https://boards.hellobee.com/ Pregnancy, Baby and Parenting blog, by Hellobee en Mon, 20 Apr 2026 17:38:11 +0000 https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1900193 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 08:59:03 +0000 Bubbles 1900193@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Both DH and I want what we grew up with - 4 for me, 3 for him. I have 3 sisters and loved having a larger family, and my mum never seemed overwhelmed by having 4 kids - so to me it kind of felt like the norm. </p> <p>DH isn't sold on 4 (partly because of the sort of car you'd have to go for to get 4 kids in!), and I imagine what we will end up doing is just taking it as it comes and seeing what feels right. I always thought I wanted less than 2 years between kids - but DS is nearly 10 months and I am so not ready to TTC again just yet. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1900139 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 08:39:33 +0000 looch 1900139@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I never had distinct ideas of what my ideal family size was, but I can say that I am happily done at one. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1900127 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 08:35:30 +0000 rrachael 1900127@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>In a perfect world we want four. My reasons are similar to others ... I grew up with lots of cousins and love large family gatherings. Four isn't huge, but it's not quiet either! :) I was also the middle of three and hated it for a while growing up .... But now I love where I am in my family and if we ended up having three I would just be careful not to make my middle child feel like a middle child :) DH wants four because he loves kids and wants to have a full house, too :) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1900122 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 08:33:19 +0000 Lindsay05 1900122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have one sibling who never ever comes to visit my parents. He hasn't even met his nieces yet. My parents ALWAYS complain to me about why he doesn't visit and I hate hearing about it. Holidays are always me trying to visit my parents so they are not alone. I have all the pressure of always being there for my parents (which of course I would be anyways). So for this reason, I want more than 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1900089 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 08:15:54 +0000 mrsjyw 1900089@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We were a 2, maybe 3 family. DH is an only and would have as many as I could deliver! :P (Obviously parenthood brought him down some). I always wanted 3 growing up because my brother and I always wanted another sibling. While the idea of 4 is nice in theory, I'm not sure if I could handle it in all aspects. </p> <p>After experiencing a CP last month, we are definitely in the 3 camp. Right now, we're financially and emotionally prepared/planned for 3 kids. Best laid plans though right? We're just praying for a healthy, sticky bfp#2 first! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1900025 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 07:36:55 +0000 Mrs. Lemon-Lime 1900025@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>One child. I'm getting older and don't want older teens/ young adults to raise/ support during my retirement years. I have a so-so relationship with my sibling and hope to avoid the rivalry stress in my household. I don't want to make that many sacrifices.</p> <p>My husband wants 2-3 though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1899933 Tue, 14 Oct 2014 00:37:55 +0000 erinpye 1899933@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I loved it being just my sister and me growing up, and wanted the same. 2 arms, 2 babies! Haha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1899422 Mon, 13 Oct 2014 13:57:16 +0000 plantains 1899422@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I come from a family of 3, but my mum is one of 7 and my dad is one of 12! I love the huge family dynamic at get-togethers etc, but I don't want that chaos is my daily life. I used to think I wanted 3, but I have since realized that only very rich people have 3 children in NYC, so we will stop at 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1899395 Mon, 13 Oct 2014 13:37:21 +0000 LuLu Mom 1899395@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I want two, DH wants 3, I think I will win as it makes more sense for us to stop at 2, but it will greatly depend on if we have 2 girls or one of each, I know he really wants a son. But I don't think that is enough of a reason to have a 3rd child. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1899134 Mon, 13 Oct 2014 11:19:42 +0000 Rainbow Sprinkles 1899134@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I came from a family with 5 kids and I love huge families. I love the chaos and laughter and love that comes with a big, tight knit family. DH comes from a family of 3 kids, and feels similarly. We are planning on 3, but would have 4 if we are in the right financial spot.</p> <p>My sisters are my rocks. I can't imagine not having my two brothers and my two sisters. I really want to provide that sort of feeling for my kids. I love always having someone to call. