https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 08 Apr 2026 19:18:23 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590622 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 11:11:05 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2590622@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We alternate based on our work schedules. The week and a half the boys had HFM, I had already taken the Thursday and Friday of the start of it off. The rest of the following week, we alternated days all week depending on who had a busier work schedule.</p> <p>If we get a call and it's a day I'm working from home, I'll go get them, but if I'm in the city, DH is only 20 minutes away, so he'll get them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590607 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 10:41:29 +0000 MrsKoala 2590607@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Usually me because I work 5 minutes from daycare and my schedule can be more flexible than my husband's. We alternate days if it is a situation where he has to be out for multiple days in a row depending on what we have going on at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590605 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 10:41:18 +0000 Mrsbells 2590605@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>we alternate but it depends. at one point DH had started a new job so it was always me. Then I started a new job so it was always him. We alternate that way it doesnt get excessive for one person </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590592 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 10:19:28 +0000 ShootingStar 2590592@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In general we try to trade off or split the day. It used to get annoying though because DH left before we got up, and if DS woke up sick, I'd always have to take off at least part of the morning before he could get home. If I get a call (they always call me) I call DH and we work out who's the best person to pick him up. A lot of the time one of us has a meeting or something else important at work we can't miss. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590577 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 10:01:19 +0000 kiddosc 2590577@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH can work from home. So if it's our 4 year old, DH will stay with him since E can watch TV and DH can still work. If something important is going on at work for DH, or if one of the kids is really sick, I'll stay home. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590518 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 08:57:25 +0000 krispi 2590518@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My husband doesn't work a traditional schedule, so if he's off that day, he stays with her by default. If we're both scheduled to work, then I usually stay home because my job is more flexible. There've been a few days when she was sick where I worked from home and had my dad come over to help with her so I could actually be at my computer. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590489 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 08:08:10 +0000 DesertDreams88 2590489@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends in who has a more busy / teacher-centric day (we are both teachers). Some days the lesson plans are easy to give to a sub, some days.... not so much, lol.</p> <p>I am still nursing so it would be nice to stay home and not pump, but I have almost no paid sick time left due to maternity leave </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590462 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 07:38:01 +0000 MaisyMay 2590462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haven't gotten this call before, thank goodness, but when one is sick whomever has the lighter day takes it off. If we had to pick up a kid mid-day and DH had a busy day, he would pick them and take them home and I would get off early to come home if he needed to go back to work. He works 10 minutes from daycare whereas it would take me an hour. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590456 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 07:34:30 +0000 smocks 2590456@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>The only time DH ever does is if it's already the afternoon and he's not working that day. Otherwise, it's 100% me. He's in his residency and basically, unless you are actually hospitalized, you do not get a sick day. He had to go to work when he had severe HFM, when he had gastro and was vomiting/diarrhea in between patients, etc. It's really crappy but we just deal.</p> <p>I have the ability to work from home, so it's always me. Which has been amazing this year, since I seriously think one or both of my kids has been called out 20+ days. Not even exaggerating. This year has been ridiculous. They call when they have a slightly elevated temp and then have to be out for 24 full hours. I love the daycare but hate their policy in this situation. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590434 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 07:08:59 +0000 gilmoregirl 2590434@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Daycare always calls me but it's almost always my husband who picks him up. His work is a lot closer to daycare than mine and his job (office) allows him to get out more quickly and with more flexibility than mine (teacher). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590427 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 06:50:10 +0000 Ajsmommy 2590427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This has never happened to us. One time they called to say DD had a low grade fever after waking up from nap, but I was already on my way to pick her up. </p> <p>When we keep her home I usually stay home day one (the worst day) and then if we keep her home an addl day it depends on my work schedule and how she's feeling. I might take the 2nd day too or i'll have DH stay with her. Just depends. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590420 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 06:32:55 +0000 babypugs 2590420@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Unbelievably, we've never gotten this call, so I don't know how we would handle it. I'm usually in more pressing meetings and he's closer, but I'm better about keeping my phone on me. Could go either way!</p> <p>We usually alternate sick days depending on what's going on. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590417 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 06:28:23 +0000 erinbaderin 2590417@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When we get the call from daycare it's almost always me, because I drive to work and my husband takes a train so I can get there faster. If he has to stay home, we try to alternate. