https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Apr 2026 14:01:39 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-884628 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 22:19:09 +0000 bisous 884628@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't always have a strong urge to have children, but once i settled down with DH there was no question about it. I knew he would be a great dad. We are both close with our families and were so excited to start our own. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-884384 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 20:15:03 +0000 Lindsay05 884384@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want kids because of all the things I enjoyed as a child. I loved playing with friends, being on sports teams, family get togethers etc. i want to give that same joy to my own child and get the joy of being the parent. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-884357 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 20:04:49 +0000 artsyfartsy 884357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've dreamed of being a mom my whole life. I feel like its something I'm meant to do. </p> <p>I'm excited to see DH become a father and completing our family. It's been enjoyable just me, DH, and our dog...but I'm looking forward to playing with the kids in the yard, sending them off to school, raising them...etc.<br /> For me personally, that's what I want in my family. I don't see a problem with people not wanting kids, but that's not my plan! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-884322 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 19:48:34 +0000 sarac 884322@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>My answer is that I was always meant to have children. I always knew that I could not go through my life without being a mother. It was my destiny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-884279 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 19:33:22 +0000 Mrs. Pen 884279@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Okay, what I was trying to type earlier.</p> <p>To be 100% perfectly completely honest I only got pregnant because DH wanted a child. I had no desire for one whatsoever, at that time and perhaps at all. I hate to say DH pressured me, but strongly influenced my decision. I had wanted to finish school and have a career. </p> <p>Now that I have J, I obviously adore him and love him with everything I am. And since I made it past the hardest hurdle of just one, I will have 1-2 more (my own decision). I think it was too scary thinking of having a little human to be solely responsible for. So many difficult decisions, so much potential hurt, responsibility and accountability. I wanted to keep my freedom and money quite honestly.</p> <p>Although I'm happy with my son and love him to bits... I do still think and dream about what I gave up to have a family. It's bittersweet, really. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-884130 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 18:12:08 +0000 Mrs. Pen 884130@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Gah! Just types something long and my post was deleted! Will post later :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-884059 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 17:39:44 +0000 deerylou 884059@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted to create a family with my husband. To me, it didn't matter how our children came to be (biological, adoption, fostering), we just want to care and nurture children together, as a couple. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-884018 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 17:20:03 +0000 deactivated_account 884018@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want kids because I love family!! Friends can come and go. Your family is your family forever. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-883752 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 15:44:26 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 883752@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Very selfishly I want to be a mom AND I want something tangibke and unique to only DH and myself. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-883717 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 15:39:04 +0000 Dandelion 883717@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Kids are fun, that's why! Forget the baby part...that's not as fun, and I think that's why most childfree people choose to be that way. It's fine for them, but a lot of people dont' think past the baby stage...</p> <p>I get to draw on the sidewalk, go to the kids museum, do fun crafts, play games, build with legos and it's totally ok, cause I have a 5 year old doing it all with me, lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-883674 Tue, 25 Jun 2013 15:31:02 +0000 MrsMed 883674@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have to say while the questioners may have been smug, I think this is a fair question among close friends. I've often thought about this -- I'm clear on why I want kids now, but I wasn't always. And I have been curious enough to ask my DH and my friends why or why not they want to have kids. I think it's a great conversation to have. I feel like these kind of discussions sometimes dissolve into us vs. them when they really should just be -- "we have different ideas, let's talk about why we think the way we do." </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-752216 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 10:37:51 +0000 hellocupcake 752216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think life itself is such an amazingly beautiful experience, I couldn't wait to share it with a family of my own. I think our life (husband and I) would feel lacking if we didn't have at least one little baby (: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-752173 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 10:25:48 +0000 Bookish 752173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Pirouette: @skibobrown: Same as you two. I didn't know for a long time if I wanted kids or not! Buuuut, meeting DH and seeing him interact with kids basically melted me into a puddle of baby-craving goo :p </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-752172 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 10:25:44 +0000 mrs. wagon 752172@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've pondered this a few times now that I know a few couples who don't intend on having kids. Some people are just meant to not have any children.