https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Wed, 29 Apr 2026 21:41:13 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-711261 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 11:17:14 +0000 Mrs. Lovejoy 711261@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Oh lord, the comments these coworkers of mine have. I get at least 3 - 5 comments a day ranging from "you don't look pregnant from behind!" (which I'll take as a compliment) to "You look huge! Oh my god, is that twins?!" to "your feet look swollen". I've also had people ask me if I planned my pregnancy around our busy season, telling me my husband "had good aim" (omg, seriously?!) and that they expect me to work on maternity leave. No boundaries.... work people just don't have boundaries. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-711259 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 11:17:00 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 711259@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes! One guy asked me why I was getting married. Mind you he is married and takes lots of vacated with his wife. I joked with him and said I want you have a travel companion. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-711254 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 11:15:22 +0000 pui 711254@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>These comments always make me facepalm. Like seriously, before you say something ask yourself "Would I like to hear this if it were me?"... if the answer is no, please keep your mouth closed lol. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-711251 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 11:14:25 +0000 Chillybear 711251@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>When i told one coworker i would need her cooperation to meet the goals i had set with my manager before my maternity leave, I got no "congrats!", no "how are you feeling?", instead i got "oh was this planned?" how rude! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710955 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 10:02:31 +0000 Alivoo01 710955@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yup! Just now! Work catered in some bagels for breakfast today, one lady asked when I was due while another goes, "Oh! I wasn't sure if you were expecting or just gaining weight..." Thanks! =\ </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710802 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:31:07 +0000 Happygal 710802@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I think who feel like they can say anything are usually ones who get away with it all the time!</p> <p>I watched a girl I know call someone out in a very matter-of-fact way. "That wasn't nice." That's all she said, without any judgement or real emotion. I was so impressed. The rude person was sputtering. Try that out! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710785 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:27:38 +0000 regberadaisy 710785@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarbear: ohmygodddd. I would want to bitch slap her. Want me to key her car for you?? </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710762 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:22:55 +0000 Bookish 710762@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yeesh. Yeah, I feel ya, my co-workers were absolutely terrible the first trimester or so, but I bit a couple people's heads off and never brought up the pregnancy on my own, so luckily they got the hint. I swear, sometimes I really wonder what is happening between people's brains and their mouths!! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710759 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:20:53 +0000 heartonastring 710759@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes, my coworkers were the worst offenders. Thankfully I'm on mat leave now so don't have to deal with it anymore. </p> <p>There were two in particular who felt they could say anything, including one who made a "joke" about the horrific acne I had in the first and second tris, prompting me to burst into tears in the middle of the office. </p> <p>I finally snapped at both of them and said something like, "Yeah, I'm getting bigger because I'M GROWING A HUMAN BEING!" After they saw how angry I was their comments pretty much stopped entirely.</p> <p>Sorry that you're dealing with this as well. People think that pregnant women are part of the public domain...so incredibly irritating. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710733 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:08:56 +0000 Foodnerd81 710733@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Thankfully, very few weird comments. One man, who is the kind of awkward comments, told me I was carrying very 'compact'. I was like... um, OK pretty sure that was meant as a compliment, so I'm going to take it that way and move on. This is the same man that once asked me about my rent and how I could afford to live in the neighborhood I lived in (he's way higher up than me. He knows what people of my level make. Awkward). </p> <p>Otherwise, there have been lots of comments like, you look so great, you glow, etc. Also, I work with a lot of women who have had babies, so they know what is nice to hear :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710722 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:07:08 +0000 plantains 710722@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, I can't believe people feel comfortable calling you wide! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710714 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:05:31 +0000 GrapeCrush 710714@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>all i can say, is thankfully i only see them 2 days a week! and i'm counting down till i'm done....3 1/2 months! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710684 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 09:00:16 +0000 T.H.O.U. 710684@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Wow, those comments are really out of line! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710634 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 08:50:13 +0000 avivoca 710634@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Yes. It's maddening. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710621 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 08:47:25 +0000 MsLipGloss 710621@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@sarbear: Because *pregnancy brain* affects anyone within a ten-foot radius of you . . . sorry hon! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710620 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 08:46:26 +0000 Dandelion 710620@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha...people are so rude. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710618 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 08:46:18 +0000 sslm 710618@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Ugh, that's so annoying!!</p> <p>I am on mat leave now, but DH had a coworker ask him if I was dilated at all. I find it odd that people are asking him about my vagina but whatever... lol </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710608 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 08:44:31 +0000 chopsuey 710608@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Haha. I got HUGE with my first, but my coworkers didn't say anything.<br /> I know they were probably thinking all sorts of things though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-co-workers-feel-they-can-say-anything#post-710600 Fri, 12 Apr 2013 08:42:02 +0000 GrapeCrush 710600@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>yesterday we had a meeting at work and a girl that hasn't seen me in a couple weeks(i work from home 3 days a week) said 'wow, you've really popped'. ok, not so bad, i don't mind, because i know i have. then another co-worker said 'yeah, you're just so....wide, this time'! what!?!?!? thank you, thank you for reminding me that i'm bigger this time.</p> <p>another coworker said 'girl, i told you, you were bigger than last time!' when i told her i was expecting a girl this time. (i had a boy the first time)</p> <p>do your coworkers feel they can say anything to you? </p>