https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Sat, 11 Apr 2026 01:48:02 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-1845617 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 14:29:28 +0000 MaryM 1845617@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: I am loving the hide feature on Facebook. I still see things that sting occasionally that I didn't expect, but at least otherwise I can go looking for the new babies when I'm prepared for it and I'm not bombarded daily! </p> <p>I also LOVE the friends who've set up the private groups to share photos instead of posting them constantly on their own timelines. Then I can go see them on my own time and they don't fill my feed. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-1845596 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 14:11:45 +0000 BSB 1845596@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sweetooth: Yeah, my sister already told me of her BFP weeks ago and we (my family) are already talking about her baby shower. But seeing it posted on FB just brought all those emotions of jealousy back again. I might be having a hard time with all this waiting for IVF. I might have to hide my sister and bunch of other newly pregnant friends.</p> <p>I hate to be babied but I kinda wished I got a slight heads up from my sister. I know it's unreasonable. Just trying to figure out how I could have reacted differently. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-1845585 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 14:07:46 +0000 sweetooth 1845585@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: Oh that feeling is so hard...I remember when I found out my sister was pregnant right as we were on the cusp of our last natural cycle and our first clomid cycle. Feel everything you are feeling. It's valid, and important to process. We're all here for you! <i>(ps...I will write more soon!)</i> </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-1845513 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 13:32:48 +0000 FliegepilzHut 1845513@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I find random strangers, especially teenagers, the hardest. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-1845507 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 13:30:39 +0000 MaryM 1845507@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@bluestriped bee: :bummed: </p> <p>I find non-family harder. When I'm having my most emotional days, I actually find it helpful to visit my SIL and love on her kids (I came REALLY close to taking one home last time though!)</p> <p>The people who've just met/just married are harder for me. DH and I have been together for 8.5 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-1845488 Tue, 02 Sep 2014 13:21:33 +0000 BSB 1845488@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Feel like bumping my old thread. My sister just made it FB official with her pregnancy annoucement. Ugh! Oh, what I would do right now to be pregnant. :bummed: The wait to do IVF is really getting at me. I just want skip over these next few months. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-970753 Sun, 28 Jul 2013 16:43:38 +0000 Hismrskisses 970753@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TheSwissWifeStyle: I've been trying to find one. And there's one that my friend has used with both her pregnancies that ive seen once and i really likes her but of course they don't take my insurance! But I did see a doctor (that I really did not like ) last week and she ordered some tests to see if I am ovulating and everything starting with my next cycle. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-970742 Sun, 28 Jul 2013 16:38:40 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 970742@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Hismrskisses: Wow, you should def. try to find a doc who will listen to you! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-970733 Sun, 28 Jul 2013 16:35:43 +0000 Hismrskisses 970733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TheSwissWifeStyle: I've been off bc for 3 years but just because i didn't like how they made me feel. But have really been trying for 2 years. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-970721 Sun, 28 Jul 2013 16:30:46 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 970721@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Hismrskisses: How long have you been trying? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-970718 Sun, 28 Jul 2013 16:28:20 +0000 Hismrskisses 970718@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@TheSwissWifeStyle: thank you! It's even hard to talk to a doctor about it because I am young and EVERYONE always tells me that I have plenty of time and I know that but still they don't understand! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-970714 Sun, 28 Jul 2013 16:24:58 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 970714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Hismrskisses: That's what we're all here for ::hugs:: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-970707 Sun, 28 Jul 2013 16:20:52 +0000 Hismrskisses 970707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I feel like I'm the only one left out of my friends without a baby or that isn't pregnant. It's hard because I have no one to talk about it that can know from experience how depressing and emotionally hard it is to go through! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-961734 Thu, 25 Jul 2013 07:41:19 +0000 LindsayInNY 961734@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I forgot this one - DH's cousin's wife is pregnant with #3. They can't afford #1 or #2 but is having #3 and is excited to get more money from the state (yes, she said that). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you/page/2#post-955407 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 09:34:35 +0000 cavalierkcs 955407@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My coworker just announced to the office yesterday that she's due the same exact week in January that I would have been before I miscarried :-(. I'm not a jealous person but I definitely feel it today. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-955311 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 09:02:03 +0000 spaniellove 955311@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>This thread makes me so glad I don't know many people of childbearing age. IF sucks enough as it is without the announcements! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-955280 Tue, 23 Jul 2013 08:50:14 +0000 pui 955280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@LindsayInNY: :( Sorry... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-954112 Mon, 22 Jul 2013 19:30:55 +0000 LindsayInNY 954112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just went on FB to baby #3 announcement from a girl I grew up with (so we're the same age). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-926483 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 10:30:44 +0000 HazelEyes 926483@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: uggggh. Shot to the gut. I'm so sorry. