https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 17 May 2026 10:08:38 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2593369 Wed, 27 Jul 2016 08:11:31 +0000 Anagram 2593369@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It goes both ways...no formal invitations though. We live far from both sets of grandparents, but it's kind of understood they want to see the kids as much as they can...so usually each aide visits us twice a year and we go visit them twice a year.</p> <p>We just figure out good dates for the visits all together. There are no formalities like "we invite you for the third weekend of August", it's more like...let me know what dates you'll be coming in august and we'll arrange our schedules. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2593348 Wed, 27 Jul 2016 07:37:17 +0000 Adira 2593348@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My mom usually initiates the "Let's get together!" conversation and then I say something like "Okay, come to us, please!" :D </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2593343 Wed, 27 Jul 2016 07:16:58 +0000 regberadaisy 2593343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Mamaof2: my mom is like this and drives me bonkers!!!<br /> She complains that we live "too far" away and I'm always like when I'll buy you a plane ticket to come visit. Then she doesn't want me to spend the $$. You can't win. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2593212 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 20:16:24 +0000 Aandmklover 2593212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents always call to get together but DH's are always waiting for an invite which is weird because they have way busier schedules than we do so it would make more sense for them to tell us when they are available. Rant over. Lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2593198 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 20:06:54 +0000 sapphire 2593198@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents tend to invite themselves over but understand if we're not available. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2593105 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 16:49:53 +0000 JenGirl 2593105@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For close family friends, I like to have an open invitation but still check. So I don't want them to wait for me to invite them, but I hope they'll call and check to be sure it's a good time. Same goes for when we visit them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2593075 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 16:00:36 +0000 ShootingStar 2593075@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My parents invite themselves all the time. Doesn't bother me. They ask if it's ok though, they don't just assume it's ok or anything. Or they'll ask if we can visit and tell us if it's easier for they'll come here instead. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2593067 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 15:52:46 +0000 Alivoo01 2593067@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>They just tell us they're coming to visit, and 9 out of 10 times, we'll say okay. Only time we say no is if we'll be out of town. We're family. Invitations aren't really necessary. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2593059 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 15:44:06 +0000 caterw 2593059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With my parents, I will invite them often and they also invite themselves (and vice versa with their house). My mom is my best friend and we are super comfortable invading each other's space lol. My sister is the same way; I see my brother less but he isn't really a baby person so we typically do more grownup activities and I therefore have less time to spend with him.</p> <p>With my ILs, we are constantly inviting them to come up and they rarely say yes. We have issued an open invitation for them to come even when DH is working or busy so they can see DD and they still don't come. They expect us to always come to their house, but don't invite us over. I just started informing them of our plans and they can choose to attend events at our house or not at their convenience. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2592992 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 14:14:47 +0000 snowjewelz 2592992@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We invite... Our parents usually don't invite themselves over since they don't know if we're busy or not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2592986 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 14:09:50 +0000 MaryM 2592986@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's a two way street. </p> <p>When it comes to family and close friends, I think it's fine to say "Can I come visit?" But both people should do the asking and both should do the inviting. </p> <p>Sometimes I ask my mom to come. Sometimes Mom tells me when she wants to come and I let her know when good times are. The same goes for me visiting her. </p> <p>My siblings on the other hand...rarely visit me. They count on me coming to see them because they live near my mom and I travel to see her anyway. And because I don't have kids so it's easier for me. </p> <p>Other than when his son was in a hospital nearby and he slept at mine or DH's place a few times, my brother hasn't visited me since the day I graduated from college (14 years ago) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2592978 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 14:04:35 +0000 kiddosc 2592978@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think it's the host's duty to invite. I wouldn't invite myself over to stay with someone else. </p> <p>In your situation, however, I would just let her know that she has an open invitation and for her to let you know when she's available. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whos-does-the-inviting#post-2592941 Tue, 26 Jul 2016 13:05:59 +0000 Mamaof2 2592941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Do you invite your parents to visit or do you wait for them to ask to visit?</p> <p>Do you have an opinion on who should invite/ask? Meaning should the parents be the ones to ask or should the child be asking the parents to come visit?</p> <p>My mom travels and does lots of volunteer work (she is retired) I am always asking her to come visit and she is always busy so I stopped asking ..... then I get the "well you haven't invited me"</p> <p>ugh... I cant win! </p>