https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 27 Apr 2026 09:12:55 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2257262 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 20:08:42 +0000 ms.line 2257262@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We're tentatively one and done, but would like a 3-4 year age gap if we decide to go for a second. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2257261 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 20:05:56 +0000 sapphire 2257261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want sibs to be close, to not have an AMA pregnancy, and to get the infant years done all at once -we hope for 2-2.5 year spacing. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2257222 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 19:47:52 +0000 Smurfette 2257222@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: don't let age scare you. I have a friend that had one at 42 and another 40. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2257201 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 19:37:44 +0000 BandDmommy 2257201@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Smurfette: D is sleeping through the night and B is starting preschool so makes me think I'll regret having a 3rd. Just not now. I was hesitant because my Ob scared the hell out of me on maternal age and risks. But my old boss is pregnant with twins at 40. If she can do that, I can have a baby at 37. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256920 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 16:03:05 +0000 snowjewelz 2256920@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: Sorry I just didn't know what to say but to send you some love! I def can relate to the never ending cycle of work/taking care of LO/being tired, etc! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256919 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 16:02:07 +0000 DillonLion 2256919@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One and done! So our gap is indefinite :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256915 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 15:58:31 +0000 ElbieKay 2256915@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: thanks! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256616 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 13:08:11 +0000 shellio 2256616@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted preference, we wanted our kids close together. They are 22 mos apart and we would have started trying sooner except that I had an exam to take for work that was offered once a year and I had to travel for it - BFP on our first try with the second and I flew out there at 35 weeks (and passed! yay!). For the third we wanted closer age gap but tried 3-4 mos before the BFP, this one will once again be 22 mos after the second.</p> <p>ETA: Both DH and I are now in our late 30's so that has contributed to our desire to have kids close together. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256583 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:49:50 +0000 daniellemybelle 2256583@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I chose "Other." At first it was because I just had no real desire for another. We considered being one and done until the past few months, really. When people ask, I do joke: "I want to STTN 365 consecutive nights before we have another baby. Every time she wakes up the clock restarts."</p> <p>Now I am SAH with her and want to enjoy about a year of just her &amp; I. I'd like her to be in preschool before we have another one. Annnnd now I am planning a trip to Europe in the spring so we will likely TTC right after that! If we get pregnant right away we'll end up with a 3.5 year age gap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256579 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:48:21 +0000 dolphin 2256579@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>2.5 age gap. Its always been my ideal age gap...not too close and not too far apart. I wanted to focus the first year I just DD before trying again. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256565 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:43:32 +0000 illumina 2256565@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I SAH and whilst we originally planned to have 2 under 2, I just was not ready to start trying at that point. Realistically we are looking at more like a 2.5-3yr age gap. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256563 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:43:30 +0000 sslm 2256563@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted other. Life got in the way. Originally we wanted to TTC when M was 10-12 months, but then I got a job offer that moved us back to my hometown. DH started a new job too, and neither of us felt comfortable TTC until we had been there for a while. So 2 under 2 went out the window pretty fast. </p> <p>We started TTC when M was 18 months, so I thought, awesome, 2.5 years sounds good. Then it took a while to get pregnant, and when I did, I miscarried.</p> <p>Now we'll be lucky to get a 3.5-4 year gap. </p> <p>It's difficult for me to accept how far off track we have gotten. Best laid plans I guess. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256534 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 12:28:54 +0000 skipra 2256534@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted age because it was the main factor that we stopped preventing so early. It took a year to conceive the first time around and we knew that if we had one we wanted at least two. We figured if it happened quickly then we would maybe have time to consider a third. The fact that I extended my maternity leave and got laid off was another major factor though. At the time we were NTNP and I was about to start a job search with the understanding that if I got a job before getting pregnant we would wait until I had been working at least a few months. Now we are considering our third but I want to wait a few more months before even thinking about it. We would wait longer but I have an age cut off for me where I would not be comfortable having another baby and it is fast approaching. So overall, age is the biggest factor for us. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256479 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 11:44:55 +0000 Mrs. Champagne 2256479@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I wanted our next baby born next year between feb and April. We got pregnant and I was due in Feb but I miscarried. DS turns two in March. I just want them close together. And we want 3-4 so I don't want to wait long between babies. Hopefully I get pregnant again soon and stay pregnant. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256477 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 11:42:26 +0000 elephantor 2256477@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Being pregnant really hurt my career, I'm in a relatively not mother-friendly industry. So we are planning a big gap, as in 4-5 years or more, to allow it to bounce back before I take a similar hit (which will hopefully be mitigated by gains I've made in the meantime). </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256374 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 10:15:47 +0000 snowjewelz 2256374@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: totally true.. I keep saying I need to STTN for a while before trying for #2... </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256353 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 10:07:06 +0000 Smurfette 2256353@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@BandDmommy: I thought that y'all decided you were done with 2?</p> <p>We are waiting till early summer to TTC. Makes more sense with timing and finances. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256307 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 09:38:19 +0000 Adira 2256307@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@snowjewelz: haha, maybe! I started trying around 9 months because that's when AF returned. I got pregnant when Xander was 13 months though, so it all depends on how quickly you get pregnant. Xander was also sleeping 9+ hours at night at the time, so it was a lot easier for me to be on board with baby #2 at that time than it might be for others. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256300 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 09:34:23 +0000 snowjewelz 2256300@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Adira: this is crazy, to think that if I'd want that age gap we gotta try next month! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256296 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 09:32:31 +0000 snowjewelz 2256296@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@ElbieKay: :heart: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256289 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 09:30:31 +0000 NorthStar 2256289@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@travellingbee: Yes, this - I wish we could pick, but now we will be two years past what I really wanted. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256254 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 09:10:32 +0000 getjazzy 2256254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We wanted approx 2 years between them because that's the gap between us and our siblings so it felt right. We thought it would help them be closer, and for us would be easier because you don't totally get out of the swing of things in between. We started trying at the beginning of when that gap would be and got pregnant right away so LO1 turned 2 in June and I'm 3 days overdue with #2 so they will be almost exactly 2 years apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256241 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 09:02:39 +0000 BlueWolverine 2256241@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeah, I didn't have a choice either. I wanted about two years, but after a year of trying and a diagnosis of DOR, we're on an IUI cycle. If it works, they'll be a little over 3 years apart. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning/page/2#post-2256230 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 08:56:52 +0000 2PeasinaPod 2256230@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted other since we also didn't have a choice in the matter. Had any of my 4 miscarriages worked out, we would have had a child that was about a year and a half older than LO, and then 2 under 2. God had other plans for us, and so our boys will be 3 years apart almost to the day. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning#post-2256225 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 08:52:33 +0000 LilSprinkles 2256225@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want a larger gap (4 years or so). I'm so content with the way life is right now that I don't want to change I just yet. But, if we decide to have a 3rd one, 2 and 3 would be closer (2-3 years apart) due to my age by then. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning#post-2256216 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 08:42:01 +0000 MoreCoffee 2256216@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I voted "other" because we didn't really get to choose! In an ideal situation I would have preferred them closer in age, but illnesses, work travel, age, and a loss changed those plans. I'm almost 7 wks now and if this one sticks they'll be almost 3.5 years apart, which sounds wonderful. :happy: </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning#post-2256176 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 08:11:28 +0000 NovBaby1112 2256176@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Preference and readiness. I couldn't handle 2 Kids close in age and preferred a 2.5-3 year gap. I wanted LO1 to get lots of mommy time before adding a new baby, for her to be more independent, and for us to be ready as a couple. We are going to have an almost 3 year gap and I am thrilled with that. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning#post-2256173 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 08:08:39 +0000 jetsa 2256173@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I also wanted to vote for two. We knew if we had 2 I'd be pregnant before LO1 was 15-16 months so we wanted them close together and after 18 months of infertility with LO1 we weren't willing to plan this one and were a-ok with just 1 child so LO2 was a surprise (well as much of a surprise as it can be when you're NTNP :silly: ) I'm 29 and we have 3 month and 23 month children </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning#post-2256167 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 08:01:02 +0000 Mrs. Sunshine 2256167@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Lots of reasons! In theory, I kind of always wanted a 2 to 3 year gap but when LO was around 11 months, the baby fever hit hard so we decided to NTNP and see what happens. We were extremely surprised when it happened right away. But i SAHM and would like to go back to school when the girls start school and that factors in a lot to whether or not we have a 3rd. We have a 19 month gap and I like it a lot more than I expected. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-did-you-pick-the-gap-you-have-or-are-planning#post-2256157 Thu, 06 Aug 2015 07:41:25 +0000 BandDmommy 2256157@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were aiming for 2 years and it ended up being 2.5 years. We will aim for 2 year age gap again.. I have 0 desire for 2 under 2 since I just started working again and loving it!!! </p>