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-926356 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 09:51:05 +0000 pui 926356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@chibee: Sounds like we experienced a very similar situation. My SIL drank almost 2 bottles of wine and hot boxed our basement the night before she found out she's pregnant. :\ Needless to say she wasn't even trying.</p> <p>I'm not sure if I fit in with IF either... I've only been TTC for 6 months, but I never ovulated and now my period has completely stopped. In any case I do not feel like I fit in with the regular POASers anymore. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-926349 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 09:48:03 +0000 chibee 926349@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@pui: i'm so sorry - it was the hardest for me when i found out my SIL was pregnant last year also. I don't know if I fit into the infertility category since we have really only had 3 or 4 "real" trying cycles, but it has been over a year since we started TTC and every news of pregnancy hurt, but my SIL's was by far the worst for me. We aren't close, and I already always felt like things came so easily for them so it was a hard pill to swallow. I honestly never really did feel happy for her but she just had her baby a couple weeks ago and of course I am in love with the baby. Family news is really hard I think. I'm sorry, I know how you feel. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-926309 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 09:34:53 +0000 Mrs. Jump Rope 926309@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had a "friend" who got engaged and was planning a wedding for two years in advance. She knew we were TTC, and struggling, and she *insisted* we look for bridesmaid dresses immediately. I was hesitant because I didn't see the point in buying a BM dress two years in advance AND I had no idea if/when I would be pregnant. She was also vocal that she didn't want a pregnant bridesmaid.</p> <p>Other factors came into play, but our friendship eventually dissolved. </p> <p>She got pregnant almost right after her wedding, and I was devastated. We'd been trying for three years at that point, and she was so "against" me being pregnant that it was a bitter pill for me to swallow when I found out that she was. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-926296 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 09:31:51 +0000 pui 926296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My SIL found out she is pregnant yesterday and I am in shambles. The ugly reality is I do not feel happy for her at all. Hopefully I overcome that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-926280 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 09:28:04 +0000 littleredhairedgrl 926280@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want so badly to be happy for everyone.. but the hardest to take would be those who aren't even trying -- a few months ago I poured my heart out to my best friend about everything that had been going on with our struggles and an hour later she told me that she was pregnant and wasn't even trying and was even sort of upset because it wasn't how she had planned.. I got crazy drunk after that and cried for a long while.</p> <p>I want so badly to be happy for her and to talk a lot like we used to, but I find myself becoming much more introverted through this whole process.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-925707 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 07:15:19 +0000 Dandelion 925707@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm genuinely happy for my friends and family. I don't blame them for having babies when I've lost mine. It wasn't their fault...their babies are special, too.</p> <p>The people that get to me are the terrible parents in the news and teenagers who get knocked up. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-925665 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 07:01:47 +0000 mrswin 925665@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>As some others have mentioned close family and friends will be the worst for me. We get asked on a regular basis what's taking us so long and it takes every fibre of my being not to explain to them how rude it is.... I know they have no idea what we are going through. </p> <p>I know the hardest ones will be my cousin and BFF who both got married recently and I expect to get KU soon. They both know what we are going through so I can only hope that when that time comes they are sensitive about telling me.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-925620 Fri, 12 Jul 2013 06:41:08 +0000 TheSwissWifeStyle 925620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Pretty much everyone in the entire world. That about sums it up. Am I a shitty person or what?</p> <p>It's like the irrational part of me thinks NO ONE should get pregnant before I finally get KU w/ a sticky one. </p> <p>This whole mess really eff's with your head! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-925247 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 22:39:19 +0000 jhd 925247@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Students are the hardest for me to deal with. We waited to start TTC until we felt we had a good foundation in our marriage and were financially in a good place...but that doesn't make the baby fever go away!!! It's hard to see people get pregnant who don't want kids or who have no idea the responsibility that is required to be good parents. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-924823 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 20:38:48 +0000 BSB 924823@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@AuntieEm: Yeah, easy KUs are hard, too.</p> <p>Oops KUs can be hard depending on the person. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/whose-pregnancy-and-ttc-announcements-are-harder-for-you#post-922685 Thu, 11 Jul 2013 13:09:15 +0000 Mrs.Someone 922685@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'll jump on this thread-jacking train!</p> <p>@AuntieEm: @LizSmith: Ugh, I'm totally feeling these issues too! When we were on month 8 or so of trying I was hanging out with a few ladies and 2 of them said they cried when they got pregnant because it happened so quickly and they weren't ready! I was ready to smack them, but I bit my tongue. If it was a month later (after my first m/c) it wouldn't have ended well..</p> <p>I have a few family members that ask me too often about kids/getting pregnant. I usually tell them not to ask me about it if its direct. Depending on who it is I sometimes get angry with them. One of my aunts mentions something often and doesn't remember that it upsets me because she has Alzheimer's.</p> <p>Some of my favorite cousins are in town this weekend and I'm considering not going to see them (and other family) because I'm afraid of how I would react if someone says something :( One of them told me a few years ago that she had a dream about me being pregnant (before we were trying, luckily). </p>