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1899122 Mon, 13 Oct 2014 11:11:01 +0000 BSB 1899122@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We both want 2-3 kids. I grew up with 3 other siblings and DH only had one and it was his brother (no sisters). </p> <p>If we are blessed with twins on our upcoming IVF cycle, then we will most likely be done. Though we would like one of each, so we would be open to trying for our 3rd then. Though, money is the other issue if we have to do another transfer. </p> <p>We certainly want at least two kids, though. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1899119 Mon, 13 Oct 2014 11:10:35 +0000 Mrs. Pickle 1899119@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I love having siblings so I have always wanted more than one. I feel like infertility has taken the choice away from me though. We've put in a lot of time and money to have a child and I don't know of I want to go through it all again. We may end up one and done. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1899112 Mon, 13 Oct 2014 11:07:45 +0000 Boheme 1899112@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>It's important to me to give my children equal time, attention, and opportunities, and provide all of the above adequately. For that reason we will be done at 2, if we even have a second. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1899107 Mon, 13 Oct 2014 11:04:23 +0000 AmandaB8 1899107@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I both have 2 siblings. I hate it. I feel like one person is always left out (we each have 2 of one gender, 1 of the other). </p> <p>DH wants 3 kids because they can all fit in a hotel room. I want 4, so they can pair up and no one is left out. It will definitely depend on finances, and right now we're looking at having 2, waiting a few extra years (like 4), and then having 1 or 2 more. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898969 Mon, 13 Oct 2014 09:45:48 +0000 lilteacherbee 1898969@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I grew up with one sister and we're very close, so I've always wanted at least 2 kids. DH is an only child and though it worked well for his personality, he's always wanted more than one for himself. We have agreed on 3. I've just always pictured my family with 3 kids, especially as they get older, since kids don't stay little for long. I'd have more, but 3 is our limit financially and I'd like to be able to give all my children enough time and attention. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898900 Mon, 13 Oct 2014 09:15:01 +0000 Mrs.KMM 1898900@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH grew up in a house with 2 kids and I grew up in a family with 3 kids. DH wants 2-3 kids and I want 3-4 kids. Basically we both feel like what we grew up with worked but we both love families and big family get-togethers. I have a feeling we'll end up with 3. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898820 Mon, 13 Oct 2014 08:29:24 +0000 snowjewelz 1898820@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I have 1 sibling and DH has 2; so we just settled on 2. I could possibly do 3 depending but we both agree we'd be happy with 2! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898652 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 23:59:47 +0000 Mrs. Chocolate 1898652@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>Im an only child and grew up lonely and wanting a house full of kids to make up for what I felt I missed out on as a child. When I met DH I said I wanted 9 kids. After some time I scaled ot down to reasonable 5 lol DH has always wanted 2-3. He has one sister and an adopted brother who came to their lives later in life. For a long time he really only wanted 2 kids but he also respected how I felt about my childhood as well as when my father died how hard that was for me to deal with alone that he eventually compromised and said we could have 3 but that was his limit. Truthfully if I was younger and could convince DH Id love 4 but I know this is his comfort level and I respect it too. I also value me time and sleep so I realize 3 is probably the limits of my abilities and sanity. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898645 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 23:16:59 +0000 lady grey 1898645@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Skadi: fascinating! I've never heard of the Quiverfull movement. I'd like to have lots of kids but sadly got a later start with this, so will probably only have 2 or maybe 3. Also I am pretty much obsessed with 19 Kids and Counting, ha! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898642 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 23:13:43 +0000 HLK208 1898642@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I knew I wanted a big family and to provide my children with siblings--but I also wanted to give enough time and attention to each. I'm the youngest of 4 and I always thought my parents should have stopped at 3 lol. Both my parents had to work a lot once they had me and none of my sisters and I really got the time with them that we needed (not that they needed to SAH but my dad worked days and my mom worked nights so we really never saw them much). DH has 1 sibling and 3 half siblings--he just wanted two children for a long time, since he was closest to fully biological sibling. He came around to having a third eventually. We feel like our family is complete with 3 now. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898639 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 23:01:23 +0000 JennyD 1898639@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH and I both wished we were the only child, growing up. As adults, we're not especially close to any of our siblings. We're both pretty independent and ambitious and in a lot of ways, selfish. Neither of us particularly enjoys noise or chaos, but we both wanted a child. So one it is. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898414 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 16:18:24 +0000 Mrs. Pen 1898414@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Skadi: I came from a family of six kids! It's not what I'm choosing for myself but I did love growing up with having a ton of siblings! My family remains pretty close as well. And we were all homeschooled lol. My mom was having children for 20 years haha. </p> <p>I'm still not sure what I want! I'm happy with one for now, but my heart is open. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898383 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 14:34:44 +0000 stargal 1898383@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>@Skadi: I love ypur reasoning! Would love to hear more on your experience with the quiverfull movement and how they handle a large amount of kids.</p> <p>We just. Always wanted a large family, i like the chaos of it all ;) </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898378 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 14:25:45 +0000 youboots 1898378@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>#1 is coming in March. M and I are open to 1-3, we are just going to make the decisions as we need to. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898377 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 14:23:08 +0000 Skadi 1898377@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>We talked about having three or four for a long time. DH is one of two kids, I'm one of three. But then we became friends with a couple people in the Quiverfull movement. They have tons of kids, and my preconceptions of what life would be like with 5+ kids were blown out of the water.</p> <p>I'm not saying it's all roses and sunshine--but from our close observation of these families, it's not as insurmountable as you might think. It made us realize that we both secretly wanted a larger family, but had been too scared (or too conformist) to say so. So we admitted to ourselves that we wanted six kids...but I mean, who does that? Certainly not atheists like us.</p> <p>So, we will be a little poorer for having six kids instead of three. We won't be paying for their college (though I oppose that in any case). We'll be buying stock in bunk beds. If we're lucky enough to have the six kids we want, it will probably be another eleven years before I'm done having kids. We will be homeschooling all those little brats, on top of it all.</p> <p>Excuse me, I have to go take a nap while I still can. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898376 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 14:22:50 +0000 anandam 1898376@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>DH is one of 2 and always felt like somebody was missing, like they needed friends and others around to fill out the time/space. I'm one of 3 and that felt good. But my Dad is one of 4 and my mom one of 5 and I always loved those big family gatherings with loud dinners and loads of cousins running everywhere. So we hope to handle at least 3 with openness to just keep going if it feels possible! We just had #1 in May so, we've a ways to go! </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898362 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 13:54:24 +0000 lawbee11 1898362@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I always wanted two until I actually had one! Motherhood has been quite an adjustment for me, which I wasn't expecting. My LO is my world, but I enjoy working and I NEED time for myself. I'm already spread thin as it is. My LO has half-siblings, but they live out of state so I'm not sure how their relationships will progress. As much as I'd love to give her a full sibling, I think having a mom who has the time, energy, and patience for her is more important. I already feel like I don't see her enough...I'd hate to cut that time in half. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898358 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 13:48:52 +0000 Boogs 1898358@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I knew I always wanted an even number so my LOs would always have a companion, but even so no one would be left out. I didn't want four, so two won. DH pretty much had the same thought process. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898357 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 13:47:51 +0000 babycanuck 1898357@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I thought if I was going to have kids, I'd only have one, but after seeing my best friend, an only child, lose one of her parents, it broke my heart. I would like to have 2. </p> https://boards.hellobee.com/topic/why-do-you-want-the-family-size-that-you-want#post-1898356 Sun, 12 Oct 2014 13:45:29 +0000 tysonja 1898356@https://boards.hellobee.com/ <p>I've always wanted a medium to large family because I love love love having lots of aunts, uncles, and cousins around (as I did, growing up). I want what my grandma has! :D</p> <p>DH never really thought about kids before we met (the first time we talked about it he said, "maybe 1 kid?', -- he was just 23 at the time), but he changed his mind some time before we got married and now wants 4 at least. haha. </p> <p>we have 2 boys so far, and would love to have 2 girls next, although I know I can't expect that to necessarily happen! :) we'll see. </p>