https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Tue, 26 May 2026 01:36:48 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant/page/2#post-2429036 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 10:08:09 +0000 snowjewelz 2429036@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think for immediate, it would be my parents. My mom already watches her so it'd an easy transition. But long term, she'd probably be better off with my SIL since they have kids and her cousin is the same age. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant/page/2#post-2428772 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 08:27:07 +0000 NavyRN2012 2428772@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Either my in-laws or BIL. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant/page/2#post-2428750 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 08:15:13 +0000 Mrs. Lion 2428750@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>No family that we would feel comfortable with so we chose a close friend whose parenting style and values align well with ours. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428661 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 03:30:35 +0000 travellingbee 2428661@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My brother and SIL. They are very close with him. Second would be my parents. We did our will last year. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428627 Wed, 20 Jan 2016 00:57:57 +0000 LindsayLou 2428627@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We haven't made a decision yet, and will continue to reevaluate as time goes on. But right now, it would be my parents. When my brothers are older and settled down, it would most likely be one of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428544 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 23:21:21 +0000 youboots 2428544@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My cousin and her husband. She's like my sister and we help run our family business together which has some implications on guardianship. They have 5 kids and the youngest is in kindergarten so it would not be a strech age wise. My sister and her husband have 2 kids and are self employed artists living in a one bedroom in SFO- if their situation changes they would become the best choice. My BIL is a gun enthusiast and heavy drinker- he is married and has kids- but no. My parents are not good choice because my Dad was an awful parent. My MIL is caring for her partially disabled husband. It's in writing, but we have not signed yet, doing that next month. It's so hard to pick apart the life of family to make the best decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428525 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 23:05:42 +0000 Boogs 2428525@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mrs. Pen: My inlaws are most stable for us, and healthy but with my FIL close to 70 it concerns me. In your case, that's definitely nice and young still! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428480 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 22:25:54 +0000 ModernDayJibarita 2428480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents are our #1 choice; they aren't even 50 so age isn't a factor but they have very different values from how we plan to raise our children ( They are very conservative catholics and we aren't) and they would have to agree to move to OH because I don't want my kids raised in Puerto Rico. </p> <p>Our siblings are younger &amp; unmarried. My sister has massive student loans and doesn't want kids; BIL is still in college. We would consider them as primary options if they've settled down in 10 years or so. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428463 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 22:09:49 +0000 LovelyPlum 2428463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@littlejoy: my parents have 6 siblings between them, all of whom live close by and my parents have reasonable relationships with, and we STILL would have gone to my parents' BFF and his family. No one says you have to pick family! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428461 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 22:07:18 +0000 LovelyPlum 2428461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister and BIL. We decided this right after LO was born. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428427 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 21:38:47 +0000 matador84 2428427@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My single brother! He is super responsible and financially stable, plus we trust him so much. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428424 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 21:37:14 +0000 Mrs.KMM 2428424@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's sister and her husband. And if they can't, my sister and her husband are the backup. We asked both of them to make sure they were okay/comfortable with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428327 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 20:31:26 +0000 yellowbird 2428327@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mil and Fil are #1 for now. When dhs siblings get a little older and more settled we will ask them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428322 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 20:29:55 +0000 Tidybee 2428322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister and her husband. They know. We had to tell my inlaws because they are our executors, and I think they were offended that we didn't choose their kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428319 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 20:27:13 +0000 FaithFertility 2428319@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister and her DH </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428318 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 20:26:54 +0000 littlejoy 2428318@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We don't have formal plans yet. It's a conversation though. Honestly, it would likely be friends - but we haven't decided who. Then, once my sister is of age (she's just 17 now), we'd transition the plan to her (providing she ends up being a kind, loving adult who could handle it). </p> <p>We don't live near family, so sending LO away from our state wouldn't make much sense. It's hard to think about, but super important. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428279 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 19:47:18 +0000 Mrs. Pen 2428279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: it's probably not the case for most HB' ers here, but my parents are in their early 50's, so age isn't a concern for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428239 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 19:15:22 +0000 simplyfelicity 2428239@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Choice one, my sister and her husband<br /> Choice two, my MIL<br /> Choice three, my parents </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428238 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 19:15:16 +0000 regberadaisy 2428238@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We have talked about it lots but can't come to a final decision. Both sides of parents are out due to their age.<br /> My older brother and SIL are probably our best choice. Brother 2 has a rocky marriage so it would be a lot if he ever got divorced to add our two kids.</p> <p>BIL is selfish and not dependable. His Gf is awesome and does change my stance. But still a GF now and who's to say they'll be forever?- </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428236 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 19:14:20 +0000 Keybee 2428236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SIL and her husband are our first choice right now, though I don't agree with all of her parenting philosophies and would much rather raise my kids myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428218 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 18:47:22 +0000 Ginabean3 2428218@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My sister and husband for sure! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428216 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 18:43:09 +0000 Ms.Badger 2428216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents, and when my sister settles and is ready, she would get him (I'm hoping my sister is settled before my parents feel too old to care for kids which I feel 99% confident in happening). </p> <p>We will take my BIL's two kids should it be needed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428212 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 18:38:34 +0000 Jess1483 2428212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Boogs: my parents are very healthy and in their early 60s, so not yet. When it becomes a concern, we'll switch. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428210 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 18:37:17 +0000 Jess1483 2428210@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents until/unless we feel they can't care for them (though my mom has also said she'd willingly hire someone to care for them in her home if she felt unable). If at some point we decide to switch, it will be to DH's sister. We are guardians for their kids. They would do a wonderful job, but my kids are so comfortable with my parents and it would be least disruptive to their lives (we live 5 minutes from my parents and my mom watches my kids regularly). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428152 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:35:04 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2428152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I guess my mom. We will reevaluate as time goes on.<br /> Maybe eventually DHs brother and his wife. I wish my siblings could step up but they are soooo not in a place where they would raise kids. They would probably blow the inheritance quickly! Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428147 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:30:55 +0000 lovehoneybee 2428147@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>BIL/SIL, and my other BIL/SIL if our first choice isn't able. They are further away than we want our kids to be from my D's patents, but they'd raise our kids the most like we would.</p> <p>They all know and are willing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428144 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:30:31 +0000 mrs.shinerbock 2428144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My older sister and her husband - they have young LOs as well and we are their "in case of" care as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428142 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:28:03 +0000 erinbaderin 2428142@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are also totally up in the air. We're the "in case of" parents for our friends, but I don't like some of the ways they raise their kids so I don't want them to have ours! My ideal situation would be my brother and his girlfriend but I'd like them to be married....right now we have no plan. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428140 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:27:56 +0000 hilsy85 2428140@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We are in the process of formalizing this now. We asked close friends. Our parents are all older, and our siblings have very different parenting styles. I think my sister would be super offended tat we didn't choose her--we're her choice to take her kids. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/who-will-care-for-you-kids-if-you-cant#post-2428136 Tue, 19 Jan 2016 17:25:24 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 2428136@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're totally up in the air about this. My parents are getting old, but my husband thinks it should be my mom. I think it should be his dad and step-mom since they are younger and she never had kids of her own. I think SMIL would be such a doting primary caregiver. </p>