https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Fri, 10 Jul 2026 02:10:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-19687 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 19:40:10 +0000 MH.Abroad 19687@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We'll hide it from work and non-immediate family and friends until second trimester at least, or until I can't anymore.<br /> Why? A few reasons. Work isn't going to love it. Family and friends may have some negative comments that I'd rather avoid as long as possible (we're young - 21/22, but married and stable), and I really just like the idea of it being something private and special. Plus, a lot of people are going to ask questions that we don't care to answer - we don't plan to share the gender or name picks until after birth, and we're planning on a birth center instead of a hospital which I'm sure people will have opinions on.<br /> I just don't want to have to deal with all the negative conversations, and bask in the glory of our own, personal, happy family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-19406 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 13:13:20 +0000 Running Elley 19406@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When I get pregnant again I will hide it from work/the general public because of the fear of miscarrying. I've already had 2 MCs and I really don't want anyone other than my close family to know until it's absolutely necessary. We do plan on telling our close family pretty quickly after we get a BFP, just because I know how much we'll need their support either way. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-19363 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 12:26:40 +0000 brownie 19363@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I had to tell my direct supervisor before we got pregnant cause I needed time off for the IVF treatments. Worst idea in the world. He made my life miserable. I moved to a new group (same supervisor but new building etc) and hid it until February (he was due in April). He was very low and so I was able to wear baggy clothes for forever. I didn't want a repeat and kept hoping I would find another job. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-19289 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 10:45:18 +0000 Mrsbells 19289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I didnt tell my manager til I was 18 weeks. I didnt really hide it but they never noticed either since my bump is teeny. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-19236 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 09:56:57 +0000 LivsMama 19236@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I hit it for about 5 months. I work in a male-dominated industry., and the last thing I wanted was special treatment or them thinking that I couldnt adequately perform my job duties while pregnant. I waited as long as I could to show them that my level of work hadnt been impacted and that I was still in heels lol (up until the day Liv was born!) I did tell my boss and a senior manager just so they knew why I was at the doctor so frequently, but thats it </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-19160 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 08:10:14 +0000 Andrea 19160@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>How long are you planning on hiding it? I agree with what @Looch said about the clients. I told my boss and closest co-workers at around 12-13 weeks but didn't make a big deal out of it to the rest of the company. I got a lot of rude comments because of that because those other people didn't understand why I didn't tell them make some big announcement. But I wasn't close to them anyway. You can never win sometimes. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-19134 Mon, 21 Nov 2011 03:02:02 +0000 looch 19134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I can certainly understand your reasons for hiding a pregnancy, @ameliabedelia, especially the one with clients. I'd just think about it the other way, that clients might actually be appreciative if you told them and came up with a plan on who would take over your accounts while you are on maternity leave. I think clients would respond well to it, pregnancy is a fact of life. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-18914 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 18:50:48 +0000 T.H.O.U. 18914@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We feared m/c as well. I didn't see any reason work needed to know during the first trimester. And honestly it was a fun little secret for us to keep between us! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-18913 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 18:50:31 +0000 junebugmama 18913@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have already had 2 miscarriages so not telling is more out of fear of another loss. I am also a wedding planner and don't want to alarm clients. However, I'm due in the middle of June, so I know I am going to lose some that may not want my assistant instead of me on the day of the wedding. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-18912 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 18:40:47 +0000 mrsjyw 18912@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Like PPs, we plan on keeping mum until the 12 week or 1st trimester mark for fear of M/C. My work is a pretty close knit team so I'll probably let them know around the same time we tell friends and extended family. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-18911 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 18:38:41 +0000 winniebee 18911@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I really just hid it until 12 weeks for fear of miscarrying. I thought I would wait to tell work until I was 14-16 weeks, but I ended up telling them around 12 weeks because I just couldn't deal with keeping the secret anymore! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-18846 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 13:01:12 +0000 skibobrown 18846@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I'm 20 weeks, so for the most part my pregnancy is out in the open at this point. But I'm still not that big, so I am still able to hide it when convenient. I have a job interview in a couple of weeks, and I'm seriously thinking of hiding my pregnancy for the interview if I think I can still get away with it. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-18825 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 12:15:02 +0000 heffalump 18825@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Just out of curiosity, what kind of rude comments are you afraid of?</p> <p>I hid mine until 12 weeks just for fear of miscarrying. I didn't want to deal with having to tell people and making it a public grieving session. And then I did miscarry once so I was very glad for that decision. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-are-you-hiding-your-pregnancy#post-18812 Sun, 20 Nov 2011 11:36:49 +0000 AmeliaBedilia 18812@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>If you are trying to hide your pregnancy, why and how long?</p> <p>I am interested in hiding it for a few reasons:<br /> 1. work issues- I work with clients, some of whom I might lose if they don't think I will be around enough<br /> 2. High risk pregnancy, so if I miscarry I don't want to explain to a lot of people<br /> 3. to avoid rude comments </p>