https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sun, 16 Aug 2026 14:06:46 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599968 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 18:43:28 +0000 autumnlove 2599968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Prob equal in own ways </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599941 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 16:22:13 +0000 MrsB2012 2599941@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>his. His family ( mainly his mom ) is very high needs, very dramatic, always going through some mid life crisis. </p> <p>My family is just very normal, no dramatics whats so ever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599938 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 15:52:27 +0000 jaguar 2599938@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine. It's a total trainwreck! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599929 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 15:24:58 +0000 SweetiePie 2599929@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@OldpuebloJenn: yes to not letting the relationship grow organically. Those are the exact same words I used with my husband. So much about the relationship and visits is forced and it just makes for a lot of resentment all around. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599912 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 14:30:43 +0000 OldpuebloJenn 2599912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: same same! They called when they thought I was going to be out and DH was like, nope, she's here and let's get this convo on speaker.<br /> The whole situation makes me mad/sad as my 4yo would say. Instead of letting the relationship/s grow organically, I feel like it's really stunted any growth there could have been between us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599909 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 14:15:38 +0000 SweetiePie 2599909@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@OldpuebloJenn: oh the talk. Yeah, and it was behind my back! My mother in law asked for a private lunch with my husband (during the work week when I was home with our 6 month old) and she told him that the amount that they see their grandson is unacceptable. Yeah. Weekly. Unacceptable. When my husband told her that I felt weekly was plenty and possibly too much she was floored. He said she was speechless and smacking the table.<br /> He sorta threw me under the bus, but I'm also glad that he told her something I'd never have the balls to say myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599907 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 14:02:13 +0000 OldpuebloJenn 2599907@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@SweetiePie: we must share the same in laws! We've also received "the talk" about not being as welcoming. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599905 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 14:00:55 +0000 OldpuebloJenn 2599905@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's for sure. His mother has a list of expectations that she has yet to share with us, so we are a source of constant disappointment. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599901 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 13:57:10 +0000 gingerbebe 2599901@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oddly before kids it was DH's family but since kids it's been my family. Sigh. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599868 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 12:14:00 +0000 SweetiePie 2599868@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His. They have way more expectations and their feelings get hurt easily. </p> <p>My family is very laid back and have a "we're here if you need us, cool if you don't" mentality.<br /> His lives nearby (hour away) and want at least once a week visits (and have had a "talk" with DH about us not being welcoming enough).<br /> Mine lives an hour flight or 7 hour drive away and don't expect anything beyond every 3 months or so (and even then it's not a pressured expectation, more of a "it's been a while would love to see you" thing, and to be honest I still usually initiate it). </p> <p>Mine definitely has its own kind of drama, but it's mostly extended family (my dads siblings who we rarely see) and my brother (mostly unemployment type stuff). It doesn't impact DH &amp; I at all. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599831 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 10:42:29 +0000 LAZB 2599831@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>1000% his </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599820 Sat, 06 Aug 2016 10:12:31 +0000 808love 2599820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's family is awesome! I had one conflict with MIL after engaged and another when BIL took DH side in something he knew nothing about. I think I broke a lot of their rules but they accept me anyway. After years and years of polite sweetness, I must conclude they are loving and I love them!! We rarely see them though.</p> <p>So it is my side. One side of my family has difficult personalities and make choices I totally disagree with but am still interacting with them regularly on FB and through my mom. I limit contact but I can't help but to love them, craziness and all, so on good days and small doses we can connect. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599368 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 11:32:10 +0000 travellingbee 2599368@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both agree that his is much more difficult. Both his immediate and extended family have issues. Lots of drama and estrangement and big needy personalities. DH couldn't be more different. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599367 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 11:28:58 +0000 lovehoneybee 2599367@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine, for sure. We've cut off almost all contact with them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599365 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 11:23:48 +0000 alphagam84 2599365@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His for sure. My MIL is crazy difficult and dramatic. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599346 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 10:49:09 +0000 catlady 2599346@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Probably equal, but just different. My family likes to air out their issues (loudly) and his family likes to bury them and never resolve them, ever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599343 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 10:43:15 +0000 MrsBrewer 2599343@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His for sure. Though my family is just super laid back, and anything goes. His is more....reserved? I don't know if that's the way. I mean His family is great, very loving and caring for sure. But yea. Just.....his....hahah </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599342 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 10:42:10 +0000 runnerd 2599342@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Mine, but it's a none issue really because I limit contact with the difficult family members. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599339 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 10:38:18 +0000 cascademom 2599339@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His. MIL is a piece of work. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599229 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 08:35:03 +0000 csross217 2599229@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's, definitely. Specifically his parents. They've barely been involved in LO's life so far and blame us for it. We give them just as many opportunities to see her as my family has, and they always have an excuse to bail at the last minute. It's too hot out, they're too busy, suddenly don't want to drive at night, etc. They've always been very selfish and manipulative, even when DH was younger. It's like navigating a minefield trying not to make them angry... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599212 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 08:16:56 +0000 snowjewelz 2599212@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think his, just b/c there are more people in terms of scheduling get together and what not. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599188 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 07:55:53 +0000 yin 2599188@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's family is more difficult, but they are also much more involved than mine. More interaction and cultural differences can lead to some drama. I'm pretty distant from my parents, and I get along with my sisters because we all have kids similar in age. Of course it wasn't always this way, and my family was probably more difficult in the past. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599175 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 07:47:59 +0000 cnidaria 2599175@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His, also in large part due to cultural differences. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599164 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 07:37:11 +0000 caterw 2599164@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Um.... his for sure. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599152 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 06:50:36 +0000 OhCaptain 2599152@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Ajsmommy: I hear that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599151 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 06:46:33 +0000 Ajsmommy 2599151@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Can I say DH? Not necessarily his family, but him? :silly: He got mad last week when my mom was visiting bc she washed our dishes. I hate being stuck in the middle and having to tell my mom, whom was just trying to help, to not do our dishes ever again..... ugh </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599148 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 06:37:59 +0000 Adira 2599148@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His. :P </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599146 Fri, 05 Aug 2016 06:29:00 +0000 looch 2599146@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Equal, but in different ways, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599101 Thu, 04 Aug 2016 23:31:23 +0000 Anya 2599101@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>His, probably because there are simply more of them. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-family-is-more-difficult#post-2599100 Thu, 04 Aug 2016 23:30:18 +0000 BabyTsMom 2599100@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH's, by a thousand miles. I want to move away just so we will be farther from them. </p>