astro Bee 2581189@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just got back (today!) from a vacation with my parents. We stayed in AirBnBs, and DH and I made all the bookings and paid (although they have insisted that they want to pay their fair share). We didn't even entertain giving my parents the masters since the second bedrooms were on an upper floor and with twin beds and we couldn't see dealing with stairs and a young toddler from a safety pov, and in case we needed to bring him in the bed with us. My parents understood, cause they're, you know, reasonable and practical people! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581175 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 14:19:54 +0000 Mamaof2 2581175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SugarplumsMom: :silly: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581164 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 14:06:45 +0000 SugarplumsMom 2581164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whoever takes care of the kids should get the master. If your parents want it, you should happily oblige and assume they also want to sleep with your kiddos :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581162 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 13:59:19 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2581162@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@alphagam84: in regards to your question about cost, we just had this come up in my family. I rented a 4 bedroom place for my family/extended family to use for a wedding weekend. I decided to split the cost per room, instead of per person (but I did split all the fees and stuff per person). So my cousin staying with her child paid for a full room, but my sister &amp; other cousin split the cost because they shared a room (2 twin beds). It seemed fair and no one complained. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581159 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 13:55:00 +0000 JoyfulKiwi 2581159@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also voted it should be decided by space needed. I think it's wierd your dad wants to inconvenience you like that, especially because you're paying evenly. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581122 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 13:08:33 +0000 PinkElephant 2581122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are at a rental right now with my parents, my sister who is on her own, and my other sister who is with her husband and two kids. Each "couple" has a master bedroom with its own bath; my sister who is single has her own bedroom but is sharing a bathroom with my nieces (who are sharing a bedroom). My girls are sleeping in a sitting room off of my bedroom. Since my sister with kids and I each took two rooms, we each paid 1/3 of the rental; my other sister and parents each paid 1/6. Some of us have bigger rooms, some have better views, some have nicer bathrooms, but it all works out. How much time is everyone spending in the bedrooms, anyway!?</p> <p>In your case, your family definitely needs the larger space. I'd also consider location of the master - you probably want the kiddos in the room farthest from the main living area so they won't be disturbed in the evening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581110 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 13:00:17 +0000 Mrs. Pinky 2581110@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How many other full bathrooms? If there is only one other full bath then master goes to you guys for sure.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581104 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 12:51:30 +0000 Mommy Finger 2581104@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can see two arguments. As a respect thing, I would always give my parents the master. But if it didn't make sense based on size, I wouldn't have a problem asking for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental/page/2#post-2581084 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 12:22:18 +0000 avivoca 2581084@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it should go to whoever needs the most space. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2581079 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 12:16:37 +0000 JenGirl 2581079@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In this situation, I'd give you guys the master. if kids weren't an issue, then, yes, I'd give it to your parents for, you know, raising you and all. But this isn't favoritism or anything, it's just practical. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2581078 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 12:10:28 +0000 nana87 2581078@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In our family, it's whoever needs the most space. My parents get the master if there are extra bedrooms for the kiddos </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2581077 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 12:04:34 +0000 stiletto_mom 2581077@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can you compromise? </p> <p>Clearly you guys need more space, but maybe you guys should increase your share of the rent slightly to get it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2581029 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 11:10:43 +0000 NCSUchick27 2581029@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think whoever needs the most space should get it.</p> <p>DH and I are renting a beach house with his sister and BIL and his parents this summer. We are splitting the cost evenly with his sister and BIL (his parents won't be there the whole week). We have already told his sister and BIL that they can have the master with the king-sized bed. They have a 3 year-old who may end up sleeping in their room some. Also, BIL is like 6'5" and they are used to sleeping in a king-sized bed. DH and I don't mind taking the queen bed in the other room since that is what we are used to. Everyone gets their own bathroom so that isn't an issue. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2581004 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 10:43:57 +0000 OldpuebloJenn 2581004@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Jadj13: we've put a pack and play in many a closets! (Door open of course) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2581002 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 10:42:31 +0000 OldpuebloJenn 2581002@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents always get it when we travel, but they foot the bill. I voted for whomever needs the most space- if you are paying equally you should get it.<br /> I will add, my parents often have a grandchild sleeping on the floor on an air mattress, even when they are in the master. And my dad is always the first one up, so he always grabs a baby or two to let the parents sleep. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2580978 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 10:03:36 +0000 Jadj13 2580978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'd say whoever needs the space. </p> <p>My family and I rented a house in AZ for Christmas a few years back when my son was around 10 months and we took the Master.</p> <p>Due to it being a rental the curtains weren't the best and so I stuck the pack n play in the empty master closet. We kept the door cracked and had a fan running right outside the door for white noise / ventilation. </p> <p>Great space saver and made it nice and dark! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2580953 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 09:29:48 +0000 Truth Bombs 2580953@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess I'm not sure why your dad thinks he has claim to the master if he's paying the same amount as everyone else. I wouldn't inconvenience myself for the sake of harmony when someone else is flat out being unreasonable. We go to the beach with my parents every year. Traditionally we got a 3 bedroom house. One for my parents and then one for my family and one for my brothers family. My parents paid the full tab so they got the master even though my brother and I each had a baby. This year we had to bump up to a 4 bedroom because my brother and I each had a second kid. So one bedroom for our older girls to share, and our baby boys will still be in the room wth their parents. My mom and dad are still getting the master because they paid 50% of the tab and my bro and I each paid 25% (we didn't think it was fair for my parents to have to completely pay for a bigger house just because we decided to have more kids). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2580952 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 09:29:25 +0000 regberadaisy 2580952@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>First to whomever is paying for the rental or paying the most. Then if no one cares then to the biggest family.</p> <p>My ILs paid for a beach house years ago. They took the master even tho BIL has 2 small kids. But BIL, his (ex)wife and 2 girls got the second biggest room. DH &amp; I got the smallest, which we were fine with! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2580949 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 09:26:09 +0000 alphagam84 2580949@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it should be whoever needs the space the most which is your family in this case. Also, we sometimes do it by whoever does the work of researching, organizing, and booking the place gets the master. </p> <p>Question about splitting the cost 3 ways. Did your sister complain about paying as much as you (a family of 4) or your parents (a group of 2) since she's just a group of 1? I feel like my sister would make a huge fuss about splitting a rental equally since she's single. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2580946 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 09:22:54 +0000 Madison43 2580946@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whoever needs the most space, unless your parents want to contribute more so they can have it. We rent a house with my family every year, everyone pays equally and whoever needs the biggest rooms, gets it. This year, the house has 2 masters, so my brother and I will each take one, because we both have small kids. I don't have a typical parent/child relationship with my parents (honestly at this point I feel like their parent at times) so I find it bizarre that with a house full of adults paying equally for a rental, someone feels entitled to a master when they don't need it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2580945 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 09:22:18 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2580945@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Whoever put the most TIME/ EFFORT into planning the trip should get the master. Otherwise, I would say it defaults to the elders, your parents in this case.</p> <p>Does each bedroom have a private bathroom? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2580938 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 09:07:56 +0000 KatieBklyn 2580938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unless the other rooms are literally too small for the blow up mattress and pack and play, I'd give it to your parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2580937 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 09:05:48 +0000 2littlepumpkins 2580937@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@aprild: in this case I'd give it to your dad since it seems like a big deal to him. Or, offer to pay more of the tab? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-should-get-the-master-in-a-house-rental#post-2580932 Tue, 05 Jul 2016 08:59:21 +0000 runnerd 2580932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>That's a weak argument from your dad if y'all are splitting the cost. If they were paying, I'd feel bad taking the master, but with all splitting space needed should dictate. Although I do agree with @mediagirl: about harmony being a good deciding factor too :wink:</p> <p>ETA: we've travelled with my ILs and BIL/SIL several times and we are only with kids. After some trial and error we have all learned that the best solution to these decisions is what will help our toddler sleep the best and/or cause least disturbance to others sleep. </p>