https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 15 May 2026 16:07:15 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220668 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 04:43:54 +0000 BandDmommy 2220668@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thanks for everyone's response. I am really coming to peace with the idea that our family is complete with 2 kids. There are so many reasons to be done at 2. I think I'm ready to move on with my life and be done with the baby phase. :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220653 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 01:00:03 +0000 PrincessBaby 2220653@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just feel like 2 is wild enough, and 3 would take things to a level that I can't handle given our current life/jobs. 3 is just too messy. 2 is bananas but it's possible to keep life neat.</p> <p>Plus, being pregnant is the last thing I ever have a desire to do again. I just CAN'T. </p> <p>And I'm ready to look forward. After LO1, I knew we still had at least one more coming down the pipes and we kind of put life on hold while we grew our family. Now that I know we're done, it's nice to look forward to things as the girls get older. Buying a boat. Installing a pool...Things that we've hesitated doing because of knowing that we're going to have another baby or they will be super small for a long time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220645 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 00:42:49 +0000 erinpye 2220645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We just always wanted 2, and our family feels complete. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220642 Sun, 28 Jun 2015 00:13:14 +0000 FannyMae 2220642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 kids fighting over my will when I'm dead instead of 3? I dunno, im still preg with no 2, not sure if 3 will ever be on the cards for me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220638 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 23:36:20 +0000 lamariniere 2220638@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always just wanted 2. Now that we have left babyhood behind, I can't even fathom going through it all over again. I'm excited to watch my two grow and learn and I don't want to have to start at zero, so to speak, with another one. Also, logistically, 2 just seems so much more manageable/affordable than 3 when you travel and go places. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220621 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 22:36:55 +0000 Mrs. High Heels 2220621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We always knew we wanted two no matter what, but we wavered on a third. The biggest factor for us is the lack of time and energy. I can't imagine doing drop-offs, pick-ups, and taking into consideration the time carved out needed for activities while having both parents work full-time. I also don't want to go through pregnancy again and the thought of being pregnant while managing two others running around sounds really hard. I just feel like we'd be stretched too thin in a multitude of ways.</p> <p>We have balance with two kids - they are great together as playmates and will (hopefully) always have each other so they have at least one other person who understands our family dynamics, our marriage is strong, and we feel like a team. When I see newborns I don't get that feeling of longing or desire, I just feel relief that we're past that stage.... </p> <p>I don't agree with the sentiment that "you will never regret having another, but you may one day regret the one you didn't have". Nobody on the other side of this is going to talk about their regret bc it's almost taboo to say you regret having a kid. But I did by chance talk to someone who regretted their third, saying that their first two were best buddies, and then the third came along... and suddenly their first was the odd one out. :( With more kids can come more fun and rambunctiousness, but it can also add complexity to relationships with the fighting, drama, and bickering. I already hate hearing my kids fight, I think I'd go bananas hearing it x3. Ultimately though, we just feel complete as a family of four. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220603 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 22:01:55 +0000 mrsjyw 2220603@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm def feeling two and through right now. It makes sense logistically! Everything seems easier for a family of four. I also do not love pregnancy and am not sure I can go through it again. Dh and I love traveling and it'd be much easier to do both w and wo kids if we stop at two! We've always planned on 3-4 financially, but it's the emotional and logistics that is making it a two and through decision for me right now! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220509 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 19:08:06 +0000 simplyfelicity 2220509@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>For us, it's about logistics. We both WOH and I like the idea of one parent to one child. Plus, most houses around here are 3 bedroom, 2 bath, family tickets always come in 4. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220506 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 19:04:47 +0000 Mrs.Pinecone316 2220506@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I just had my first a couple months ago. I always thought I wanted 3 but after dealing with infertility, not loving pregnancy and just being in the new baby days two is looking SO much better. When I see families with two kids vs. three.. two just seems so much easier to me. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220503 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 19:02:21 +0000 AngelicOne 2220503@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 just seems right to us. We want DS to have someone to play with and for support later on. He has cousins close in age but it's hard to visit often when they live in different states. We just don't want them too far apart in age so they don't get along with each other (DH &amp; BIL are 10 yrs apart so totally different stages when growing up) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220499 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:39:01 +0000 Mrs. Microscope 2220499@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am an only child, and DH is the younger of 2. I lost both my parents in my mid twenties and had no support dealing with the mess left, and I wished I had a sibling to lean on, instead of distracted aunts. I swore that we would have 2 children, not just one because I wanted my kid to have sibling support after I was gone. Having more than 2 is pretty foreign to both DH and me so it wasn't talked about. If I have twins next time, then that's the only way it would happen! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220495 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 18:26:46 +0000 woodentulip 2220495@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My head would explode if I had 3. For serious. I can barely keep myself sane as it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220480 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:52:30 +0000 Anya 2220480@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kids don't outnumber the parents, everyone has a buddy. Built in golf foursome. :wink: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220479 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:51:32 +0000 Foodnerd81 2220479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2 feels right to us (although the second is still cooking). We definitely wanted our kids to have a sibling, so we knew only one wasn't for us. But more than two seems to make things a lot more complicated, just logistically. Like, most cars can fit two car seats. Trying to have three car seats in a car is a lot harder. You can sit at a regular four top at a restaurant. When you fly each parent can sit with one kid. Plus, now that I am experiencing the joys of being pregnant with a toddler, I just can't imagine doing it with two. </p> <p>I definitely see the benefits of more than two- I grew up one of five and love having such a big family, but it just isn't the right thing for us. Luckily C has cousins pretty close in age so hopefully that makes up for it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220470 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:26:55 +0000 Andrea 2220470@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Our family feels complete with two kids. They play well together and will always have each other to lean on (hopefully). I'm not interested in dealing with the logistics of adding another child. DD1 is starting kinder in the fall and does tons of activities. It's already hard enough dragging DD2 along to everything that I don't want to have to worry about bringing a third child along with me, too. I don't have any family around to help me and DH works really long hours/travels so those are influencers as well. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220465 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 17:04:41 +0000 MrsH 2220465@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>With two they have each other if something happens to DH and I. Man to man defense is so much easier than zone defense. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220463 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 16:58:04 +0000 BandDmommy 2220463@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@lemondrop: funny enough I want to downsize if we go with two kids.. Current house over 4000 sq feet </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220462 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 16:57:54 +0000 skipra 2220462@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I am really starting to think about this too. I was sure I wanted 3 but now I'm starting to think we may be done. My older boy has always been very independent but my younger one is a real mama's boy and gets very jealous even when I'm holding or paying attention to his big brother. I can't say that he would be better off having another sibling vs staying the baby. I think I would be too old if I waited until he was ready. The other reason I think we might be done at 2 is three boys is crazy! I don't know if I could handle that! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220461 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 16:57:53 +0000 Mrs. Bee 2220461@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>i wanted two so they could keep each other company and have each other after we're gone. i didn't want 3 because it seems so much harder financial/time/logistics-wise! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220455 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 16:47:13 +0000 lemondrop 2220455@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Similar reasoning, pregnancy sucks, I don't do well with it- we've always planned on 3, but are seriously reconsidering. Not sure how I could chase around these two while pregnant again. I feel so outnumbered by them right now, it's going to be at least another year before we re-visit the idea of a third. We would also need to upgrade to a bigger house and a bigger car for a third kid. Another reason for waiting another year or so is we plan to pay for undergrad and don't want more than two in college at one time. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220452 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 16:38:11 +0000 Jess1483 2220452@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Interesting! Following. I'm starting to think DH might be right, and 2 might be our number, too (but don't tell him that.) I'm in newborn haze, so we won't make any rash decisions... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-2-kids#post-2220448 Sat, 27 Jun 2015 16:21:01 +0000 BandDmommy 2220448@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you decided on 2 kids, why? </p> <p>Originally we wanted 3 but I'm starting to think we should be done at 2. Our family is so perfect right now and pregnancy is very hard on my body. </p>