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590411 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 06:12:05 +0000 MrsSRS 2590411@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always, always me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590382 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 00:45:59 +0000 Corduroy 2590382@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Daycare texts so we both get the message. DH works from home two days a week so he often does the initial pickup. Usually we split the day so we can both get a chunk of work done and almost make a full day up with a chunk after bedtime. I'm being laid off in a few months so my job has been deprioritized and now I'm the go-to sick parent. When I start my new job DH will need to take over that role until I'm established. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590376 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 00:06:23 +0000 lamariniere 2590376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends. Even though I WAH, my DH's job is actually more flexible since he doesn't have deadlines like I do. If I'm having a slow day, I'm the default parent. But if I'm under a deadline, DH will step in. So sometimes we are both at home, but DH is the one on nursing duty. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590374 Fri, 22 Jul 2016 00:03:28 +0000 birdofafeather 2590374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't had her called out yet (PT for 1.5 years) but it would probably be me picking her up again if DH is at work since he is a firefighter with 24 shifts! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590366 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 23:33:00 +0000 ALV91711 2590366@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>90% of the time it is myself that gets the call and gets him. I have the ability to do some work from home and DH doesn't. </p> <p>If it is multiple days we alternate days. If we can tell DS is coming down with something we will make an agreement of who will take what days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590360 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 23:17:44 +0000 Miss Ariel 2590360@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always me since Dh teaches. But there's been several times when they've called and Dh has had the day off so he's able to watch her instead of me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590348 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 22:21:07 +0000 Kemma 2590348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>At the moment it's DH because I've only been in my new job for two months, DH also works much closer to our preschool. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590345 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 22:16:38 +0000 sapphire 2590345@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Only happened once and I happened to be free so I picked her up but almost exclusively DH stays home with her if needed because his job is more flexible and he gets more PTO. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590342 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 22:12:12 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2590342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH gets more sick time. He gets paid sick leave. whereas I need to use my PTO to take a day off. So if he can make it work, he normally takes off. But we usually alternate if LO will be out for more than a day or two. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590341 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 22:10:40 +0000 PurplePeony 2590341@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always get the call because DH doesn't always have access to a phone. And the two times it has happened so far (knock on wood!) he has been out of town anyway. But in general, if he's working I would get her because he can't easily leave. If he's not working, I would try to get in touch with him to have him do it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590054 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 15:11:02 +0000 catlady 2590054@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I work close to daycare so it's always me if we get "the call". But we split it pretty evenly when she wakes up sick and we need someone to stay home with her in the morning. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2590049 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 15:07:42 +0000 Mommy Finger 2590049@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH works in the city and is a train ride away. I'm 20 minutes. So I call myself the first responder. He will then take off the next day to stay with the sickie if my parents can't help out. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2589975 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 14:24:05 +0000 wheres_c 2589975@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always me! I work from home and I also have unlimited PTO - Whereas hubs only gets 15 days. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2589947 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 14:11:30 +0000 Mrs. Carrot 2589947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Always SO because he has the car with him during the day. I go only if he has something going on, but it still involves him having to get the car to me somehow. We alternate staying home with a sick kid depending on who has what going on at work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2589944 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 14:09:07 +0000 PawPrints 2589944@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We've only really ever gotten that kind of call once. At the time it had to be DH due to the location of the daycare. Now that she's in a daycare close to our house, it's a lot easier for me to get her, so I imagine it would default to me unless I absolutely had to stay at work that day, in which case DH would suck it up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2589936 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 14:06:35 +0000 avivoca 2589936@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It depends on the time of year. If it's prior to May, it's always me because I get a lump sum of sick/PTO at the beginning of the year. After August, it's always my husband because mine is running low and he's accrued enough. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-takes-off#post-2589932 Thu, 21 Jul 2016 14:05:03 +0000 lawbee11 2589932@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Depends on the day. If it's a day he's teaching I take off. If it's a day he's working from home he takes off. </p>