</p> <p>I guess I'd explain it to them that it's a choice just like their choice not to have kids. Or anyone's choice to get a dog. Or a cat. Or a motorcycle. Anyone else who likes that certain thing can understand someone's reasons for getting it. But anyone who doesn't like it wouldn't understand. So if they don't like kids, I don't expect them to understand that I want kids because I like kids. </p> <p>I think I would also explain that as I get old, I want Wagon Sr. and I to be caring for our children and launching them out into the world to do amazing things. </p> <p>Another way to explain would be to explain the opposite. I would be absolutely heartbroken if I never had any kids. Of course Wagon Sr.'s love is enough in terms of a lifelong companion, but I have always wanted and needed the love of my whole family, including my own children. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-752163 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 10:23:57 +0000 skibobrown 752163@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didn't always know I wanted kids, but at the same time, I could never picture my future life without having kids. That second sentiment finally convinced me to jump on the baby bandwagon and have one of my own. I'm glad I did! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-752144 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 10:19:51 +0000 Alivoo01 752144@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: I have a farm and could totally use some help! I mean.... LOL!!! Oh man...</p> <p>I want kids because I've always wanted kids. Likewise for the hubby. And he's so adorable with them! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-752034 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 09:43:38 +0000 Pirouette 752034@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've asked myself this question a million times, but would be completely offended if someone else asked it. I didn't always know i wanted kids, but seeing how much my husband did and how amazing he is with kids was what swayed me at first. and thinking about the effect a child would have on us and our families, how much joy it would bring was influential as well. it took a while for me to get to the point where i could really say that i wanted kids for ME though, as opposed to my husband/family. But at some point i realized all my reasons for not wanting to have kids didn't seem persuasive anymore, and i started to imagine what it would be like and get really excited about what life could hold. that and the free child labor OBVIOUSLY ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-751979 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 09:27:04 +0000 Bookish 751979@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: LOL. I should have told her I wanted to start a farm and needed cheap labor! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-751973 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 09:24:57 +0000 .twist. 751973@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Modern Daisy: lol. well NOW you have me wondering.... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-751968 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 09:24:07 +0000 Bookish 751968@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@2PeasinaPod: It came off as a bit smug, yes lol. They can't for the life of them understand why I would want to put myself through pregnancy and have a screaming kid around, which is fine, because they don't have to understand! :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-751966 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 09:23:13 +0000 JerricaBenton 751966@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's an interesting question but I would be crazy annoyed if someone asked like that...it sounds like they have an agenda and are waiting for you to have an answer that 'isn't good enough.' I just always knew I wanted a family and my husband did too. I knew it was in my life path to be a mother and for my husband to be a father.</p> <p>@Modern Daisy: LOL! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-751962 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 09:20:27 +0000 2PeasinaPod 751962@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Was your friend just generally curious about your answer or was she asking in a very smug way?</p> <p>I've always wanted children. I love the joy that they bring, and I couldn't wait to teach LO and have him teach me about the important things in life. He just brings me so much happiness, and I can't remember what life was like without him. I had a feeling that he would have that effect on me! </p> <p>I also couldn't wait to see DH as a father. It's made me fall in love with him all over again! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-751961 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 09:19:56 +0000 Modern Daisy 751961@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Umm.. because I want to have a family? What other reason is there? I don't have a farm that I need workers for or anything.. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-751947 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 09:16:12 +0000 .twist. 751947@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Hm. Good question. Although, there is definitely no "right" answer. I know for me, personally, I have wanted to be a mom since I can remember. </p> <p>My husband is an amazing father already and I wanted to share that bond with him too. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-having-kids#post-751939 Tue, 30 Apr 2013 09:13:58 +0000 Bookish 751939@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I got this question today from my child-free by choice friend. She and her husband don't want kids, and that's totally cool, and they don't understand 'why' we are having one! </p> <p>I told her that our family didn't feel complete yet, and that I knew DH would be an incredible father, and wanted to see that happen!</p> <p>When people ask you this (kinda nosy, I think) question, what do you tell them? What *are* your reasons for having/wanting kids? </p>